My daughter is 2 1/2 she started 3 year old preschool were I work. She cries all day and will not play with the other kids. She said i do not want to go to school. She has always stay with her grandparents or me. She know that i am there at work but can not see me anything i can do.
There are 10 kids and 6 are not 3 yet other just turned 3 very young. Class.she does not play with other kids in a group anywhere she goes she has been going to church form day one she does the same thing there
Poor girl.i am so sorry she has to go to school. She is just so young and not really ready. When kids are ready, they don't cry, they bounce off happily.
2 1/2 in a 3 year program. She is not ready. So young for school. She has her whole life for school.
How long has it been? For some kids it takes a few weeks to adjust. If it's a good program the teachers will work with her and she will soon be happy and playing right along with everyone else.
Keep in touch with her teachers every day, make sure they are helping her and guiding her. If this is more of a daycare where the kids don't get much attention I would look for something else. And if she doesn't NEED to go then maybe wait a year. A good preschool can be a wonderful thing but as long as kids are well taken care of and getting out and about around other children they don't really need it.
Just give her time to adjust.
Can she take a lovey with her? Do the teachers engage her and try to help her integrate with the groups of kids? Is there a friend she likes a little bit, and you could arrange a playdate outside of school with that child? Have you met with the teachers yet to hear their suggestions on how to help her adjust?
Those are the things I would start with.
I would talk to her teachers. If she started with 3 yr olds, then she may not be ready for their class. Is there a 2 yr old class for her? There is a developmental gap between 2 and 3 and if the 3s are really 3 turning 4, that's even bigger.
If it is an appropriate grouping of children, then talk to the staff about how to acclimate her. I am assuming this is preschool and not daycare and there is some structure to it that she will have to adjust to.
My son had a terrible time in the "2s class." He only started liking preschool toward the very end of being 3.
What I know now is that cognitively, not every child is ready for group play at 2. For some, they're not ready for the structure. Others (like my son) get overwhelmed by the chaos.
If you have to have her in preschool, can she be in a younger group, with a higher teacher/child ratio? Or can she stay with her grandparents and start school next year?
Just let it be. She'll get used to it eventually.
If you don't get her over this now imagine what kindergarten is going to be like. She needs to do this mom, help her adjust to being in class.
Hi, L.:
It normal for children not to play with each other at this age.
What are the teachers saying to you about your child?
How long has your child been in this school?
Children grieve over loss.
She has to learn to self soothe to learn to get over pain of loss.
Good luck
D.
