J.M.
Hi Krystal:
I believe,this incident made you second guess your fiances true feelings regarding his relationship with your son more than anything else.Yes, it hurt your feelings,but more than that,you hurt for your son.Hes still very young,and won't remember this incident years from now,however you will.Unfortunately,we can't take back,whats already been said.Thats why its important to (think before you speak)Whats troubling,is that your fiance barely knew this individual,yet felt,it warranted an explanation.Had your son been four or five,and he openly denied his close relationship with him,this could have been extremely damaging to the boys self, esteem, and destroyed an otherwise wonderful relationship.I'm not saying,this incident,should be reason to end your relationship,however, it is good reason to have a very serious discussion regarding his true feelings. I believe,he needs to make up his mind.If he wants to be your sons father figure,then act like a father.Don't confuse him,by denying the relationship he has built with him. EVER.Don't profess,to play a vital part in this boys life,then make lite of the significant difference the boy has made in his own.I want to add,that I have two beautiful Grandchildren, 14 and 15 whom I love more than life itself.Their mother abandoned them about 2 years ago and their Grandfather and I spend a great deal of time with them.I can't count the times,that i've been out with them,and someone would comment" Your mom" It's touching,when neither of my Grandchildren will dispute my given title at the time.No correction from them and who am I to deny them? To have someone declare their mother cared enough to take them shopping? We simply smile at one another.I think you need to let your fiance know, that you didn't take his comments lightly,and that he needs to do some soul searching. You need to come to some agreements regarding his relationship with your son.You don't want him hurt.I wish you and your son the very best.