Problem?

Sorry you haven't received the responses you were hoping for. I am also a Carthage resident and hope you like the area. Being a single Mom is very hard, but very worth it. My daughters are older now and finally understand some of the decisions I made when they were younger.
Hang in there. It does get better.

Welcome to the neighborhood!

My kiddos are older so I tend to relate more to those questions, unless it is something I truly think I can help on. I'm sorry if you feel shunned in any way by "us".

Feel free to jump in ask questions or chat with us!

Hi N.! no it's not you, none of my questions have gotten any responces either!
Sorry to hear you are a single mom, with twins, no less! I feel for you. My daughter has 11 mo old twins too, and her husband is in Quiwait, so she might as well be single!
M.

What is your problems you are having? I just subscribed to this not long ago.
What do you do to work from home? I am a recently single mom to 4 and would like to find something I can do at home and still care for my children.

Sorry about you're lack of response. I looked up your postings and I can't really help. I'm in Memphis, not Columbia, so I can't recommend a ped. or cleaning service. Your problems with you oldest son, I'm as flabbergasted as you. I have a 4 yr old too who is also my snuggle buddy and always been and awesome sleeper. He has started being a bit more physical, hitting and shoving/screaming and running from us. But it's within normal testing boundary kind of limits. I don't know what I'd do if he started behaving like yours. He does sometimes tell me he doesn't like me or love me or that he's mad at me, but never said "hated" yet. Your son is so young to have gone through so much turmoil already. I'm sure he is just reacted to all the change in his life. Just make sure he knows that you love him no matter what but that his behavior is unacceptable. I would definitely find a ped. quick to talk to or maybe even try calling your old one and describing over the phone what's going on. Having known your son prior to the change he/she may be better able to help you anyway. If you are at all religious find a church home. I'm not very church involved but church group can offer wonderful social and emotional support. We do not attend church regularly but my oldest son goes to a church-run MDO and they are a great source for me for doctor recommendations and to discuss problems with the other moms with kids in his classroom and his teacher.

N.,
I am new to the Knoxville, TN area also. We are in an apartment complex, hopefully for only a year until we find a house. My husband took a job here that's why we moved. What brought you to the area? I posted questions since I've been here, I have only gotten 6-7 replys. I just figured it was because I asked about homeschooling and that not many people on here do that. I am looking into medical transcription courses to do at home then be able to work from home. What do you do from home?
C.

Hi N.. I live in Bell Buckle. Not sure exactly where you are. I have not sent in too many requests, but I did have one that I actually posted twice with no responses. Not sure why except no one can relate. It wasn't a mommy question as much as an "unemployed husband" - desperate situation - need creative ways to either generate income or how in the world to find work around here.
Anyway, I will try to keep an eye out for your name. It is great that you are able to work from home and still be there for your kids. What a tremendous blessing! Did you put your business on the site also? Good luck to you in your place in life. Hope to hear more from you!

N. - I'm an old mom - old enough to be a grandmom but not. I'm sorry you are not getting responses to your questions. Can you repeat them for me and I'll see what I can do? Or - email me direct - ____@____.com.

Bernie

N.,
I don't know about others, but I only reply if I have had a similar problem. I don't like to tell people what I "think", just things that I "know" because of experience with the subject. If you have a problem that I have had experience with, I will respond I promise.
K.

What's your question...maybe I can help!
A. B

Hi N.,

I too apologize if I have over looked your requests. I am a single mom to a 1 year old and I know how difficult it can be and I have alot of questions!!! I am sooo sorry!!!! Feel free to message me at anytime... I am not that experienced but I am always more than willing to try to help find answers!!!

I am a grandmother (61) taking care of the grand daughters (10 and 7) while my daughter works and also teaching piano lessons. I have only lived in NC for 11 months.
I will be glad to answer any questions that I see you write! I know how much I needed help while raising my daughters and sometimes need help with my grand daughters!
Write on N. H!
we are here for you!
J.

