J.W.
M.,
I would look for a doctor willing to sit down and talk to you and your sons. I would see what is most important to you, like appointments, views on vaccines, general medicines, etc.
I actually have a female dr for my son and her associate is a man. My son sees both of them by my choice. I am slowly moving my son to the male so he is more comfortable as he gets older. Anyway.. his name is Dr. Charo. He is with Pediatric Solutions out of Arlington Heights I believe. I moved with them from their Northbrook office. What I like best about Dr. Charo is he talks to the kids like they are the patients and not the parents. They have great hours, never have had to wait more than 5 minutes for my appointment.
http://www.pediatricsolutions.net/default.htm