Me and my daughetrs dad share legal custody, now i want to baptize my daugher but he doesn't agree with the godparents do i even need his permision because of what i know court doesn't deal with religious stuff, so how would we decide? can i just baptize without his permission?
I would ask the person who would officiate the ceremony. It would ultimately be their decision anyway. If the parents do not agree the clergy person has to decide if it is something they can do.
legally you're probably fine. it's a pretty crappy thing to do to the other parent, though. would you be okay with it if he did something like that?
khairete
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do you legally need permission? probably not.
HOWEVER, he is her father and should get a say in these kinds of things. Personally I would be fit to be tied and beyond angry if my ex-spouse went behind my back when they KNEW I didn't approve in something this important.
I guess the real question is ... How you want the co-parenting of your daughter to go for the rest of her life? Do you want each of you saying "well I don't care what he/she thinks ... I'm doing it anyway, it's not in our custody agreement and it's not something the court will deal with so I can do what I want".
Compromise ... it's a great word, and one you (and he) are going to have to become intimately familiar with for the rest of your lives. Because even when she's an adult ... you'll still have to share her.
It depends on your custody agreement and the requirements of your church.
Your custody agreement should spell out what decisions require agreement between both parents. Even in cases where parents do not share 50/50 custody, important decisions like religion may require an agreement of both sides.
I would strongly discourage you from going ahead without being sure that your specific custody agreement doesn't require the fathers permission in religious questions, because he can take you back to court if you ignore an existing court approved parenting plan - and I am fairly certain that that may not look too good for you.
When in doubt... ask a lawyer to look at your custody agreement and whether you need the father's permission for this.
It is very unfortunate that you do not view this as a major event in her life and agree that BOTH parents should be involved. I'm sure you can get a way with a lot of things without his permission...but so can he. He is the father of your daughter....again....he is the father of your daughter and you both need to learn how to co-parent and make it best for your child
No you don't need his permission, but it certainly won't help you to build a good working relationship with him as you parent your daughter apart. Would you be upset if the then turned around and had her baptized in his church with godparents of his choosing? Because he could do that as well.
Absolutely! The court will not get involved. Just schedule and go!
Baptism is a religious ritual, not anything that changes legal status. I don't see why you would need his permission.
Sure-and the fact that he would want to intercede tells me that he is not fit to make decisions regarding your daughter. Do you share in the decision making? If not-I would go ahead and do it-don't invite him.
What does your pastor, or Priest, say?
You do not need legal consent to have a child baptized. Depending on your church you may need to take a religious class to make sure that you and the prospective God parents understand the commitment you are making.
Our decree said we must discuss religious decisions. Like we couldn't change the kids religion without discussion. I would think something like baptism doesn't fall under that especially since he has the option of a second baptism with the god parents of his choice.
So you may want to ask your attorney but I don't think you need permission.
