Scared About 2Nd Ultrasound (Re-scan) Results

Updated on May 18, 2009
Y.K. asks from Glendora, CA
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I'm having a 2nd ultrasound performed on Friday, May 15th because 10 days ago when I went for my first prenatal visit, the attending doctor was unable to see a heartbeat. She said I wasn't as far along as I thought or that my pregnancy is no longer viable and a D&C may be necessary. I am showing no physical signs of miscarriage yet but I've read and been told that the physical symptoms of miscarriage (spotting, bleeding, cramping, fever, chills, etc.) don't necessarily appear right away. I will be 43 in June and I'm so nervous about the possibility of losing this pregnancy and not being able to get pregnant again. On one hand, if this pregnancy did not hold for whatever reason, I'm trying to tell myself that it was probably for the best since miscarriage often results if there is something chromosomically wrong with the baby but on the other hand, I so really want this baby that I know I will be brokenhearted if there is no heartbeat found. I'm trying to hope for the best but I'm finding it hard to concentrate on anything else and I feel like a nervous wreck. Has anyone else experienced the torture of waiting for the second ultrasound and if so, how did you cope? Ultimately, I know there is nothing I can do about it, it's in God's hands but I'm having so much trouble focusing on work, sleeping, doing much of anything. Thanks in advance for any insights you can offer. It seems like Friday will never get here yet I'm scared to death to go!! Thanks again, mamas!!

Love, Y.

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Hello Mamas,
I went to the re-scan on Friday, May 15th, and after two different tests, was told my baby was gone. The baby still had no heartbeat, showed no signs of bloodflow, and had not grown at all in the 10 days from the first ultrasound. We were told we could wait a few more days and have the Radiology Dept. confirm that our baby was gone but I didn't feel that was necessary, mostly because I didn't want to be told a third time there was no longer a baby. The doctor offered a medication to commence a natural miscarriage but I had to throw my son Elijah's 2 year birthday party the very next day and I wasn't going to let anything stand in the way of celebrating Elijah's birth so I said no and was told I could wait until Tuesday of this week. Well, by the grace of God, my miscarriage happened naturally on Sunday, May 17th, the day after the party and while it was difficult and painful, I wouldn't have had it happen any other way. My husband was scheduled to leave to Europe for 10 days on Wednesday, May 20th, so he was able to be with me while I dealt with the miscarriage and I was physically okay when he had to leave. It all worked out as it should have and I am grateful.
I want to thank each and every one of you who took the time out of your busy lives to write me; your stories, personal experiences, advice, and well wishes sustained me through one of the most difficult times of my life and I took great comfort in knowing that there were so many who could relate to all the facets of what I was going through. You made my journey so much easier and much, much less scary so with a full heart, I want you to know that I am forever blessed by all your messages. I couldn't have gotten through it without you, that's the truth.

God bless you all.

Much love,

Y.

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T.

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Y.,

When I was around 8 weeks pregnant with my second child (4th pregnancy, I've had a few miscarriages) they couldn't see anything but the outline of the amnionic sac and told me it was a blighted ovum and I'd miscarry. A week later my hormone levels weren't dropping so they repeated the ultrasound and there was a baby in there. Having had a few miscarriages and two very difficult but sucessful pregnancies I can tell you that nothing is as bad as uncertainty. Good luck to you. My thoughts are with you.

T.

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Try not to stress mama! I know it is easier said than done, but stress will not help. I wish you the best and I hope everything is okay. Maybe it was just to soon. : )

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Z.D.

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I am so sorry to hear that. I really hope that they find a heartbeat when you go back. I had the same thing happen almost a year ago. I went in for an ultrasound at 9 weeks and the baby had passed away a few weeks earlier. Two weeks later I miscarried. I will be thinking of you!

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T.F.

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Hi Y.,

I will be praying for you on this day. I was in the same situation and I will say that everything you are feeling is normal and I will also say make God your source of strength no matter what happens.

T.

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A.C.

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I will tell you about what happened to my sister.
She was about 3 months along as far as she could figure, and the doctor told her that they could not find a heartbeat. They told her that she might have to have a D & C but she said no, lets wait a while longer. If its not right my body will take care of it. She went back in 4 more weeks, still no heart beat. The doctor insisted she go ahead and have one. Again she declined and insisted that she was going to continue and if she gave birth to a still born then so be it! My niece is now 21.
thank God she stuck to her instinks.
Hang in there!!!!!!!

