Potty Traning

You have probably figured out that it is not about the potty, it is about control. If you give her control over it, and don't intervene (change her, clean her up, etc.) she will likely decide it is not worth it. It takes a lot of tongue bitting, self control from you, but it shouldn't take more than a day or two for her to just get tired of being wet or dirty. Put her in regular underwear and stay with her in a part of the house you can clean. Maybe get two potty chairs and ask her to help you train the younger one. She is likely jealous of the attention the younger one gets while being diapered or whatever. If you gave her control over something else (what clothes she wears or what she eats for a while) she may be more willing to yield on this issue.

Whatever you do, do not reward her for non-compliance. If she can get a reaction from you, no matter how negative it is, she wins and the game goes on. If you make it her issue and hers alone, she will soon decided it is in her best interest to get this thing done.

I'm with Dawn S on this one. Throw out the pull-ups and diapers if you're still using them, and keep her in regular underwear. Ask her very calmly every hour or so if she'd like to use the potty. If she goes in her pants, let her sit in it for a bit. Don't get excited or raise your voice, just tell her that she needs to go in the potty next time, and walk out of the room.

When you do clean her up, have her help. Have her put her clothes in the washer or whatever is applicable, so she knows that she is creating a ton of extra work for you.

Also, I do think she is likely jealous of her younger sibling. Try spending one-on-one time with her and giving her lots of affection.

hi its been a few years 2 late but i did space my kids my middle child DID NOT LIKE it but he got over it now he feels like i ignore him but he is my smartest he doesnt like to show me his grades but..but he's the brain.. we'll find out

Try this, if you haven't already and providing you can get her on the potty. If you tell her ahead of time that you have a new trick for her to potty on the toilet, and she'll like it, maybe she'll cooperate. It sort of feels good in a calming and relaxing way.

Pour in a very slow trickle, a glass of luke warm water down the front of her starting right below her belly button, and let the water run down onto her vagina and into the toilet. It may take a few cups, but it eventually will get things flowing. She might just have to learn to let her muscles relax enough to be able to let her potty go on the toilet and this is a great trick. When she's successful...Party like crazy and call everyone you know to celebrate. That'll give her enough encouragement to try the next time. You might have to use this trick for a week or so, but after a while, she'll be able to control the feeling of letting go on her own without the use of water poured on her. (Make sure the water is no warmer that luke warm, or it'll be too hot and could burn that little soft area. It doesn't take much heat to feel too hot. My daughter was quick to jump when it was too hot for her, even when I thought the water was a little colder than I'd want it.) Seriously though...this worked EVERYTIME for my daughter. When she'd get on the potty, sometimes she'd say..I don't have to go. I'd do this and...SUCCESS EVERYTIME! This was a great trick for when I needed her to go potty prior to running out and doing an errand, not wanting to run the risk of her having an accident while we were out or away from a bathroom.

Good luck.

S.,
We did the same with my son and it dame down to "if you don't go on the potty you can't go to school". He wanted to very badly to meet new friends and unless he was potty trained it was not happening! If there is an activity that she wants to do then tell her plan and matter of factly that she just can't until she goes on the potty. If you get all dramatic about it, the fight won't end and she can sense that in your voice. All kids can! It is how you react to it that she feels she should react and they all go at their own times!

I know this sounds crazy, but my hubby's aunt did this with one of her kids. She was the same way.

She took the diaper off and let her walk around with no diaper. Sooner or later she ended up going to the potty. And when she had to go, she screamed to have her diaper back on. So be prepared.

You never know.

J.