The kitchen will be your most expensive room to remodel, but you will also get the most use out of the remodel...so good choice! I am in the construction industry and here is what i've found through experience:
I would say if you pianted and did some of the stuff yourself, you could easily do this for $5000. here is a little breakdown of what to expect:
1. Paint will be about $150 (buy only)
2. All NEW cabinets (I know you said you were resurfacing though) = $1500
3. New tiles backlash = ?? at most $500 i would think.
4. New countertops (if you decided to do them) = $1000
5. Flooring (not tile) = $1500 installed
Appliances is where the main money is, so if you are just doing a simple "beauty" makeover I think you can easily do this for about $2000- $5000.
Good luck! And have fun : - ) !!