J.L.
Sounds like you are focusing on his negative traits... and unfortunately we ALL have them. Try to focus on one positive trait everyday and then add a new one the next day. It might be something as small as "He puts his dirty clothes in the hamper." or "He takes out the garbage without being asked." Also, remember the golden rule: Treat him as you would like him to treat you. This may be hard at first because he is not going to expect you to be nice... he'll expect the same old arguments. But when you establish this as a pattern hopefully he'll start responding appropriately and then you'll find what made you fall for him in the first place. Think about why you were attracted to him and why you wanted to marry him. To fix this, it will have to start with you. I would give it a serious try and do all I possibly could before I threw in the towel and called it quits. I have been there, done that, and it wasn't fun, but knew I had to give it my "all" before I realized there was "no saving this marriage".