Recently Crying Non Stop

Updated on July 11, 2008
Y.A. asks from San Antonio, TX
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I recently found out I'm expecting our second child. My 13 month old isn't taking it too well. She never used to cry at daycare, but this week alone, she's been crying non stop until I pick her up, then she wont go with anybody but me. We took a trip last week and I was with her 24/7 for 6 days. What do I do? I'm not ready to quit my job just yet, but she's making it really hard on me. Advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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K.N.

answers from Austin on

I recall something about how around your daughter's age is when children develop the realization that mama exists elsewhere, even when see can't see you. I don't think her current behavior has anything to do with your pregnancy. Don't quit your job... This is a normal stage of her socialization and development.

Poked around on a search and found this explanation:

12 to 18 months:
Your toddler has learned that you are a separate entity and that you can leave her. However, she doesn't yet grasp the reliability of your coming back, which can make her very upset to see you go. This separation anxiety, which can come and go throughout the toddler years, typically peaks around 18 months and fades altogether by age 3.

In the meantime, resist the urge to sneak away when your toddler's back is turned — when you leave her at daycare, for example. It won't help her cope, and it may just make her more afraid that you aren't coming back.

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S.H.

answers from Houston on

I heard that kids sense when the Mommy is expecting!

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D.B.

answers from Houston on

I don't think your 13 month old is upset that you are expecting another child!! If you just spent that much time with her on vacation,she is probably just having a difficult time adjusting to being away from you and on a different schedule as well. This is also the age that they really start missing mom. you can try sneeking out, by having the daycare working play with your child and have them look the other way. Even though it is hard, she may just have to cry it out when you leave---believe me she won't cry forever--she'll soon find something else to distract her. You may feel horrible but it's a natural stage and you can't be there every moment anyways--even if you do stay at home!

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L.B.

answers from Corpus Christi on

Your child wants the attention, give her some, but let her also know that she is wanted and special to you.

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L.H.

answers from Killeen on

Hi Y.,
all kids go through a crying phase and mommy phase and i do think that my son'sd were about that age when it happened so i'd just give it a week or so and all will be noramal again ( whatever normal is LOL)
good luck L.

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A.B.

answers from San Antonio on

I have a 14 month old who is the youngest of 3 and I am not expecting. But she is doing the same thing(crying to be held all the time). I think it's a stage.

And it can keep happening as your daughter gets older, but of course with less frequency. For instance, with my two and a half year old, he gets clingy and whiny too from time to time. When we are sure that he is not sick, we just hold him a little more often than usual until he feels secure/satisfied for a little while a few times a day for maybe 1~3 days and then he's OK again.

So, hang in there!

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E.S.

answers from Austin on

I would recommend speaking to the director. Centers should have an open door policy and communication is very important. If the director is aware of the changes in your family he/she may be able to help. Your 13 month old should be connecting with a caregiver there and should be able to be consuled somehow. Childcare should be an extension of your family and children should feel comfortable with their caregivers. I speak from experience as a mother and a director of a child care center....not all kids connect with all caregivers.
Hope this helps.

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