I have one of these people in my family. Good grief!! She runs through people and church organizations like water...gimme gimme gimme...poor little me and think of my poor poor children (that she totally planned and got pregnant with on purpose every time!!)
I have cut her off...we do not speak or see each other at all...she knows not to call me. I can be civil at family gatherings, but that is it.
And other family members have started doing the same...well give her less...and then there are other family members who slam us for not being Christian or charitable or loving her no matter what...
I don't feed her anymore...and I don't play in the drama...I am out of it. I do feel sorry for her kids, but I will not expose my children to hers.