Sorry I always seem to ask more then one question at a time...
My first question, although i am asking prematurely, is has anyone had a succesfull pregnancy after a a rupture uterus? A little history for you...I have two children first was deliveredvaginally, second was "emergency" cesection, I was just recently pregnant with twins whom I lost a little over two weeks ago due to pre-term labor at only 22 weeks. I experenced about two hours of the worst contractions i had ever felt followed by my water braking...during my csection the doctor found that my uterus had torn not only where the oringinal scar was but also on the back side. She said I would be able to have kids again but that I wont be able to go into labor therefore I would have to deliver by cesection at 37 weeks or earlier....I am in no way ready to have another baby its just something on my mind and I would like to here some success stories after this really rough and tragic pregnancy I would like to here some good news. I know not every one is the same and anyhting can happen...I live by trusting in God and I know that he is always watching out!
Second question: We are getting ready to plan a small memorial at our home with our close friends and family for our two angels in heaven...was just looking for ideas on what to do...
Thanks in advance for all the ideas and also for all the kind words, thought and prayers I have been given in other post i have posted about my situation!!!
I, too, just wanted to say I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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First of all, I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. What a difficult time for you and your family. I lost twins too and we planted two trees in their honor. It brings me comfort to watch the trees bloom and grow. Maybe you and your family can all plant them together just after the memorial. You are certainly in my prayers!
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I am so sorry for your loss and all of the trauma that you have endured. I have no experience with the uterine rupture thing, so I am not much help there. I did lose a baby in a pretty traumatic way, but it definitely wasn't the same as your situation and I was not as far along as you. I just can't imagine how hard this has all been for you. If it is any encouragement to you, I've had 2 successful pregnancies since then, so miracles really can and do happen. I am sending prayers up for you right now. I also like the tree idea. It's just something tangible that will help you and your loved ones remember these precious babies and you can watch them bloom and grow for many, many years to come. If you're looking for a good song of comfort, I love "Glory Baby" by Watermark. You can do a google search for the lyrics and it should come right up. That song always brings me comfort. Sending <HUGS> your way.
I always think releasing balloons are nice. I guess it is just the floating to the sky.....
I have been reading your posts and you are in my thoughts and prayers girl. I think a small service at your home sounds wonderful. I wish I could think of something really extra special, but for sure the Pastor can speak words of comfort and of course I am so thankful that you know the Lord and that you will see those sweet babies again, that is where our hope is for sure. You can share a meal with your friends and family at the end and I think a service is so healing because regardless of their age, these are your children and their lives mattered, so I just am so happy to hear you are planning that. I will pray for your family as you continue on your journey to healing. Hang in there!! As far as the uterus issue, I think whenever you do feel ready and your OB is in agreement, go for it. I mean what a comfort to know you can bear another child, even though you aren't ready now. I am sure they will watch you very closely and do the C before any complications arise. I don't know any stories personally about this, but if you trust your doctor, I say go for it. Best wishes!
Just want to say I am sorry for your loss! Having a memorial service and some words and kindness surrounded by loved ones will sure help you have some closure. Hugs!
I am so sorry you had such a miserable end to your pregnancy. I have no ideas about a memorial service because in my religion we are forbidden to have any type of service or name babies who never took a breath on their own.
I also lost a baby later in pregnancy so I know it's the same kind of trauma as any other death.
If you want other children adopt them. Only one percent of all the world's children who need a new family are ever are adopted.
It's very risky to be pregnant again once your uterus has ruptured especially since the rupture zone was not only where your surgical cut was made. I'd consult other doctors and check it out with Stamford and the Mayo clinic online.
I don't know anyone with your type of situation, however, I can't tell you how many MOMs I know that a doctor once told them they would never be able to BE a mom. There are small miracles that happen everyday...hoping you have that miracle with a future baby.
What a about a donation in honor of your children? Or walking each year in their names for the March of Dimes.
I'm very sorry for your loss, and your pain. Such sadness is so hard to understand. My motto for dealing with such sadness is to trust in God and know that everything happens for a reason. Though we may not ever know the reason behind the tragedy.
God Bless and comfort you through this time. I hope you find peace in knowing you will get to be with your angels someday. They will be proud of you!!!
I have no experience or advice. I just wanted to tell you that my heart breaks for what you have gone through! I am so, so, so sorry for the loss of your little angels. I can't imagine all the thoughts and feelings you have going on inside of you about so many different things. Much love & prayers...
I am sorry this has happened.
Have you asked your pastor/priest for ideas for the service? He/she may have some ideas. Also, maybe he/she could help you connect with someone else who has had a similar experience to help you.
God bless!
