Potty Training Problems - Holden,MA

My daughter trained herself at 18 months, peeing and pooping, but when she started preschool at 3 and 3 months she would make a mad dash to the bathroom as soon as we arrived home, running and flying through the door to use it. Our drive home wasn't that long so I suspected she wasn't going at school. I checked with them and sure enough, she would go when they went inside around 9:45, and wouldn't go the rest of the day. She had days we didn't arrive home until 4:15 - 4:30, so she was holding both about 6.5 hours. They started having her "try." per my request, even when she didn't want to, and she would go sometimes. We finally found out she didn't like the small kid-sized toilets, lol! She eventually got over the dislike and used them, but in her case there was a definite reason.

On the other hand, they told me that some children would be fine at school and not at home, and the director always suggested to the parents to have the child use the potty upon arriving at home, and taking them the same intervals they took them at school. If the routine was kept as similar as possible they seemed to stay on track better, the break in routine threw them off.

Duplicate, what they do at Daycare, at home.

But, many kids are like that.
My friend's son was.
She didn't "do" anything to him, at home.
One day he just got it.
He was not being willful about it.
And sometimes he just would NOT pee, at preschool.
He would wait until he got home.

We did not have this specific problem at home, but it isn't uncommon. I would guess it's one of 2 things. Do they take him at fairly regular intervals at daycare? He is probably willing to go when all of the other kids go, but it's not a fun activity when he's at home with you. I'm not usually a fan of the timer method for potty training, but if they take him at regular intervals it might help you avoid accidents at home if you just take him at the same times.

Alternatively, it could be that his schedule is different at home than at daycarel. My son is so active at daycare that he doesn't drink nearly as much water as he does when he is at home. Consequently he has to pee about twice as much at home. We have to remind him a lot more often to go and watch for the potty dance.

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have you tried explaining to him that he's a big boy now, he can do it at school, therefore he can do it at home- so he will get a time out if he has accidents? (of course, besides giving him fair warning you'd also have to follow through - EVERY time) i wouldn't be angry or blaming him, just state the facts. honestly, he's capable. for whatever reason, he believes he doesn't have to do it for you. that's a conscious choice on his part. seems to be a discipline issue to me, just my opinion. (i would also help him out by reminding him every hour or so. not "do you have to go?" -"it's TIME TO GO." don't let him tell you he doesn't have to go. he goes because you tell him to.)

Perhaps start by having regular times he goes. Like right before dinner and then right before bath? It doesn't necessarily train him to go at his own command but might save you some accidents. My daughter has gone through periods where she is fine and then other where, like you said, there is just a little pee. It can be quite frustrating. The easiest thing I have found is to just have a lot of undies on hand and not sweat it too much.