Unfortunately, I understand how you feel. There have been times that I just don't ask because I get so few responses, if I get any at all. Have you tried other mommy sites? I use www.fayettevillemommies.com, and have found everyone on there super helpful and informative. Another perk of that site is that they have events, playdates, and other things for both my little girl and myself. Give it a try... I think you'll like it :-)
Good luck,
Nikki

I don't think I have read any of your questions. You may want to consider reposting.

Bless your heart! Don't feel too bad...I put out a question once and never got any advice either! Not sure if I did something wrong or not - but I promise if I see your name on here and if I know anything about what you are asking..I will definitely respond!

I am new to mamasource but would love to answer any questions i can. S.

Hi N.,
Congratulations on being able to work from home! My children are basically adults but I'm in the loop a little since my nephews are 6 & 1. There are several MOPS groups in the area. (mothers of preschoolers) The one I know of is at Fairview United Methodist church on Old Niles Ferry Rd. but there are many others.
When my sister, a stay at home mom moved to the area a few years ago, MOPS & church is how she met many friends & learned of other resources in the area. I work every day so I wasn't much help to her,plus I was out of the little kid loop.
Someone signed me up for this site but this is the first time I've responded, since my kids are in the college phase now! By the way, you might want to set up a 529 acct now!
I'll keep writing as I find out more info from my sister, & I'll sign her up for this site today.
Good luck N.,
L.

Hi there! I had the same problem on a couple of my posts and found that it's usually the subject title that will or will not attract responses. Look at what some people put for their subject lines and then maybe edit yours a bit and see if you get some response that way. It is a little disheartening so if you still do not get a response, try the "what to expect series books" for help or ask some mothers you know. You can also go to www.meetup.com and look under parenting for some mom's groups there. Good luck!

Hi N.
Good luck with responses, I'm new to motherhood and mamasource. I have been getting advise. Hope some comes your way soon!
J.

you know, sometimes, depending on when I post a question, it doesn't get added to the main email. I don't know what goes on with that. I'm sorry you havne't been getting responses :(

Hi N.!

I just wanted to say hi and that I'm sorry you're not getting responses. You might try reposting your questions; maybe a different set of moms will see them. I will go back through your questions; I don't feel like I have any good advice for you on the first ones I saw! I have an 18 month old and a 7 week old. But I hope that other moms see your questions and give you some good advice soon.

Take care,
K.

Hi N.~
Welcome to the area! I can only speak for me and that I am sorry that you're not getting responses to questions. Speaking for myself only, I check the site daily to see if there are questions I can respond to. If I feel that I have adequate enough info to give then I'll certainly respond, if I don't then I skip over the question. I have asked a handful of questions myself and some people have gratefully answered and some have not. I want to believe that they also may not have enough info to give. I hope you stay with the site, but if you don't feel like you're getting responses you need then I can recommend babycenter.com and it's not just blogs for the area you live in but across the US. I hope this helps and I'll be looking for your name in the future if you're looking for advice.
Good luck P.

I don't know how the questions get 'divvied' out on MamaSource (as in, who gets what set of questions), but I hope you get LOTS of support and response! So sorry you're a single mom. What a responsibility! (I can't imagine. Married 32 years and reared 4 kids together, now it's just 'us' and we're finally getting to know each other! LOL)

At least SOMEONE saw your query this time (me)!

God bless!

I'm sorry you have not had good responses... I guess I only respond if it's something I have experienced or know something about. I've had really good responses on several of my questions. I would say try asking them again. I will sometimes save things in my inbox until I can get a chance to get back to them. I have boy/girl twins that are now 22 months old- so I know how busy you are. I don't know how you do it as a single mom!!! My hats off to you. I promise to try and do better at responding to your posts in the future! I think this is an awesome forum, and have so enjoyed it. Feel free to contact me if you have any twin questions! :) I tell people I feel sorry for those that don't get to have 2 at once- but they do keep me busy! Blessings to you!
B.

Dear N.,
I too am not getting any reply for my request and I even wrote it different all over again. Maybe there is no imformation on it at this time. I hope someone has some answers to our questions. Maybe they only reply about children problems. That is good. But to be a good parent and feel good. Sometime a little advise is better than none, right?

