Rsvps - McKinney,TX

I'm tempted to omit where the party will be held on the invitation and then inform those who RSVP the details. It sounds rotten, but it may just get the point across!

Nope - you've actually received a TON of RSVPs. The new normal is to receive NONE. :-(

Count yourself lucky.

Congrats to your son!!

Yes, people that don't RSVP are my pet-peeve! I would send a reminder email to those that haven't responded. Count on maybe 5 additions to the final response. I had a party, invited 50 kids, (i was covering my bases during Spring Break). Only 10 RSVP'd. I still bought food and party hats for 50 kids. Only the 10 showed up. 3 years later I still have the extra party hats!

I would make phone calls and say I wanted to make sure you received your invitation as we have not heard your response back as to if you'll be attending, just want to ensure I have enough of everything

RSVP's are ignored.

People have schedules that are too busy or chaotic to plan even a day ahead sometimes. I think that if you are planning an event like this and it is friends and family I would call everyone to check in, find out if they need anything while they are there, etc...that way they get a personal touch from you.

Plan on everyone being there plus some. When we have Court of Honors at church we do it in the Cultural Hall and there is plenty of room for everyone that wants to come. I always plan on tons of refreshments, the other scouts alone will eat what is not selected by the other guest the first time through the line.

Any food leftover is a welcome treat at home too.

Not RSVPing is rude, in my opinion. I am a military spouse and it is expected that you RSVP to events.

First of all, congratulations to your son.

Secondly, sadly yes... people have lost all sense of manners and etiquette. Same thing happened to Thank you notes.

Some folks just believe it is all about them and they think of no one but themselves. :(

I attended a wedding last year as a proxy for my daughter. The bride had RSVP so that she could get the information to give to the guard on duty at the base gate. Many people did not RSVP and wanted to go to the reception and were turned away. Others did get on with a bit of time and trouble.

So it seems that the new norm is not to RSVP.

The other S.

PS The reception was great and I felt sorry for those who did not get to attend but that was on them.

I was going to say the same thing as wickerparkgirl. However, be aware that many more may show up last minute or many that already RSVP'd may not show up. I've had both scenarios happen several times.

It's "your momma never taught you how to be polite and what those fancy French words mean" normals.

Start calling or emailing, etc. However, expect a few turnups, and a few no-replies-anyway. There are some people who think RSVP means "tell them only if I'm coming" or that deadlines don't apply to THEM. Friend actually thanked me for RSVPing to a party for his wife because "it's not like these people don't sit on FB all day anyway." My own mother had to track down her brother because he couldn't be bothered to check a box on a card, put it in a pre-addressed, stamped envelope and stuff it in a mailbox. No big surprise that a few years later his daughter announced she was attending our cousin's wedding - the night before. Like the mother of the bride didn't have enough to do. THEN the cousin had the audacity to complain that she was seated so far from the family tables. You snooze, you loose!

It is RUDE, RUDE, RUDE not to respond in a timely manner, especially where things like food or seating are required. They keep doing it because there isn't a consequence. If you keep accommodating extras, what's the incentive to RSVP?

Unfortunately, yes. Some don't reply because "you know we'll be there" while others don't reply and figure "I didn't reply that I was coming so they'll know I won't be there". What I want to know is exactly how we are supposed to know the intention of each "non-responsive" invitee? The answer is that we don't and they are all rude!

My sister recently hosted a joint birthday party for her son and our other nephew. Our nephew took 26 invitations to school, not counting family or those that my sister's son was inviting. The night before the party,, she had 102 people reply. The morning of the party (which started at 11 am) she had people reply....they did reply but THAT morning....how on earth was she supposed to plan accordingly? Guess what...even all of those that did reply didn't show.

I am doing a corporate event - a very fancy 15 year anniversary party for my company. We have sent out 300 invites and only had 37 RSVPs. Does anyone read their mail anymore or do they not understand what RSVP means?

C.

It is the new normal...that is why I don't even request an RSVP...I plan for about 80% of who I invite and have never had an issue.

Another way I do get people to tell me is to www.evite.com...let's them say yes, no, maybe...then at least I can look and the site simply tells me the exact number for each. It also allows them to tell you how many people.

Unfortunately, it seems to be the new norm. There have been at least several invited guests who never replied to each of my daughter's 4 birthday party invites. I've always had to either call or email to get an answer; I've even had a few who didn't return my emails or phone messages - Some just show up anyway! If you want a somewhat accurate head count, unfortunately you'll have to start tracking these rude people down. Good luck!

CONGRATULATIONS ! ! ! TO YOU AND YOUR SON ! ! !

I had 6 sons that earned their "Eagle rank". I know how much work it is for the scout, the scoutmaster and the parents.

Manners aren't taught in school or in English 101 in college any more. When you ask what RSVP means to those younger than 50 you will find the most frequent answer is, "Huh?"

I always added 50% to the actual number of people that said they were coming and it turned out fine.

One of the things I did that gave me a huge boost in attendance was to let the guests know what the refreshments were. When I smoked and served a whole hog for my first eagle, I fed 125 people.

Good luck to you and yours.