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M.Z.

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When I was pregnant with my 1st child over 6 years ago my doctor told me the same thing. It was heartbreaking and waiting for another ultrasound was horrible. The next ultrasound showed a heartbeat and I was as far along as we had thought. Sometimes ultrasounds don't see everything the doctor wants them too. For our 2nd baby, we saw a different doctor!

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S.H.

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Oh gosh, all I can say, is say a prayer and hope for the best. You are right in that it is out of your hands and in God's. I just had a baby as I was almost 41 and all went well but had had a miscarriage before getting pregnant with him. Do you "feel" pregnant? I should have known when I had a miscarriage, as the weeks preceding, I just didnt' "feel" the pregnancy symptoms like I had with my first two. It will all be okay and you will get through this. The waiting has to be the hardest and Friday is almost here. Say a prayer and try to just stay super busy in the meantime. Best wishes to you.

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K.H.

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Well, I too had this situation. I went in and was told the exact two possibilities. And 9 months later ended up with my first child. But my scenario was that my cycle was very sporadic and based on my last period, the fetus should have been 8 weeks in size, but when they did a further ultrasound weeks later, the baby was fine, just a month behind in growth than we expected. The doctors think I must have ovulated with out having true "sluffing" period.
So I think I am safe to say here's some hope, and until tomorrow, there's definately a reason to keep your spirits up!
Good Luck.

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A.B.

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I did experiance the same thing. We tried to get pregnant for one year straight and it didn't happen but then 3 weeks later I got pregnant! I took two at home tests and I felt pregnant so I set up my appointment and they did an ultrasound to see how far along since I don't have periods. They didn't see a heart beat at all, I was devastated. My doctor ordered a test of my hcg levels and said to go back one week later and get the same test done. If the second test showed higher levels of hcg since they double everyday, then I'm pregnant. Well waiting that whole week to get the other test done and waiting a couple of days for the results was straight torture! I cried myself to sleep every night and I missed work the whole time. But the results came back higher than the first test and the next ultrasound showed a little heartbeat, now my daughter is 13 months old. I'll pray for you and I hope everything turns out for the best. Good Luck!

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M.M.

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I really hope that everything works out for you tomorrow!! and if I were you, I'd go with advice from some of the women below...even if they don't find a heartbeat...it still might be too early..don't do the D&C...if there is a miscarriage...let it go naturally just in case...i've heard stories of the same thing and women have a healthy baby...i'll think about ya...make sure you let us all know what happens!!! good luck!!

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C.H.

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Y., in the fifth month of pregnancy with my younger son I thought I had lost him. Everything indicated a miscarriage including heavy bleeding and passing a large lump in the emergency room that we all thought was my child. He is now 18. I am praying that on Friday you have the same joy I had that day. Please let us know how this turns out.

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T.C.

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Hi Y.,
Well, I've been in this situation 4 times! I have 2 children!! So it's worked out 2 out of the 4 times. Everytime they checked for a heartbeat before 7 weeks they never found anything. After 7 weeks they found out that I was either miscarrying or they found a heartbeat. With my first miscarriage I had no symptoms and they had to do a D & C. With my second miscarriage I had the symptoms and the miscarriage happened naturally. With my daughter, I was spotting (She was my last pregnancy) and I thought I was miscarrying but I was not! I would just wait for that next ultrasound and think positive thoughts!! At this early stage it is very common not to see a heartbeat yet!! I will keep you in my prayers!!

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Just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers and I will be thinking about you tomorrow.

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S.H.

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I went through that too... but in MY case, I WAS having miscarriage symptoms....BUT my 6-week old "baby" DID have a heartbeat...BUT I was bleeding and actively miscarrying. BUT you are NOT. BIG difference.

Maybe there was no detectable heartbeat... because it is still too early to detect it....
AND your Doctor "said" you were not as far along as you thought.

SO, I am surprised that the attending Doctor even "recommended" a D&C at this point. To me, it is premature.

