Scared of Losing Baby

Updated on October 27, 2010
M.T. asks from Bridgewater, MA
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Hi 3 weeks ago I found out I was pregant. The last few days I feel like I am losing the "pregnancy feeling", no longer going to the bathroom in the middle of the night, breast are not sore any longer. I am nervous because I have had 3 miscarriages but all were different as far as signs are concerned. I don't see my doctor for another 2 weeks so I would be 9 weeks by then. Has anyone every experienced this and still gone on to have a healthy baby?

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J.P.

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My "symptoms" came and went, and I have 2 healthy little ones. After 3 miscarriages though, I would think that they would see you a little more regularly. If you are nervous, at all, call the doc, get seen. That is what they are there for. Good luck.

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M.B.

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I am also pregnant, around the same as you I would guess! My breasts were sore for about 3 days, but now are noticeably less sore. I haven't had to get up in the middle of the night (yet), but I am sure that is coming!
I had a miscarriage last month, so I have been nervous also. I have taken 2 tests since I found out, and that helps me feel better til I get to the doctor, which is not until November 11th! Go to the dollar store and buy some tests. Pee on them every day if that helps you feel better! :)

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J.K.

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I've had two miscarriages and with my last pregnancy, I experienced what you're saying. Loss of symptoms... but went on to have a healthy baby! Because of my age (I'm old, I guess...LOL) some problems with severe scar tissue on my uterus, mesh from a hernia repair, antibodies against the baby's platelets, thyroid going wacko with meds not helping, and with the swine flu epidemic last year, my doc pretty much made it sound like my pregnancy was a life threatening problem for me. I just went on to do the best for my baby and enjoy my pregnancy. I didn't even so much as have the swine flu vaccine or anything and my pregnancy couldn't have been any smoother. I'm sitting here nursing my 6 month old baby. Try not to worry. I know it's hard. Enjoy every moment with your child. Even these early days of pregnancy. Try to stay positive and optomistic. Your baby needs you to stay away from stress and negative thoughts if possible. Ask God to help you not to worry and try to train your mind to think of other things. Good luck! I wish you the best. HUGS and PRAYERS!

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K.E.

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My 1st pregnancy I had no symptoms of pregnancy. You hormones are funny little things if they have leveled out and you have gotten used to them then the Breast pain is done for now. Your breasts do not hurt thru the whole pregnancy. IF you are concerned call your Doctor and go in earlier. Tell him you are scared of another miscarriage and would like more frequent checkups to ease your stress. The stress you are under is not good for the baby either so if seeing him and hearing baby is good more often than there you go. Once the baby gets big enough get one of those heart beat headphone things so you can hear the baby whenever you need some reassurance. Ask the Dr When you go in when is the safe time to get that.Deep Breaths my dear((HUGS)))

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K.D.

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I misscarried between my third and fourth child and I felt the same feeling I was very hyper aware of everything.with my last pregancy. It is possible you are further along than you think a,d your body is adjusting sooner. Try and relax worring will only make you feel worse...go for * massage do something niced for yourself pamper yourself.enjoy and conserve your energy keep positive warmly K. d

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S.S.

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I am 17 weeks pregnant and I found out I was prego at 3 weeks .... my doctor and nuse kept telling me for 2 weeks that I was having a miscarriage because my HCG Levels were low. At around 8 weeks pregnant I started to feel like I was not pregnant anymore ....Called my doctor and got in that day for a sono .... everything was fine ! Call your doctor, there job is to be there for you.... he/she should get you in just to make sure everything is ok ! Dont stress yourself out, it is not good for you or the baby. Think positive :)

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J.C.

answers from New York on

Perhaps you are just moving on to another phase of symptoms? Call your doctor and ask to come in to be checked out. It can't hurt. Sometimes it's hard to keep calling because you feel like a pest - but that is why he/she is there. And that's what they are paid for. It will ease your mind - so make that appointment.

Best of luck!

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L.M.

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I had two miscarriages after my first child was born and each time I guessed it had happened because the symptoms faded. Call your Ob-Gyn and they should let you come right in for a check. It's better to know right away than to sit around analyzing every twinge and sensation for weeks.
However, as another poster noted, and I also found, the breast tenderness did fade quickly after the first month or two, so this one may be just fine!
I went on to a successful pregnancy after the two miscarriages, and if this one doesn't work out, the next one surely will.
Best wishes-
L.

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S.L.

answers from Springfield on

I would try a flower essence to allay your fears about miscarriage. Here is an example that explains what it does but you can find many others (cheaper) online or locally in a health food store or alternative healing practice. Good luck and blessings to you and all of your babies, spirit or flesh. They are all with you.

http://www.manataka.org/page1742.html

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H.L.

answers from Cleveland on

Go to your doc to check the heartbeat and sonogram. I had bright red bleeding for 5 days with this baby and went on to having a healthy, albeit gestational diabetic, pregnancy. She is a completely healthy and happy 3 month old. Best wishes to you for a healthy baby.

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M.C.

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I can feel your pain, I miscarried with my 1st one. I had cramps 1st then everything just felt different. My advice is go to the doctor or er, they can test your hcg levels & they should know by those numbers. If that comes back inconclusive maybe a ultrasound will be needed. Two weeks is way too long to wait & stress yourself out. Maybe your body is just adjusting to pregnancy or unfortunately the opposite & it will expel it on its own. I wish you the best but the only good thing that comes from a miscarriage is usually you are extremely fertile after & conceiving again is easier. Hopefully your body is just playing tricks on you. Good luck.

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