S.W.
We are just about in the same boat! I won't use panties, though...just pull-ups. When we are home, I let her run naked or half naked. She tells me when she goes and needs to go, but we do the same thing...sit with no business! Then she gets up and goes on the floor (and herself)! The theory is that children eventually just don't like wetting themselves anymore. I like the method. It worked with my other two. They were able to go with or without me when they were ready since they couldn't undo their own pants, pull-up, whatever. Yes, I have to accept the fact that I end up cleaning up the floor and wiping her down at the very least, but that's life, no big deal. I know it will pass. I don't ever bribe them with anything, though. I know the other two learned and eventually she will, too. She has successfully gone once, so I know she knows how much nicer it is to go in the potty than down her legs!