Did they do the vaginal sonogram? Or an "ultrasound?"
Usually at the "first" prenatal visit... it is a VAGINAL sonogram which is a wand inserted into your vagina.... an "ultrasound" is done ON the tummy with a wand...

In any event... take care, try to keep your mind busy with other things.

Until your pregnancy status is confirmed... don't jump to conclusions... you need less stress which is better for any pregnancy.

All the best...
Susan

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K.M.

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Y.,

I hope everything works out for you tomorrow.

Take care.

K.

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E.L.

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Y.,

I know how you feel. I was 41 with my last pregnancy and the same happened to me. They could not get a heartbeat the first time but later they did. Before that I had a miscarriage though and only knew because I started to have bleedings. Due to my age I had all kinds of monitoring during my last pregnancy (I refused all the tests), and every time I went into the doctor's office they would find something else wrong with the baby. So I prayed, a lot, and she came out perfect. Technology is a great thing, but it can also be getting in the way sometime. So have faith and I will include you in my prayers. Evi

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J.C.

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I have not had this happen before however have lost two babies through miscarriage and tubal pregnancy. Hold positive thoughts and visualize positive results. Know that what will be, will be and be thankful for your blessed life with your children and husband. I wish you well.

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C.A.

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Yes, I have had your experience, and yes, there was no heart beat. For me, I had had a week to digest the possibility. I also had no symptoms. People that say, "it's for the best" need to be punched in the face. I think that is such an insensitive thing to say to someone. Okay, yes, everyone is thinking it, but, don't say it. I had a D&C. I thought I was okay w/ it. But, I just went home and cried. Hopefully, your result will be different than mine.

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P.F.

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We were going for baby #3 (I was 34) and I got pregnant, but didn't go to the doctor for a few months (having had a "positive" home-pregnancy test) but when I went in and they tried to find a heartbeat, there was NONE to be found. So, I had to wait until the next Monday in anticipation...........and when I went in, it was TWINS!!! Fortunate for us...we have 4 healthy growing Children, two away from home and our twins just finishing 10th grade. I feel for you awaiting the next ultrasound...it's a difficult thing...(I also had a miscarriage between our first two)...it's hard, sad and everything inbetween but had to leave it in God's hand that he was taking care of things in his own way. Thoughts are with you and let us know...tomorrow will be here before you know it!

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T.L.

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Y.,
I can only imagine what you must be going thru. I will keep you in my prayers and hope for only the best for you and your family. Try to stay calm and positive, I know - easier said than done! Best wishes to you.

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K.C.

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Hello Y.,
This happened to me in December and I can totally understand how scared and nervous you are. In my case I had to wait over Christmas before taking the second ultrasound, which confirmed that there was no baby...just a gestational sac the size of a 5.5 week pregnancy (and I should have been 9 weeks by the time of the second one). It was very hard, but I guess the distraction of having family in town for the holidays took my mind off it a bit. I ended up having a D&C in early Jan. I opted for the D&C because I didn't want to waste the time waiting to miscarry naturally. I never showed any miscarriage signs and my blood work at the time of the first ultrasound was all positive. I am also 42 and my biggest fear was also that I'd never get pregnant again. I've thought about it almost every day since. BUT...I JUST found out that I am pregnant again less than 4 months later! It's so early I haven't even had the first ultrasound yet, so I'm nervous about it happening again, but I have a good feeling about this one. If yours is a miscarriage you will go through a lot of emotions as your hormones rebalance themselves too. But try to stay optimistic...you CAN get pregnant again!

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J.F.

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I am sure you are amazed by how many of us have gone through it! We mean it when we say we are putting something into God's hands, but it is so hard to then let go and give to God all the way into our hearts! Hopefully all will be well for you, but take time to stop and listen to your body. You probably already know the answer, if you can trust your own self. That said, let me tell you, I need to listen to my own advice much more often! :) I am praying for your health! Take care.

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J.L.

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I know exactly how you feel. this past Feburary was 2 years since we went through the same thing. I showed no signs of a miscarriage at all, I actually felt "more pregnant" than I did when I was pregnant with my daughter. The only thing I can tell you is to pray. Pray for the strength to get up everyday and do what it is that you need to do and be happy for what you do have. The loss was so hard for me. I did not understand why this was happening to us or why my body would not let go of the baby. I had to wait 2 days for the second ultasound and then another 5 days before the D&C because of insurance clearence, I showed no signs of miscarriage. Just try to enjo your family because they are going to be what pulls you through all of this. I will pray for you and your family and hope for the best.

