Problems with Daughter Being Irritable and Clingy

Hi there. I'm also expecting and my daughter just turned 2 years old on Sunday. She too has been extremely clingy from almost the exact date I found out I was pregnant! She was NEVER clingy before - so it's taken some getting used to. My husband and I absolutely believe she senses that there is another child on the way. I'm not due until the spring and I'm not showing yet so I know it's not my bodily appearance that brought on this behavior. I'm not too concerned about her behavior though. I figure it's best to give her as much time, attention and affection that she wants - knowing that I'll have to share my time when the baby arrives. Hope this helps!

She may be sensing your body changes and probably notices you are tired and maybe not quite as attentive as you have been in the past. Remember her world is about to change completely and she will no longer be the ONLY ONE and this will be a big change for her. Get together with friends and let her start developing independence from you NOW. Teach her to help you now before the pressure of the baby comes. Having them so close together will be tough no doubt but enjoy both of them. This time will be gone before you know it.
C.

Dear A.,

Your daughter sounds right on target for the 'insecure' phase. I've noticed with my three that they go through this between 9 mos - 2 years. Whether it's partly due to your pregnancy or not, I encourage you to meet those needs now rather than try to force independence (which our culture is big into). We've noticed that if we sacrifice on our part (carry them in a sling when they want to be held, stay with them in their church nursery class, or whatever need there is at the time) that they will grow out of the phase naturally and with great security. Otherwise, it can be prolonged or create insecurities they'll carry with them later. We've even noticed that children nurtured in this way usually end up not needing a security blankie, stuffed animal or other security substitute - they learn that they can turn to their parents. It's really neat - and so worth the effort. I wish you the best!

Congratulations on your new baby - how exciting!

Blessings,
R.

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My son is 6 and I was warned he might be clingy. I am 7 months pregnant and even before I knew I was pregnant and then even before I told him, my son was clingy with me. My mom told me he senses the baby and I believe it. My son has always been protective of me, but since i got pregnant-it has doubled. My son is looking forward to a sibling, so it sounds to me like your daughter might not have decided if this is a good or bad thing. My mother told me when she was pregnant with my sister, I would not go near her! You might want to talk to your child regularly about the new arrival and what she can expect. Point out all the pluses for her, like someone to play with all the time, etc. You might also look into where you are delivering-if they have a siblings class for her age that will help prepare her for all the changes. Good Luck!

I think she might be torn between her newfound independance and her need and love for you. hold her when she needs it and support her when she dosent want to be held.