Vicki W.

Dear N.,

I just read one of your questions and responded. I think I understand why people were reluctant to answer. We don't feel confidant about how to answer. :( Because you posted this, I responded, but I felt like I reall have no direct experience--no way of knowing what is right. But I answered anyway because I realize that sometimes even a scrap of an answer from one, and another little piece from another person, then another and another, may add up to at least something.

I only ever posted 1 question and it, too was never replied to. I assumed it was because nobody who read it could relate. They never encountered that problem. In my case, I just shrugged because it wasn't that important to get answered, anyway. But yours is different. Your question is very important.

I hope you get some advice you can use, even if it is only to have what we write spark unique advice of your own you can use for yourself. After all, isn't that how all this really works? We get collective brainpower, new views and perspectives, and that helps us to see a situation differently or consider new things.

(((( hugs ))))

N.,
Saw your request...are you still in TN? I think -my opinion of course is that your 4yr old is having issues with stability. First you move, have cancer (thinking Mom will be gone forever), then babies arrive, then Dad leaves, then you move again... that is a LOT of change for a 4 year old to take. Give him time and of course your constant love and get him around other family if you can so they can pick up the slack/empty spot that Dad left. I doubt if this is something that you haven't heard already from other people- good luck with everything and wish I had something better to give you! Also, it never huts to see a counselor for your son to talk to if necessary as he seems to have feelings that he just cannot express properly... his way is the yelling instead of telling you he's angry or frightened. Think about how he might see it: Mom almost dies from cancer and it could still happen leaving me all alone because Dad is also gone... who will take care of me?- I honestly wouldn't be surprise if that is his line of thought. Of course I'm not him or 4. Give him lots of hugs and just be there for him. I'm sure he will calm down once everything around him does. We'll be keeping your family in our prayers!
Kelly

N.,
I am sorry that you have not had any responds. I do not respond to everything for a vareity of reasons. But if I ever see anything I feel I could contribute too, I most defineitly will. Keep your head up. I have moved here (Murfreesboro) three years ago and still feel like an outsider.

R.

Hey N.!
I think this is the first question I have seen from you. When I look at your profile, all I see is your responses to other people's questions, but no questions from you. Maybe something wrong with the site? I don't know. I know that I posted a question not too long ago and only got 1 response - my question never appeared in the daily digest for whatever reason so I don't think anyone saw it (except for the one mom who did respond).
Anyway, I don't usually respond unless I think I have something to offer or some experience with a situation.

Hope this gets resolved! I was certainly not ignoring you!!
Cyndi

I have had the same problem with not getting any feed back. I have had some luck with http://www.themommiesnetwork.org/.
I live in Fort Mill SC but they have groups all over Charlotte. I still look around Mamasource and respond when I can. I hope you find what you are looking for.

I do not think it is intentional. People usually respond when they have advice. Maybe they are not sure how to answer your questions and do not want to give you bad advice. Like me, personally, I respond to things that I have encountered or like things in my general area which is Smyrna and Murfreesboro. I am not to familar with the outside areas. I hope you continue to ask your questions.

hey, i don't know what problems you've been having i don't always have an answer for some things or sometimes i don't check my mail daily having been a single mom i do know how that is as i have been there done that, my 2 are now 24 and 30, i am now helping my 24 y.o.daughter raise her 2 age 6 and 1, if you want to write me i will be happy to write back and answer any questions i can, meanwhile i will be praying for you and your little ones J.

N., Welcome to the area. I am only on this website because a friend from another state sent me something from here. So here I am. If you live in New London and or Albemarle area I would love to invite you to MOPS (mothers of preschoolers. If you have never heard of it it is the greatest resource and place for mothers. We meet every first and third Tuesdays at First Lutheran Church in Albemarle 9:15- 11:30 am. The questions you have and concerns we have all been there and or going through it. I moved here 1 year ago and this group of women has been a God sent to me. Truely a blessing and the most wonderful friendships have developed from it. If you ahve any questions about it feel free to contact me at ###-###-#### anytime. I pray you find answers and continue the greeat adventure in mothering:)
Blessings to you.