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I would just like to offer my support. I know it is so difficult to wait when something could be wrong but try and stay positive at least until you know for sure there is something to worry about. I don't know if you believe in God or not but wanted to tell you He already knows the results and has everything worked out for your best interest. Try and stay busy until your next visit so as to make the time go by faster. At this point nothing you do will change your situation so think positive!! When I got pregnant at 35 I refused a lot of tests for this reason I didn't want any added unnecessary stress it is what it is and I was willing to take my chances with what ever God gave me. I am praying for your peace of mind and that this baby is healthy & strong it is a blessing from God.

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Dear Y.,

i understand your feelings but for slightly different reasons. I am pregnant and turning 41 in Sept. My quad screen blood test came back putting me in a higher risk group for down's syndrome babies( 1 in 60 rather than 1 in 74) I was so freaked out by the midwives and nurses urgency and insistance to move up my ultrasound exam that all I could do was worry about the "what ifs". So while I am dreading the upcoming exam I also want to know the results. I also miscarried twice in the past year and a half so I also know that feeling that "I'll never get pregnant again" feeling.

I am finding that my husband's reaction that we will just take things as they come has been comforting. I actually don't have much advice because I am still worrying and feeling anxious. Sometimes I just have to tell myself to relax because what will be will be, it is already done. If it does turn out that you have an unsuccesful pregnancy (which I hope it isn't) there is a book called "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Wechsler which might be helpful if you decide to keep trying. We also went for it right after I miscarried because we are/were running out of time.

Good Luck and I will have you in my thoughts tomorrow.

C.

About me: I am a mostly stay at home mom with an almost 3 year old (July) and a great Husband who was the one I was waiting for.

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C.H.

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Dear Y.,

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. I, too had to return for a second ultrasound early in my first pregnancy, though I was having spotting and other problems. Sadly, it wasn't a viable pregnancy and I was devastated. I was 40, and afraid I'd never have a child. I did wait it out to let my body miscarry naturally, which was difficult, but helped me to know that there really wasn't anything I or anyone else could have done.

After 2 normal cycles, we we tried again, and conceived the very first month. My son is now 3.5 and the most amazing kid.

I hope everything goes well, and that a little more time helps the doctors to find a healthy baby. If not, though, please do know that for 3-4 months following a miscarriage, you will experience a spike in your fertility, and conceiving again may be easier for you. Just check with your Dr. to find out how long you should wait, assuming you're ready to try again quickly.

best wishes to you and your family
C.

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K.I.

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I completely understand what you are going through, and playing the waiting game put me into high anxiety mode. I have had three miscarriages, 2 D&Cs. I am also blessed with one beautiful daughter and a son on the way (6 months pregnant).
I had a hard time with my miscarriages. With my second miscarriage, they saw a slow heartbeat, and my Hcg numbers were not going up fast enough, but they wanted to wait another week and see if things picked up. That week felt like an eternity! With my last miscarriage last summer, everything started great, heartbeat, morning sickness, it all seemed to be working fine, but then at my 12 week checkup - no more heartbeat. It was pretty devastating. Looking back, and after time to heal, I can say things work out the way they should, but at that moment, it was not what I wanted to hear.
I hope they can pick up a heartbeat at your next appointment. If not, as cliche as it is, there is so much truth in "time heals everything." Like you, I had a hard time focusing on anything else, I became very anxious and a bit depressed. But with the support of my husband, and wonderful friends and family, and time... I decided I had to let go and focus on the future. I wish there were a quick fix to feeling better, but if there is one, I don't know it. Just love yourself, focus on your family and the future and I wish you all the best!

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Oh dear queen... have heart and just a teenotchy-bit of faith for the sake of relaxation, if nothing else. Oftentimes we fear what we don't know or can't control, and thusly understand more clearly what "is" in our power. What you can control is the ability to trust that God does know best and will offer it to you for the simple asking. The trick to it all is that "you must ask." Decide within yourself that the truth is this: 1. He will withhold no good thing from you, and 2. He loves you enough to hear your very whisper (smile). Know that He will offer you the best for your situation, and be accepting of the offer - whatever that is.

