Refusal to Sleep

I know what ur going thru, I have 3 yr old & fromt he time she was born I rocked her & snag to her every night & then once she reached about a yr. old maybe a little younger I started putting her down for her naps alone & she did cry at first, but it never lasted long & I would check on her every couple of minutes even tho I was just in the next room, but I still rocked her at ngihttime until she got used to going on her own, then I started putting her in her bed at night time & she did just fine. It was kinda like a weaning process, & just be patient & it is ok for her to cry. I can totally relate to the nto so helpful part from ur husband also, it is hard especially when u feel that ur doing it alone & he's in the next room. if u want to talk just let me know & I'll give u my email. I love talking to other moms, it helps in ANY situation, good or bad

what i had to do is put my son down in his crib with a night light on and turn on his music and let him cry and i would go in there every 5-10mins and pat him on the belly or rub his forehead til after two weeks he put his self to sleep with-out crying

I don't know if you are still having issues but I also breast fed my son and i know how they have gotten use to useing our breast as a pacifier. You should get the book "the sleep solution". It will help you i swear.

Hi M.! I recently had this same problem with my daughter. She was pretty good about going to sleep until I had to stop breastfeeding her when she was about 7 months old. When she started on a bottle, she suddenly began not wanting to go to sleep and waking up multiple times during the night. I was becoming exhausted because she would take a very long time to go to sleep each time she woke up during the night. When we went to her 9 month exam, I read a sheet that gave me some ideas.

It said that you should put your child in bed when they are sleepy, but not asleep. (Which I was doing.) When they wake up in the middle of the night, you should wait a few minutes to see if they fall back asleep. If they don't then you can quietly go in a give them a reassuring pat or rub on the back to let them know you are there for them, and then leave and let them fall asleep on their own. (Which I was not doing. ;-) ) It said that by the time your child is this old, they really need to learn to fall asleep on their own, and they can't do that by being rocked or held.

I followed these suggestions with my daughter, and now she barely wakes up at all during the night, and when she does, she is able to fall asleep on her own again! I am so excited to finally be able to get a good night's sleep again!

It won't necessarily work right away though. The first night she woke up many times and screamed for a long time. But each night she fell asleep more quickly until she didn't wake up at all.

I hope this works for you too! Good luck!!!

Try playing classical music softly while she is laying down. Also, It' so hard to say this because it sounds so super mean. Lay her in her bed and let her cry it out. A few rounds of this and she will figure it out.

Hi M.,
I have heard of babies that are weaned before they are ready doing this. They have a "grieving period" getting over weaning. How adamant are you about her being weaned right now? Maybe you should think about continueing BF? Just a thought. :)
G.

I think if rocking her to sleep works and you want to..Do it. It won't be long until she will not want to cuddle. My daughter is 3 and doen't like to be held as often. I miss holding her before she goes to sleep. Reading a book before bedtime helps. Is she on a schedule?
L.