Really????

He can want the moon... he can ask for the moon. You don't have to give it to him...

The more you spoil someone, the more they expect it.

Dawn

I would be thrilled my husband is cleaning out the shop and not watching TV while asking me to make lunch!

wow....Krista P & XINE are on opposite sides of the fence AND both are right in their answers!

Good points, good job Mamas! You both took the words right out of my mouth! Have a good weekend......

Sorry to giggle, but you don't have time to make lunch for people (when you're already making lunch for yourself) but you have time to complain about it on Mamapedia? Really????

Time for McDonald's and a chill pill. In the grand scheme of things, making lunch is fairly simple, particularly if you're already making it for yourself. Today might be a good day to teach your kids how to make their own PBJ sandwiches so this will not be an issue in the future.

Good luck!

Back @ T...Wow, mama! I guess if you want support for your position, you should try offering a few more details. Missing from your original post was the fact that you had a 15 minute lunch, that your school was obviously not prepared for kindergarten registration (yes, most of us mamas HAVE stood in those lines), AND that your husband was sitting on his bum watching tv. Hard to offer good advice if KEY INFORMATION is missing from the post! And if all you want to hear is "oh, poor baby" then you need to say so. Otherwise, many mamas will give you their honest feedback that you don't want to hear.

Hope your day improves!

if you are already making lunch - why not make it for everyone else?

most men are one-track thinkers...if they stop in the middle of doing it - then it might not get restarted...

i personally would just make lunch for everyone and tell him thank you for cleaning out your shop...

You're busy. He is busy. Why is one persons busy more important than another persons?

I think I would avoid the whole situation. Hit a drive through and not even stop at the house if you don't have time.

alright after reading your edit - what a jerk. he should make you lunch.

Aren't you already making lunch? Just make some for them, as well. It takes very little time. Marriage is give and take, and this seems like a very silly and petty thing to be so stubborn about.

Added:
If you had been clear, all of us who "put you down" might have had a different answer!! You didn't say you had already run the papers to the school. (HAVE suggests you were about to, not that you HAD already.) You didn't say you were going BACK to work. You didn't say you were going anywhere after you made your lunch. It's not MY fault, you left info out and made yourself sound petty. Include the information needed, and maybe you'll get the answer you want. Don't insult us, because YOU didn't give a complete scenario.

Well... considering your update, consider my response "revoked"! Personally, I wouldn't have even mentioned coming home for lunch as an option. You forgot to mention that you are at work today- you actually said it is your day off! You left out a LOT of details in your initial question.
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If you have time to make your lunch, why don't you have time to make theirs? You aren't stopping what you are doing... you were already going to get the "stuff" out to make your lunch, so why not do their too? Too much to ask?

Have you ever started on a major project and then have to stop in the middle to do something that someone else could EASILY do? Yup. Annoying.

Frankly, I would be annoyed with you too. Yes, I'm being judgemental here but this situation makes you sound selfish.

Giggle, did someone tell you marriage would be 50/50? They were wrong.

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Wow T - so your husband sounds like a lazy bum (from your point of view of course). It's a good thing your son doesn't take after him =)

Bum....your husband can make your kids lunches. My husband tries to pull that stuff too. Just go home, kiss your kids, make your lunch, pop your head in the shop and tell your husband, "Hi! The kids are hungry. Love you!" and go back to work. Your husband can figure it out.
L.

I guess I'm in the minority here, but, um - if you're working and running around and only have a few minutes to stop home and your husband is home with the kids - regardless of what he's doing - you told him you'd only have time to make lunch for you so in my mind HE might have thrown lunch together for everyone including you and this way, you could eat like a human being like everyone else. My husband doesn't exactly do things the way I would, but I will say with 100% certainty that he would have pulled his head out of his you-know-what long enough to realize he needed to make lunch for everyone. Thanks, bonehead!

If you have 3 kids, couldn't you just lay out 8 slices of bread, slather some PB & J on them, and have a sandwich for each of you? I pick my battles and this would not be one I'd be willing to wage, especially if I am making a trip home to feed MYSELF. Actually, I'd probably do 1 better and make one for my hubby as well.

*Edited to Add* Hmmm, well, you didn't say in your originial post that you were going back to work--you said "on your day off." My answer is TOTALLY different if you are going back to work! Yes, he should absolutely make lunch for the kids, and next time, don't even go home, just hit the drive thru.

Wow, why aren't you getting more support instead of "that's b/c men aren't multitaskers/ that's what mom's do - make lunch and take care of their families"...who says you aren't taking care of your family? You're busy, you can't make everyone lunch b/c it would take longer and instead of getting support you're getting bashed. Sorry!

I can understand why you are upset. What I don't understand is why your hubby didn't step up to the plate--offer to make lunch for EVERYONE and have it ready by the time you got there so you could enjoy a quick lunch with your family!!!!! Sometimes you just have to put it out there directly of what you want and need and say---Yes, I am am superwoman, but I am not a maid or a slave---we are a family and we work together. In order for that to happen, you need to help participate too. Please help our family by preparing lunch next time for everyone when I only have 15 minutes! I would really appreciate it! Thanks Honey!----

M

I think maybe a lot of people haven't experienced 15 minute lunches. By the time you make it you have 5 mins to eat it and leave again. If he was working on the shop he is very capable of making lunches, even though the oldest ended up making it while he was not working anymore lol. At your work you have a boss to answer to and can get reprimanded or fired for being late, it sounds like he doesn't answer to a boss at the shop.
No offense to moms who said they are YOUR kids and you should make them lunch, but if I remember correctly they are half of dad too so they are HIS kids too.

