L.M.
Hi H.,
My kids (5 year old boy, 2 1/2 year old girl) seem to be a little out of control right now too. I think it may be the summer and lack of a routine, but I'm not entirely sure. About a month ago I had a bit of a melt-down due to their behavior and really laid down the law. I got rid of all treats in the house as they seemed to be having too much junk. Mostly popsicles since it is the summer. I made a calendar/reward chart and told them that the treats are just that, a treat and in order to get one they have to earn one. Together we made the chart and wrote down the rules. For us it was 1. Stay in bed at bedtime, 2. Pick up toys, 3. Do what you are asked the first time, 4. No potty talk, 5. No fighting. They earn stars for the things they do. For the things like no fighting I will say to them "Mommy needs to take a shower. If you can be nice to each other while I do that, you can earn a star" So, it's not all day, but for a specific time period. For every 5 stars they can have a treat of their choice. Seems to be helping. If they ask for a treat when they haven't earned one, I simply tell them how many more stars they need to get one. Sometimes I will offer them a star for doing something not on the list, like "If you behave in the store, you will get a star" etc. I don't really have any advice on the potty training. My son was difficult to train and my daughter is just getting started. Good luck!!