S.W.
I've gone through the same thinking and emotions you are sharing with us. From what I've experienced and from what I've heard from other parents, there is no magical spacing of children. There are great things about any spacing and there are uncomfortable things that we all experience no matter what. I decided to have my three children based on instinct that told me I was just not done yet. I did not want to be one of the moms who speak of their regret of not having another child and wish they had...I'd rather go through another short term in life lack of sleep and effort to change diapers than carry any regret. I'm done having children now. I am so confident and set in this decision and that is a nice place to be.