F., what you are going through I also went through it. What I had to do is pray, make sure the daycare didn't allow my baby to sleep all day, make or steal time for yourself and exercise so you get your engergy back, peacefully communicate your needs to your spouse and listen to his need. Most men only need more sex to make them behalf. Next, you need to make sure you have a life, both of you read GOD's word so both of you will know what GOD expects from a husband and wife. Most people marry without know their roles. Without GODLY wisdom your marriage will not work.
Since GOD is the originator of marriage you should only consider a GOD fearing pastor. You can't omit GOD. In order to make your marriage work both of you must respect and obey HIS word about marriage.
Make time for each other by putting the kids to bed at 8:30pm or 9pm, go on dates, be kind and speak kindly to each other for you kids are watching and listening.
I hope this helps.