Questions on Miscarrige

I am so sorry for your loss. One site that I find comforting is: http://www.ourhopeplace.com.
While it is geared towards friends helping friends cope, the focus on acknowledgement is important.

So sorry for your loss. Before I had my son I also experienced a miscarriage at 6.5 weeks and I was devastated. But time does heal and I did become pregnant right away so don't give up home. Things happen for a reason.

Oh L., my heart is breaking for you. I have been where you are too many times. I have had a total of 7 miscarriages, some early and some late, and also have an angel baby who was born at 24 weeks with no heartbeat. I also do have 3 children that are healthy and growing like weeds. When I think back, I am so happy and proud of myself for not giving up.

Please be patient with yourself, let yourself grieve for your loss.

I never had a D&C so I am no help there. But I do know that having a miscarriages takes the same things out of you and you will sometimes feel like you have just given birth. So for 11 weeks your body was making all these changes and now it has to make all the changes again to be back to where it was before. So not only is your heart breaking right now, you have all the physical pain as well.

It took awhile but I have to believe that God has a plan and that he needed the babies more then we did.

Good Luck to you and if you want or need to talk please send me a message. You can and will get through this..

One of the websites that I use to go to a lot was babyzone.com There are wonderful women on the boards there that are or have been through exactly what you are going through right now.

This website has poems and quotes on it. http://www.godspreciousgifts.org

This is another site that has items like books and such.
http://www.rememberingourbabies.net

Ang

L.,
Let me start with i am sorry for the loss of your child .I to have been there i lost my little one 5 years ago for me and my husband it was a week if not more that we were physically just unable to deal with anything stayed in bed and just watched movies and ordered in. Even had a chicken for thanksgiving supper. It took family and friends to help us thruogh the hurt. And of course time And yes physically the cramping was miserable but it does subside as the uterus goes back down. If you feel the need to that is waht your dr is for let them know u need there support right now.L. hopefully in time you can rember this loss but be able to allow the love for anthor child. It took me a couple of months after my loss to have my daughter so in a total was 5 years of trying to get my little girl. I wish you the best of luck on concivening anthor and this might not feel like the best timt to consive but after a d&c it is said that it is easier to get pregnant and for us it happen that way . Once again i am sorry for your loss. My best wishes and thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry for your loss. This website has a lot of info and helped us a lot after our baby passed. Hope this helps.
http://www.pregnancyloss.info/

L.-

My dh & I conceived & gave birth to a healthy little boy almost 5 years ago. When we went to try for our 2nd we never thought for a moment we would be in for such heartache. I - like you - miscarried & did not find out until there was no heartbeat on the u/s. It was devastating. We were soooo excited & when there was no sound the tears just poured from our eyes. A few months later we conceived & lost again! I too had difficulty sleeping, cried easily, experienced mood swings...I think it has a lot to do with how hormonally imbalanced you are after the m/c. STAY POSITIVE & lean on your husband for emotional support during this difficult time. Don't give up HOPE about the future & conceiving again...my dh & I had given up "trying" & are now pregnant & due in July.

I am new to MamaSource but this is a GREAT place to vent your emotions! If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or a positive pep talk - just message me!

Hi L.,

I'm so sorry about your loss. Miscarriage can be much harder than people realize. I have two beautiful daughters but my first pregnancy and a pregnancy after my second daughter both resulted in heartbreaking miscarriages. Now, years later, I don't really think about it so much or feel a strong sense of loss about it, but I did for a very long time.

Two words of advice:

1. Don't be afraid to aggressively question your doctor if you are concerned about your post D&C symptoms. I know that I continued to bleed and cramp for at least 6 weeks after my first miscarriage and I benefitted from getting a lot of reassurance that it was normal including a follow up ultrasound.

2. Don't be too discouraged. Miscarriage, as I'm sure you know, is very common-and many women go on to have normal and healthy pregnancies-though i know the worrying can make it hard to believe this could happen to you.

Good luck and treasure your baby boy and all the wonderful things in your life.

When I had my miscarriage I found a lot of support from www.parents.com. If you go to community and click on lose it's all other women who are going through the same exact thing you are. Sometimes it helps just to get it all out. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It is very hard to get past it. And if you do decide you want to try again your next pregnancy will be plagued with worry. Just remember, mourn the loss of this child, you'll the thankful you did. Good luck to you.

L.,

Please be gentle with yourself. Allow your grief to be...the physical aspect of your miscarriage has to happen...your body has to "birth".

I've had multiple miscarriages and a baby die just after birth. I found www.mothering.com (go to the MDC forums section) to be a source of great comfort. So many mamas - all willing to listen, share, give advice.....

Sending peace to you, mama.

Hi L.
i am so sorry about your loss. I had 2 miscarriages, my 1st one i was 4-5 weeks and the 2nd one was 9-10 weeks and we heard the heartbeat a few days before and it was thanksgiving week and my 1st babies. I was also on bedrest the day i actually miscarried. I was a mess. The cramps were very bad. At christmas i have 2 angels with a dove and the dat i lost my babies on my tree. You dont forget but it does getr easier. My miscarriages were in 8-19-02 and 11-19-02. I am proud to say i have 2 boys 4 and 2. I wish you all the best and if you ever want to talk email me. I am here for you, mother to mother woman to woman
take care
K.

dear L.,

i am so sorry for your loss. i, too, had 2 miscarriages and d&cs before having my daughter with the wonderful help of dr. kreiner and staff. do question your doctor about your symptoms. with my first, i took off a week more for emotional time, but with my second, i was back working as a physical therapist in 3 days with no restrictions. it took me about 6 weeks to get my period back. many, many girls(7 now with 10 babies between us) i work with have dealt with miscarriage and fertility difficulty. we all now have happy and healthy babies. it can be a terrible time, no matter how far along you are. lean on friends and family,as well as others who have been through it.

I sympathize with you. I am so sorry. Please I know its hard but do not feel discouraged about the loss. I am a very strong person and please keep yourself strong also. I had three miscarriages. My first one was at 12 weeks. I had the appointment to listen to the heartbeat and there was none. That was my first pregnancy ever. It was emotionally hurtful and yes the cramps was horrible. I kept myself strong and I tried to be strong for my husband because he handles things so much harder than I do. I do not have any articles or anything like that but the cramps and the tears they will go away just keep yourself strong. Honestly keep god in your life and prayers and he will give you another blessed pregnancy. I never had a problem conceiving so I am sorry I have no advice there.....Good Luck and My prayers are with you...