Afraid doesn't change anything, it only amplifies the fears of what you don't want, which is not good for your physical or mental state; nor that of your unborn. You are at this point and time in your life to find out what you "need" to know; its how you grow. The size of your heart will enlarge with more room for grateful, I am certain of it. You are blessed and shall continue to be blessed. Just take the time to see all things clearly and be grateful.

Sounds to me that you have been blessed with life's gifts so far (according to your writings) and that your level of gratefulness is happiness cherrished. These are good things and worth holding dear to your heart.

Let's us know how it turns out for you.

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Hi Y.-

My heart goes out to you and am hoping for the best!! I have had several miscarriages and know how difficult the waiting game is. My situation is a bit different because I either had a heartbeat and lost it, or it was found by my HCG levels dropping. Has the Dr. checked your HCG levels? They should be doubling every two days? Also like SH said, what kind of ultrasound did they do? The vaginal one is the one that they should do that early in the pregnancy.

Good luck to you.
Stephanie

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L.E.

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Hi, Y.,

Having gone through several rounds of infertility treatment, miscarrying my first two pregancies after heartbeat was detected, and being quite advanced in maternal age, I can relate to the anxiety surrounding the potential loss of a pregnancy. I still clearly remember the sensation I had driving to my doctors' offices, pacing in the examining room, and waiting for my doctors' to share with me what they observed in the ultrasounds. I remember the sweaty palms and quickened pulse.

One thing I did during my second, third and fourth pregnancies that differed from my first was appreciate every moment of existence of my unborn offspring. During my second pregnancy, which eventually ended in miscarriage, I decided not to spend all of my energy worrying about the health of my unborn offspring. I knew that worrying would not help and that it would deprive me of time spent enjoying. I decided to spend as much "time" with my unborn child enjoying him or her as I could. This mental shift helped me cope with a negative situation better than I did the first time.

Fortunately for me, I later conceived at 39 and 41, amazingly with my own eggs, two offspring who would become two live, healthy children. (The first successful pregnancy was created with the help of ICSI, and the second was created naturally.) Finally bearing a live, healthy child significantly helped me deal with my miscarriages.

I wish that I had known then, when I was going through miscarriages and fertility treatment, what I know now. As a graduate psychology student, I've learned how to use mindfulness to alleviate pain and reduce anxiety. I highly recommend Jon Kabat-Zinn's book, Full Catastrophe Living, and Belleruth Naperstek's CD on infertility. When I first started learning about mindfulness and guided imagery, I was somewhat skeptical that they would help me much. They have helped me in ways that I would not have guessed had I not tried them for a few months. (I started noticing a positive change in my emotional state a few weeks after I started listening to the CDs and doing the exercises in the book.)

My last bit of advice, which I hope that you will not be able to use on yourself, is, if you miscarry, allow yourself to grieve. Don't let statements that people make belittling the significance of a miscarriage, often to try to make you and them feel better, make you feel that your sadness is unwarranted. People have told me after I've miscarried, "It's God's will." I'm an atheist, so God doesn't figure into my view of the universe. If there is a god, why is he doing this? They've also said, "Don't worry. Just relax. You'll have another." I know lots of people who could not have ANY kids, so that statement did not ring true to me. To me, the statement, "Just relax; it will happen," makes about as much sense as the statement "You'll walk again if you just relax," to someone who has become paralyzed as a result of a spinal cord injury. Not supported by science! My mother said, "Why do you want to have a baby any way? Maybe you shouldn't try at this late age. It might be deformed." My view: There are many reasons people want to have kids. Aren't at least some of them reasonable? Also, I couldn't find a willing mate until now, and better late than never." A former roommate even decided to talk to me about my miscarriages at my wedding reception! (My husband and I had just gone through the second miscarriage.)

I appreciate my lost children. If they had not been conceived, I probably never would have found out why I could not carry a baby to term and therefore never had any live children. As a result of tests done following my miscarriages, I learned that I had an immune disorder that affected nothing but my pregnancies. This information helped doctors treat me appropriately once I became pregnant (the third and fourth pregnancies).

Good luck,
Lynne E

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M.