Hi N., I can relate to your problem. We just moved from Dallas to Raleigh and the mamasource "group" here seems to be MUCH smaller and more spread out geographically.

It seems way more focused on new mom and baby issues as it forms. It's all of our jobs to post reviews of service people and companies we love. Also, looking back over some of your requests, it appears it was for a cleaning person and pediatrician. Honestly, given how spread out the group is, the "right" person to answer that question may not have checked in that day or week. I know I'm guilty of deleting my emails from mamasource when I'm slammed with other things.

Don't take it personally. This group is just getting it's walking legs compared the mamasource group I came from. It'll come together.

Best wishes.

I have the same question! I got ONE response when I asked for ideas how to potty train my stubborn daughter and I would think that is an easy subject for most moms.... I too would like to know so I will read your responses!

W.

Welcome to the area. I don't check Mamasource regularly so I don't know what your initial question was. I try to respond only to issues I have personal experience with. I hope your questions will get answered soon.

I am sorry to hear that. I only respond if it is something I am familiar with and usually only if it is something I have had fairly recent experience with. I hope this won't turn you off your new home...

Hi N.,

Sounds like you've got your hands full! I hope that you've gotten some responses lately. I don't respond much because I always see so many other responses, I think that I have nothing else to add. But if I see your name, I will try :). I hope you like the area. My support group is the women in my church, Trinity Presbyterian in Murfreesboro. We do a study on Tuesday mornings and a play group on Thursday mornings and some Monday afternoons. If you're close by and would like to get to know some other young moms, just let me know.
L.

What questions do you need answering?
I will help when if I can.

Gotta ask you a question though. What kind of work do you do from home?
Where did you move from?

Enjoy your stay in Columbia. I have not had good experiences in Columbia.

M.

N.,

I have to echo the responses of the other mothers in that I try not to speak of what I don't know, and I don't check my email enough, so I often get around to the newsletter a bit late and figure that you have probably already had your question answered. I hope that your questions do get answered and please continue to post. thanks for bringing this issue to MamaSource Moms attention. You have made me want to do better.

K. C

It could be that there are just fewer moms in this area than where you moved from. I heard about the site from a friend in another part of the country... And it could be cultural differences too. My friends in some parts of the country have totally different issues than I do. I don't know, I'm just guessing... I usually don't answer unless I've been through it and know how I survived...lol.

But welcome. I'm fairly new here and also work at home with boys 9 and almost 2. I'll keep an eye out for your name now.

I understand completely what you are saying. I've asked a few questions before and had 1 response or even none. I think some questions are harder for people to answer or they don't really have any idea what to say so nothing is said. I know it can be frustrating especially if you are asking about things in your new town or somethning that really concerns you about your children. I don't know what kinds of questions you asked but I saw that you were from Tn and I live in NC so if you were to ask a question about TN I wouldn't have the slightest clue as to what to say. Just like you wouldn't be able to respond to a question I had about NC. Or say you asked about a condition that one of your children have but I know nothing about. You wouldn't eant me running my mouth giving you my opinion on something I know nothing about.......So I guess what I'm saying is dn't take it personal and don't use this as your sole source of info. Try different sites like CafeMom or a Meetup.com Message board(especially if it's about things in your new town)....GL

I don't think there's a problem either except sometimes we don't have similar issues so instead of posting 'wish I could give you advice, best of luck' kind of messages, we often don't post anything.

I've been here long enough to know that some posts generate lots of conversations, others not as much because of the experience of the mom's on here. It's not anything personal & I hope you don't feel it is. I can not imagine going this alone & you do it with 3 children.

I wasn't even sure where Columbia was from Memphis and we are fairly new to the area, just celebrating our 2nd year here. Keep posting, knowing that we are all reading what you are having to say & if we can offer advice we will.

I'd love to know what line of work you can do from home!

Best of luck to you N. & know that we Mom's are out there & care for you.

