Pregnancy and Relationships

This is so normal!!! Remember that when you got pregnant you instantly got all theese brand new hormones in your body. And with that many hormones it is bound to mess with the chemicals in your head which will alter your ablity to make rash decisions. And when the baby is born it might only get worse. All those new hormones you just got will instantly be ripped from your body which is even more confusing. My advise is, remember why you fell in love with your boyfriend in the first place and hold on to that memory. Your mind and body could not be back to normal up to a year after the baby is born, if ever. Don't blame him for that. Praise him for sticking with you through your crazyness! Remember he loves you and you love him, and that precious little baby is a 24 hour reminder of that love.

yup!!! im 4 months pregnant with our 4th child and i cannot stand my husband. being intimate is the last possible thing i want to do right now. ive turned into a raging hormonal *****!!!!! i told him getting pregnant again was the worst thing i have ever done. i didnt mean it, i just cannot control my emotions..... good luck and hopefully we both make it

It is totally normal. My husband said that he loves me getting pregnant because we have a baby at the end of it all but he hates the way I act when I am pregnant. He said I act unreasonable and irritable about stuff that usually doesn't bother me. My mom shares his opinion. You will feel so much better when you have the baby. I am pregnant with our last child and I know that my husband will breathe a sigh of relief when this is all over and we don;t go through this again. Hope you get to feeling better.

Hey,
I'm 6 1/2 months and I totally hear ya. It's totally hormonal, don't worry :) Because of the hormones and feeling crappy (you know, tired, mood swings, sick, etc) we totally blame them for it (lol...kinda true) and it just seems like you're not in love because of it, but it's far from it. good luck!!

completely normal. I don't even want my husband touching my knee at times. just hang in there.

This is my second pregnancy and they have both been night and day. The 1st one I cried a lot and was very sensitive emotionally, but had a huge sex drive. This one nothing bothers me - but I don't want my hubby to touch me (much to his disappointment).
You might want to have a heart to heart with your man and tell him that you don't desire him less but need a little intimate space because the emotional rollar-coaster that is pregnancy is so different and you don't feel like yourself. Generally, guys just don't understand.

TOTALLY NORMAL!! Hormones are a crazy thing, and guys will never be able to understand how we feel. I had those feelings while prego, and even after for awhile. Don't worry!!! You need to be as stress free as possible, relax and enjoy :) I understand it's hard to do when you cannot stand to see his face (not sure that is quite what you feel but it is what I felt!), and cannot listen to one more stupid thing (even when it's not!) he has to say. In time you will feel better.

Congrats on the baby :)

Normal. When he gets on your last nerve be sure to warn him..
Do you have a book about pregnancy? It will really help you understand and have a heads up on what is about to happen..

I agree with Laurie A....Do you have a book on what to expect during your pregnancy? It really helped me for both pregnancies.
I just wrote a mom about her feelings about the "strangeness" that she is experiencing. I have to tell you....I felt the same way during my pregnancy and I will tell you...after you give birth to your baby, there is a bond that will happen usually post-baby, with you and the father. Sometimes during pregnancy you can feel very sexual and other times may feel opposite. It is entirely unique in every situation. Of course everything he does and says will annoy you...he's a man!! lol!! really, we are so hormonal! Us women, we need other women to talk to, and also leaning on family and friends really help you through this difficult emotional roller coaster ride....hold on!! It's fun and all so worth it in the end!!

Hi A.,

You are not falling out of Love. Most women feel this way and some of my friends actually separated then came back home after having the baby. I think it is the hormonal changes. You will find that you hate him when he is around but if he goes away you will miss him badly. You will be ok, the body is just trying to cope with the changes. Take heart you are not alone.

Good luck with your pregnancy.

Pregnancy and hormones are very strange bedfellows. I would suggest a talk first with your ob., next with a counselor to understand what the hormones are doing to your body, and if you are serious with this young man, a co-visit with the counselor. The more you know, the more you understand, and the more you are in control.

I'd highly recommend honest open communication with him. Pregnancy can be a wonderful time to share and become closer, and it's really important for the baby that you and the father have good communication - you owe it to your child. Tell him how you're feeling. Ask him how he's feeling (he's probably going through a rollercoaster of feelings himself). You can use a format such as Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to make it easier to talk about feelings. Explain to him about your hormonal changes (including the effect on sexual desire, since pregnancy can either increase or decrease desire). And it could also be that you and he are indeed drifting apart - if so, it's better to come to accept that sooner than later. If things are strained with him and you're having strong negative feelings, it's also good to communicate with the baby, letting baby know you're taking care of yourself and it isn't his/her fault. If talking with the father doesn't resolve things, it would be good to see a counselor. If you don't deal with things during the pregnancy, they can be a lot harder to deal with after the birth, when the changes are even bigger.

When I was pregnant the furthest thing from my mind was sex. Especially around the 5th or sixth month. As for not liking the father.....Relationships go thru times where you feel distant from the other half. As your hormons running rampant right now you should probably give yourself time to get used to the changes. You did not say how long you have been together. Most likely you will find the love you had after the pregnancy is over and things have gone back to a more normal routine. That might not be reight away either. Talkto him about it if the things he is doing are bothering you.

I think this is a totally normal pregnancy thing! Those hormones are strong! Try to focus on the things that you do love about him and tell them to him and write them down - this reminder will help both of you. I would say don't make any major decisions about your relationship during your pregnancy when things can be affected by all that is going on in your body!

I wouldn't worry at all. Your hormones are definately all crazy now and unfortunately probably will be for the next year or so, give it time & they will come back. But it takes awhile, just let him know you're gonna be alittle nutty for awhile. Homeopathy worked well for me...I had no "interest" for awhile, try http://www.portlandfamilyhomeopathy.com/index.html if you need to see someone good. Take care

I think it is completely normal. Not to say that you couldn't also be falling out of love with him, but I sure hope not. Being pregnant is a major roller coaster of emotions. Take a look inside and see if there are major reasons that you feel that way about him or if there is something that YOU need him to do for you...maybe there is something (security, affection, understanding, a footrub) that isnt being fullfilled for you right now. Talk to him about it (leave out the I find you discusting part) and tell him what you need from him, even if its more alone time....