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Are you having any pregnancy symptoms? If you are, then that's great and you need to embrace that. If you are experiencing any nausea or tender breasts then your hormones are multiplying. Try to focus on the positive and not stress since you are not having any miscarriage symptoms. When I miscarried, it began with light spotting and mild cramps which became intense bleeding and cramping. I did a pregnancy test during all of the pain and it came up negative. (I had only been 7 weeks along) I realize everyone is different and you might not experience the same thing. Maybe it would give you something positive to hold on to if you took a pregnancy test and it showed positive. At least you would know that you have enough hormone in you. I hope you get the good news you want on Friday!

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T.M.

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I know ur pain. I went through it this past august. I went in for my first ultra sound at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat so they had me wait a week for the same reasons they told you. I had no signs of miscarriage the only thing I did notice was I felt so much sicker and tired then my first. It was an unbearable just want sleep feeling. Anyway, for me there was still no heartbeat and I had to have a d and c. They also had me wait three months before trying again due to the risk being higher to miscarry again. Well three months later and I did get pregnant quickley!!! Two weeks off the pill! When I had miscarried I had tried for four months. Everything is great and going well I am 17 weeks. So, please realize god does things for a reason and I do believe that when I miscarried it was due to the baby not being healthy. It's hard no matter what but you will find the strength and just look at the beautiful children you have already been blessed with. There is still a little hope of finding a heartbeat. Just be prepared for either outcome. God will do what is best for you and ur family.

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A.P.

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I can relate.
Yes, it's very scary. I was trying to get pregnant with my first baby, I had tried for 3 years! I was finally pregnant, told the people closest to me and went to the Dr. for an ultra sound...no heartbeat. Went back days later, no heartbeat.
I wasn't ready for all that. I had NO signs. I decided to miscarry 'naturally', due to scaring with a DNC. Like you said,"things didn't chromosomally line up".
I mourned the loss and prepared my body to carry the next one. I was able to get pregnant, I can do it again! I ate lots of protein, drank lots of water, took prenatal vitamins-the ultimate in a healthy woman : ) Two months later I was pregnant again. Time stood still and I couldn't rejoice until I knew I was carrying a live baby. What if I miscarried again, and again. I decided then that I wanted to be a mom, if that meant that I was to adopt, that was OK too.
A year ago my son was born! I am so thankful that I didn't have to go through the loss of another baby. The experience makes me appreciate life and what I have,it gave me more patience and in general a different outlook on things.
You'll be OK. I wish you well.

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A.M.

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Hi Y.,

With my first ultrasound they couldn't find a heartbeat either. They couldn't find the baby! I ended up having to go back 3 days later to a specialist that deals with high risk pregnancies. I cried for those 3 days thinking the worst. When I went for the second ultrasound my blood pressure was through the roof. The machine shorted out and they had to hunt up another one. Then they did an internal to locate the baby and try for a heartbeat. It took them 3 tries and I had just about given up hope when I heard a little fluttering sound. My little angel is now 15 months old. Good luck and hang in there.

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K.R.

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Well, I just wanted to reiterate what the other posts have said, waiting is difficult but there's nothing else to be done right now. I went through this same scenario with my first pregnancy - I felt VERY pregnant but there was no heartbeat found, doctors and I were unsure of my conception date, first I was told I was 12 weeks along, then maybe only four or maybe seven. Unfortunately, after four weeks of weekly vaginal sonograms there was still no heartbeat and no natural miscarriage - I didn't want to do a D&C "just in case" the baby had a chance... after one LONG month, I finally miscarried. The only thing I wish I'd had at that point was a stonger relationship with God, because looking back years later He really DID have my best interest in mind - if I had trusted Him more, I wouldn't have had such a hard time emotionally with the whole thing. My second miscarraige I just had such peace, knowing that His plan is always better than my own - and after each miscarraige I was blessed with a beautiful healthy baby who each arrived at just the right time in my life! Keep praying and just know that He is in control, whether it's the outcome you are hoping for or not.

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K.H.

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This happened to me too. I went in for the first appointment and there was no heartbeat. I was told the exact same thing. A week later I went back for an ultrasound and there was the heartbeat. Thank God!! I was just a week too early. He is now 11 years old, and I have two more boys 6years and an almost two year old. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you are early too.

Take care and God Bless!!!

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