I see that you are in Columbia, TN. Probably part of the issue is that Mamasource usually only posts requests locally unless it's a really general question (I think,but I don't know). Maybe there aren't a lot of moms in your area. I'm in Charlotte, NC, and they posted it in this area. The Mommies Network has great on-line resources, but I see there isn't a group in your area. You can start one if you have the energy. Just go to www.themommiesnetwork.org. Also, there are MOPS groups in your area (mothers of preschoolers) and you can find those on the Internet (mops.org) if you'd like that. Hope this helps. Blessings to you.

I've been on mamasource for about 7 months and I too noticed most people get good responses, but when I wrote in I only got 1 response. So Let me know what you find out

Hey N.! I am not sure...One of the questions I asked got very few responses. I am a new mother myself and am not a bank of information yet. I've got a 3 month old so I am learning as I go too. I wish you the best of luck in finding out answers.

N.

What do you need help with? I I know what you need

J.

Dear N.,
I am sorry you haven't gotten responses. I am a mom of three and enjoy reading Mamasource, I have only responded twice to others. So I wouldn't take it personally. I hope you get the answers you need. Being a single parent is very honorable. Just keep loving those children and take good care of yourself. I will keep you in my prayers. Don't give up, I will be looking for yours. All the best to you, sincerely- S.

Hi N.,

I TOO am new to the area, but not new to mammasource. I have asked 1 question so far and not gotten an answer. I even went through the archives and found similar questions to mine and emailed the Moms directly to inquire if they had answers. I didn't get any answers from them either. I guess people are too busy. So, anyway, I wanted to validate your "pain".

Hey Moms out there ( or mammasource.com admins)are we missing something? Do we nedd to go somewhere special to see our responses? I thought they were emailed to our mammasource registration email address.
p.s N., I have twins too!

i am new to mamma source and will try to find the rest of your questions but don't feel bad i am sure more people will be answering you. sounds like your plate is full not only a mom of three but a single mom and twins !!! Wow you sound so wonderfully positive i admire your courage and strength. you put all of it together and then a job also. you should be so proud of you good luck in all your paths cindi

Well, I guess we just don't like you anymore! :D HA!
I have had the same problem with my last 2 requests (several weeks ago) and I haven't moved at all! I think sometimes they fall thru the cracks, b/c I didn't even see one of mine posted on the daily newsletter at all. I just resubmitted it, so hopefully I can get some help too!
Hang in there and God bless you for being a single mom! Being a mom is the hardest job in the world, I have the utmost respect for those having to go it alone!

I am going to try to read some of your requests now!
A.

Well, you have our attention now. Try reasking your questions and see if you get a better response. :) Sometimes I read questions too early in the morning(before my first cup of coffee has kicked in) and just can't form a complete sentence yet. Best of luck to you.
L.

Sometimes I don't answer because I don't have a good answer. Other times, I don't check Mamasource until close to bedtime and I figure others have already given their input. So what are your questions?

Hi N.

I hear ya! I wrote in with two issues and never got one response. I think both of mine were questions about the area I was living. So you are not alone.

I have responded to several general requests for mom's on this list. I think it just kind of depends on the type of question you ask. What questions have you posted?

J.

I am sorry that no one has responded. Sometimes I don't respond if it is a question thaT IS POStED OVER AND OVER AGAIN. iF WE READ THE ? AND RESPONSES REGULARLY, WE SHOULD NOT BE ASKING THE SAME ? OVER AND OVER. wELCOME TO THE AREA AND i HOPE THINGS CONTINUE TO BE OK FOR YOU. i TAKE THAT YOU ARE IN THE TRIANGLE AREA. i LIVE NORTH OF cHAPEL hILL. K. Sorry about the posting in caps, I am not a great typer.

I have had the same thing happen. I personally don't answer anything I haven't had experience with- no need for my 2 cents about something I don't know about. I see that a lot on other forums and always wonder why people think others care about an opinion based on nothing. :) Another local source to try is nashville.momslikeme.com. It used to be musiccitymoms and I really like it too. Welcome to Tenn, we love it here!

