Screaming Parents in Public

B.,
I have heard some pretty unbelievable things come from parenst mouths in the middle of walmart no less. It makes me sad for those kids, if the parents are willing to say that in public I am curious what is edited out that they must hear at home with no eyes or ears to be held accountable to. I personally would not say anything, in this day and age you are just as likely to have that mom or dad snap at you. You can say a prayer for that child ( and the parent) you can also be thankful that you know in your heart you will never be a mom like that to any child of your own. You can "hope" that it is just a bad day for that mom or dad and they just used poor judgement. If you see a child physically assaulted in the store, I would report it to a store manager, they are required by law to do something if it occurs on the store property. A woman faced charges when she was recorded by walmart security tapes in the parking area for "slapping" a child as she strapped him in a car seat.

Also, just as a side not because I know Lots of people read these posts, I am a proud aunt to a 6 year old niece with severe autism. My sister cannot just leave her daughter with someone and often has to do things we all must, like grocery shop, go to Target, etc. My niece doesn't like strange places, to her the lights are too bright, the buzz of the electric lights can cause her to "stim" so sometimes she will scream or shriek or cry, to the casual observer it may seem like she is throwing a "fit" and sometimes people will judge my sister and think she is a bad mom for not getting her child under control. No one would ever hear an unkind word come from her mouth. I just wanted to point out that sometimes what you see at first glance is not what your mind immediately jumps to. I wish people were more tolerant, and I am not saying that the parenst who say abusive things should not be held accountable. I just wanted everyone to think before they passed judgement.
B.

I know it is hard to grasp @ times what you hear from a parent telling a child.I just look @ them and make sure they aren't physically aggresive with their child.But who are we to get involved we have our days as well.Be sure if you do open your mouth to the screaming parent your ready for some uninvited feedback from them as well.Sometimes it is hard to ignore.

There are many parents out there that do that!! I also get fustrated with that!!
To add to another fustration I run a daycare and have 1 mom who is single who lives with a boyfriend and gets state funding. Now for the last 3 months she has not worked a single hour and doesn't attend school. She brings them over as soon as I open my doors and doesn't pick them up till the very last minute. There are 3 kids. She just dropps them off then heads back home!! Must be nice to get daycare money but doesn't work!! I've already told her if she doesn't find a job then I will only watch them till the 30th of this month.
So we go from 1 fustrating thing to another!! How can these parents live with themselves??

Wow! I do hear you on this. Sometimes you just feel so sorry for the children. Then I must remind myself there is always two sides to a story. I do realize that sometimes it hard to walk away without saying anything. I just bow my head say a pray for them and than thank God that I am a good mother and for showing me what I do not want to be. Thank God for peace and grace.

I dont like to listen to screaming parents in public either, it can be disheartening. However I have the same feelings about a screaming child. I find it to be a horrible scene when a parent name calls, or says hurtful things to a child. I think it is uncalled for, but they learned it some where, and if someone does not teach what is wrong or right a person grows up thinking it is acceptable. When I hear a child telling his mom that he hates her, or screaming at the top of his lungs because he does not get what he wants, I have to wonder.

When a child grows up with no consequences for this kind of behavior, when he is allowed to scream at the people he loves, how can we expect him to know any better when he becomes a parent. Character must be instilled, and right from wrong must be taught. I have seen children ignore a screaming parent, as if they hear it all the time. I have also seen parents ignore a screaming child as if it will go away eventually. I personally believe that a habit learned, is not easily forgotten.

Hi B.,

A long time ago when I was about 19,(I'm 34) I was at subway standing in line and this boy who was about 8 or 9 came in with his dad(I'm assuming it was his dad) and got in line behind me. Next thing I knew this boy had put his hands on my legs and started squeezing my legs and kinda growling like boys do. I was a little startled by it but just laughed it off. What makes me remember this, is the dad looked at me and said what a stupid brat the kid was. I just stood there in shock that a grown up would say something like that about a helpless child whom he obviously raised to behave this way. To this day I regret not saying something to the man for talking about his child that way. I swore if I ever encountered an idiot adult talking to a kid that way again I would say something. I haven't heard anything like that since. In fact, it's pretty much the opposite, where parents are being too nice to their children (which isn't good either). If you do see behavior like this, I would definately say something,(but be prepared for a hostile response) nobody seems to hold anyone accountable anymore. It was the public that used to keep people in line, and nowdays people just seem to turn their heads not wanting to offend someone.

I think it depends on the situation. If the parent is being aweful with calling the kid names and such, you can say something ,just be prepared to defend yourself when they come back at you with their words. I have a daughter that has public fits on a regular basis and have gotten comments from people when i've had to take her in the bathroom stall so she can have an enclosed non stimulating place to calm down(she's on the autism spectrum, so ther'es not much i can do about it) Some people see children crying or having issues as the parent abusing them when that's not the case at all, but some times the parents are just plainly too rough. If the parent is being verbally abusive, I'd say say something, just be ready for what they say to you next :)