Question About Friends and Kids......

I think I would tell my kids that I won't be hanging around that family anymore due to some stuff that I don't want to disclose to them. I would tell them that sleepovers are out and that the kids won't be coming over for visits, but I wouldn't force them to not take their calls or monitor any social network sites they are on, ie facebook, etc. Good luck, I had some friends I had to cut off once, it was tough, but sometimes you just have to do it. Hang in there!

Sometimes people need a time out. Even adults.
No explanation necessary.
Find other things to do because you want to spend more time with your own family.
You don't have to say anything bad or negative. If you handle it right, your kids won't even know there is a problem. They miss the other kids or even ask about them, but all you have to say is that you want to do other things too.
You don't say how old your kids are.
I have cut off ties with people and it didn't mean I couldn't still love them from afar, but it was better that way.
Keep things short and sweet and focus on doing other things.

I've been in that situation unfortunately... and I pray it's not the same reason I had. What worked for me... just be unavailable. It will take time... but each time a child from that family wants to come over or do something, be unavailable... make up something important that you already have planned. Make a list now... going to the beach/park/picnic. Have family movie or game night. Plan a suprise trip to a family member. Have several "home projects" ready... spring cleaning, make t-shirts, crafts, etc. "Oh, I'm sorry, but we already have plans..." You have to be prepared to do things on short notice, and explain to your kids that you're sorry you forgot to tell them, you wanted to suprise them, etc.... Eventually the other kids will stop calling, and you are not the bad guy. If you try to put a definite stop to it, then your kids might rebel, and you may not want to explain the reason why...
It took a few months for me, but my kids now hang out with other friends, and there was no big blow up over it... Hope this helps...

You have to decide what is best for your kids, not what is fair to them. If it is best for them to severe all ties, then you have to. Be honest with them as to your reasons (without the gory details if any) and help them to understand that it is for the best. They need to respect that of you. If isnt a harm to their safety and well-being to remain friends with them if they want to, then let them decide.

How old are your kids?

Do the kids go to the same school (if they are in school), have the same friends, etc? With toddlers it's easy. You don't like the parents/kids you simply don't hang around with them anymore, end of story. But with school age children, if they live close enough to each other that they see each other at school, have the same friends, are on the same soccer team, you can't prevent them from hanging around each other any more than you can stop it from raining.
Instead of trying to enforce rules you really can't enforce, why not talk to your kids about the things that are bothering you without sounding mean? The last thing you want to do is make your children defend their friends. But if you can have an open conversation and just sort of say that you don't like some of these things, you realize that they have friends that do it, but these aren't the sort of behaviours you want to see from them. Hopefully, if phrased correctly, the children will understand. It doesn't mean they will stop hanging out with those kids, but maybe they will start to understand that the swearing and stuff is not necessarily appropriate.
Hope that helps.

Are your kids starting to act that way?? If yes, then it may be best to separate them. If not, then you could just keep watch & if they start acting that way, then let them know that's not okay w/you. People, including kids, may start to act like those they hang out with, or they may not. I know some adults that do as well as kids, strange I know but it happens. I'd say just keep watch & either wait til your kids start misbehaving then separate them & yourself or just sit them down before they might start misbehaving & let them know the way their friends behave is unacceptable & they're not allowed to hang out w/them anymore b/c of it & that you don't want them acting like the other kids do. Ultimately it's your decision, I know you'll make the right choice for you & your family. Good luck!

wait i think its only fair to give them details. why leave room for wondering. espically when it needs to be addressed. and you can say its a negative effect on your kids. give her the chance to fix the problem. even if its after your friendship is no longer. why beat around the bush get straight to the point. if your not thinking your going to be friends anyway why worry about offending her or having a conflict.

If your kids have ANY understanding of the offensive
nature of this family, it may inspire good choices in
future relationships and teach responsibility to make these
hard changes in friendships. Know that anything you
say to them or anybody may be made public. Only tell
people that will benefit with this. Know the difference
between benefit and gossip. We all benefit from positive
role models and relationships. Good for you for
recognizing this red flag and doing something about it.
Kids will naturally be influenced by others. Let them understand
what is offensive to you and the hopes you have for your
family. Lots of luck and understanding
know they will understad some day and they must trust you
for now. Encourage talking about their concerns without
givig out more information than they need to know.
It could become so messy if your concerns fall in the
wrong hands.?

If it's in the kid's best interest to cut ties than you simply have to do that, regardless if they understand or not.

Nope. You cannot sever your kids' friendships. However, you will probably find that as you sever ties with your friend, that the kids will follow suit. If you adults are there to sponsor family gatherings, etc....They will just naturally see each other less.

Another option is to encourage your children to establish new friends or play more with existing friends. Depending on how old they are, they have pretty flexible allegiances.

Whatever you do, don't say anything negative about the family. Kids always repeat what they hear. You don't want to start the spreading of unkind words. I don't know how old your children are, but I would just simply say that your family is just really busy anytime they ask about them coming over. Sometimes with little ones its better to go around the situation and distract them in other ways. Good Luck.

If what they are doing, as a mom, you definetly need to ask your kids to stop their friendship as well. This is part of you looking out for your children, and showing them there is a RIGHT and there is a WRONG. Unfortunetly most people do not know this anymore and that is a shame. Good luck and God bless