Ok Hon, I don't know too much about answering questions but I will give it my all in all. I am a grandmother of 3 beautiful children 1 yr old boy a 2 yr old boy and a 10 yr old girl their mother is also a single mom and then live with me right now until we can buy them a bigger trailor. She has also been a surro mom and she is my special daughter not many people can say that their child carried a baby for someone else who could not carry their baby. But anyway if there is anyting that my daughter and I can do for you we will be more than happy to do it or answer any question that we can.......my prayers are with you it is very hard taking care of 3 children by yourself....I help my daughter all the time....J.

I don't know enough to help. What kinds of questions have you asked? What area are you in? More details, please.

Good luck with being a newly single mom in a new area.

Yeah, try reposting. I personally only respond to requests that I can relate to or think that I have something substantial to offer. In this case, I would try expanding resources beyond just one. I am certain that there are plenty of single moms on this site as well as mothers of multiples let alone toddlers in this group. I did do a quick look up online...maybe this will help (if you haven't contacted them already).

Charlotte Mothers of Multiples
http://www.cmoms.net
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Hi N.,

I have am not sure what your previous questions have been but I am sorry you have not received responses. I am also a work from home mom. My husband is stationed here. I have a 2.5yr old awesome boy.

My business is new but I have enjoyed it so for. I am an Educational Toy Consultant for Discovery Toys, how about you?

God bless, I hope future questions brings more responses,

T.

Hey N.,

I know how you feel. My first couple of questions on here went unresponded as well. But, then my next question did. I try to respond if I have anything to contribute from knowledge or past experience only. Don't get discouraged. I do not think you are being ignored or anything.

A.

N.,

I have looked over your past entries and only found only responses, and no questions from you. This may be a site-related problem. You should contact the webmaster.

However, if you still have other (mama) questions, you could re-post them so that others may help you out.

Good luck!
S.

I am new to mamasource and posted a question and never saw it posted. I do not know if it was posted or if it just was not posted to my in box. I do not know. But a few people did respond and the few were instrumental so it is not the quantity, but the quality also.

Don't be too upset. Repost the question, someone new may see it and that will be the person that will have the advice. I do not respond to postings that I know nothing about. I do not think most moms do, unless they have further question to find a way if they think hey might, or they have resource information they think can help. Re-post, the one that did not get that e-mail, may get it this time.

Good luck and God Bless.

Dear N.,

I am sorry you haven't gotten responses to your questions. I don't usually respond unless it is something I have experienced myself. It must be difficult to be a single mom with 3 toddlers at home. If you need to talk, I am here. I hope you get some responses to your questions. And by the way, welcome to the area. I hope you find happiness here.

B. B

What was your original question? I'm sure that this is not happening on purpose, maybe no one has had the same experience to give you advice on? I probably can't help too much. I am 21 weeks pregnant with my first. But I can certainly try. Millie

dear N.,sorry to hear that noone was responding to your questains.all of my children are older my youngest is nine.I have know idea what to sugest for twins even though my husband is one.i'd say you need answers from someone thats had multipal births or someone that has a daycare and is used to handling several children at one time an you will need a scedual to simple fly things.such as a certain time to eat,play inside, nap,picture,keepk up toys,play outside,bath time ect....that should do and make thungs easyer.and you might consider someone to help you watch them while your working.good luck and welcome to mamasource

N.,
I am not new to the area but I am new to Mama Source. So im not sure why no one is responding....maybe try and repost? Im responding because i also have twins (boy and girl 3 months).... GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Hi N.,
Sometimes it depends on if people feel they can help. I received like 40 replies to one of my questions, but zero to another. Also, Mamasource is supposed to connect you with "local" moms, but many are actually from surrounding states. Sometimes I have no idea which city people are talking about. I responded to one of your questions. Hope you don't give up on this site- I think it has been great!

Maybe your just askin to hard of questions!

I don't really have an answer for you, but wanted to say hi. I'm new to charlotte too, but was on mammasource in ohio. I wish you all the luck here. Do you have family here? I'm on the nw side if you ever want to make a playdate!