The fast food places, seriously, take forever and are unpredictable. If you had 15 mins or so then even with no line that is 5-10 mins not to mention parking, going in, paying, going out, then going home. I don't even know if you'd make it, especially if there was a line.

Lmao Janie L. Honestly that is the implication I got from reading some of the other responses, and all the gender excuses. Male is a gender, not an excuse. I've met and known plenty of guys who would make lunch for their kids even when mom was home doing whatever.

I believe that T was saying on her days off she makes their lunches so why can't her husband on his day off, is that right?

Guys can't multitask, it's a physical impossibility (except for that one dad on here, I think he's proven himself, LOL)...

Just brush it off. It's not going to change, but rest assured knowing us ladies are on your side with this one!!

hmm... I cooked dinner on mother's day this year. Why am I bringing this up? Well, not to be umm... insulting but you are a Mom and they are your kids. Why wouldn't you want to make them lunch if you are already making yours?

Back to mother's day. My first Mother's day I was so excited because yea, I was thinking of how I was going to spend my day off, get pampered etc. Well that didn't happen. I was so depressed and wondered why my family didn't love me. I was also going through a phase where I'm not just "Mom" - I'm also an individual with individual needs. Well, 3 years later and new baby, I happily embraced my mommyhood - especially on mother's day and unless I'm dead tired I happily clean the house, do laundry and make meals. Thankfully I have a great partner that helps out but I do almost 90% of the cleaning, and childcare duties. He does most of the cooking but I always offer.

edit: oh, and I work full-time and I'm in charge of dropping off and picking up the LO's everyday. Woot! There is nothing like the smiling faces of your LOs when you pick them up from school!

Bring home McDonalds ;-)

Yes marriage is a give and take: the men take, take, take and we, women, give, give, give. Ha ha ha. Sort of kidding. :)
I totally understand. Like my hubby, it sounds like your hubby doesn't want to stop what he's doing to make lunch. I'm sure it is only because he knows he won't get started again and he thinks you're right there and being so able and capable it would be so much easier if YOU did it.
If it's easy for you to do it, I say just throw it together (in order to pick your battles).
If you can't do it, then just let him know nicely that you can't.
Don't worry, I understand. Take it easy and do what you can.
Hope you have a great day! :)

I totally understand, It would be nice just to make lunch for yourself every now and then. That being said, if you have time to blog you should have time to make lunches. Good Luck!

Why couldn't he stop for a break and eat lunch WITH the kids. didn't read the other responses,. From your SWH it sounds like your post was misinterpreted.

I dunno... sometimes it seems like partners (not just men always,) get so used to one person always doing certain things that they get put out when asked to do anything out of their usual "stuff."

I don't know what the shop is, or what cleaning it entails, but where are the kids that he can't take a break to make lunch?

Men can only focus on one thing at a time. Women are multi-tasking. I am NOT a woman to dote on my husband and play June Cleaver. Not gonna happen here so I agree with you. Let him stop and make lunch.

I just read your "what happened" comment. I didn't read the other women's responses but they sound like the type whose name should be June! LOL Now, if the situation were reversed I wonder what their responses would be, lol! Yah, men can be such bums. My teenage son is out of town this week visiting his aunt and uncle. I assumed with our family of 6 that when our son left that my husband would help pick up the slack and do the dishes garbage and recyclables. Nope! He didn't do squat and actually became more of a pig! WTH?? So I've been making his life miserable by barking orders to get him to do the simplest stuff around here. I still have 6 year old triplets in this house and the whole skating thing isn't happening! Touch cookies!

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

I would be pissed he couldn't handle such a simple multi-tasking job. Men wonder why I don't feel they are as good as women - here's a major reason. I could immediately list off at least 10 more - but I'll be nice LOL

Haven't you heard T? Men's time is far more valuable than women's, and their work is also far more important! Lol.

Hi, T:

There is something going on behind the scenes between you and your husband. Do you know what it is?
Just want to know.
D.

Men are not good at multi tasking. Be straightforward with him and tell him what you said on this website. As a wise male friend told me,you have to be straightforward with men. Tell him how you feel. Yes,men can be fustrating but at least there is never a dull moment.

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Men are not good at multi tasking. Be straightforward with him and tell him what you said on this website. As a wise male friend told me,you have to be straightforward with men. Tell him how you feel. Yes,men can be fustrating but at least there is never a dull moment.

Ahh, lunch. I feel your pain. My husband travels all the time, so I always make ALL the meals, but when he's home we sort of "take turns". But right now we're each in a crunch of "home projects" before he leaves again. We both just want to WORK without stopping to make everyone "lunch". Every day it's "who gets to keep working, and who has to stop and make lunch?" And then it happens again at dinner. Annoying!

All I can say is that it will be nice when the kids are old enough to get their own dang lunch. :)

I feel for you! Unfortunately I have a 7 month and 3 year old and I get no help at home at all and because since I stay at home, and my my husband works, he thinks that I should do everything. I give both kids a bath (god forbid I ask for help.. ther could be a game or movie on that he's watching or he's tired). I do everything and I mean everything.. My only comfort is knowing that when my kids are bigger, they will have great memories of mommy and know that they can count on me for anything and I'll always be there. Guys just don't get it. I'd like to know who said women are the weaker sex because that is far from true.

Wow you got a lot of rude responses. Sorry I guess they are all perfect. Th I would have been upset too since he is home with the kids he should have already planned to fix lunch.