Hi there, I am searching for my step daughters birth mother in Loveland,CO. I am helping my husband do the search because his daughter is now 13 and he thinks it is time to sit down with hiis daughter and explain what happened, the situations, who her mother is and etc. Also answer any quesrions she may have. We spoke with the birth mother over 4 years ago and lost touch and now searching again so we know she is open to the search. How do I go about finding her. All I know is her name which is J. G., she is a RN for an assistance home and lives near loveland I believe.
Any suggestions or ideas.
Just a heads up... you may be violating her privacy by posting her full and legal name on a public forum.
I agree, posting her full name is a violation of her privacy.
I'd start with google, facebook etc searchs.
I have not read all the posts, but I would find her before you and your husband speak with your daughter about her. The birth mother may not want to be found since she has not had contact for 4 years. If you do find her, make sure the birth mother is open to this as well. The last thing you want is for your daughter to feel rejected by her.
Good luck!
I agree with the other posters about not posting the Birth Mothers name. Also maybe she doesn't want to be found. If she has gone 4 years without contact that tells me she's not interested. At 13 she may not need to meet her birth mother. You husband should give her this information and tell her who her birth mother is but she may not need to meet her. Getting that information is tough enough without throwing the BM in right away. I would wait to see if she asks to meet her before trying to find her. Don't rush everything all at once. You would be surprised at the number of kids her age that aren't interested in meeting their BM. Just fill her out first. Good luck to you and your husband and especially your daughter.
Is there a state registry for RN's in Colorado? They probably have to meet licensing requirements? Is there public access to this site? Or do you know any other RN's in Colorado that might access the site for you? Perhaps, they could message her to contact you. That way, they would not release her personal information to you. And she could contact you if she was interested. good luck.
