My daughter is three and has been going to preschool for about four months with no problems. She had an accident last week at school and peed her pants. The school called and her dad brought her fresh clothes when he changed her she apologized for having an accident but once she was changed she just went back to her class without a problem. I brought her to school this week and she was excited to go until we got into the classroom. She immediately asked to go to the bathroom but I had just taken her before we left the house. We went into the bathroom and she started to cough until she threw up. This has never happened before so I thought it was possible the she wasnt feeling well so I took her home just in case. Well my husband took her today and she did the same thing. Have any of you exprienced this and if so how did you get your child to overcome this fear of going to school?
Hmmm...this would make me wonder how the teacher handled the situation. Also, our preschool asks us to pack a ziplock bag of a change of clothing for accidents. Then it's taken care of immediately and there is less embarassment or being uncomfortable...not to mention then mommy and daddy don't have to be called, just adding to the possible embarassment...
Maybe the peeing accident un-nerved her... and she felt embarrassed.
How did the Teachers handle it?
At most preschools, it is asked that parents ALWAYS bring for their child's cubby, an extra pair of clothing. Tops/bottoms/underwear. Because at this age, it happens and is completely NORMAL.
At least at my Daughter's preschool, that is how it was.
The Teacher, when a pee accident occurred, just acted like nothing, not bringing attention to the child, would help clean off the child and change into clean clothing, and then back to class. The teacher would then put the soiled clothing in a plastic bag. The Teacher then would tell the Parents upon pick up, or call them personally. But not to demean the child, but just as an FYI.
My girl, at that age in preschool, had pee accidents too. Normal.
But in school, she had extra clothing already, which I brought to school for her. And which ALL the children had, in their cubbies, labeled with their name.
I would be interested to know, HOW the Teacher handled it... and did she then put your child aside... like a sore thumb, or just acted like nothing happened so as to bring no attention to the child nor embarrassment???
Because that, would affect the child.
My daughter, when she had pee accidents, was not an occasion where she had to apologize... nor to feel ashamed. I told her its no biggie and she is normal.. and all kids do that, still. She is not the only one.
Even in Kindergarten, kids can still have pee accidents.
Maybe, she is just feeling ashamed... and throwing-up is a sign of anxiety or stress, in a child or adult.
try talking with her, ask her how she honestly feels, not just saying something to please others or to feel ashamed. If it is still bothering her, then that's okay. Ask the Teacher about it... tell the Teacher it caused her anxiety/stress. Ask the Teacher how she handles "accidents" in class with the kids.
Often, talking about it with the Teacher WITH your child as a PART of the conversation...can help ally the stress/anxiety/fears in your child, regarding peeing accidents. That is what my daughter's Teacher did and I.... we talked about it TOGETHER, comforting her, and with "love" so that she did not feel ashamed...
All the best,
Susan
It definitely sounds like she is having some anxiety about this. It is totally normal at this age. It is possible that she was made to feel guilty for it or maybe she got teased about it. My son regressed a little bit in preschool due to some changes at home and it lasted maybe 2 weeks, then he was fine. The preschool teacher acted like it was just another thing within the scope of the day. All the kids had a change of clothes just in case. The teacher and assistants pretty much expected accidents now and then simply because they are so young and you never know what can happen at nap time or even during play.
At my daughter's preschool, they require us to have extra clothes for just such a situation. I often don't find out until the end of the day that my daughter had an accident until I find the soiled clothes in a ziplock baggie in her cubbie and my child wearing her extra set of clothes. I have also been at the school when other kids have accidents. EVERYONE, including the kids are very nonchalant about it. One kid will say "teacher, David needs help changing his clothes" and then a teacher will step in and clean up the mess, just acting like he dropped a crayon on the floor, or some other minor problem.
It sounds to me like somebody has made a really bad association with having accidents, and your daughter is reacting like she did something really, really bad. If it is the school, then I would reconsider your choice of preschools. Kids don't need this type of stress. Everyone has accidents, and She should not feel as though she did something terrible. Frankly, I'm surprised that she did not have extra clothes at the school. I think you need to talk to the teachers and determine how she was treated after the accident. I would be emotionally scarred if I was made to sit in my own mess, separate from the rest of the class, for the time it required for someone to fetch me new clothes from home, too.
She is haveing anxiety about wetting herself just keep doing whaat your doing she will eventualyge over it good luck A. no hills
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SHE IS HAVEING ANXIETY ABOUT WETTING HERSELF JUST KEEP DOING WHAAT YOUR DOING SHE WILL EVENTUALYGE OVER IT GOOD LUCK A. NO HILLS
