Potty Training Issues Still After a Month :(

Dear L., I know how you feel I just got my fixing to be 3 year old to potty. With my other kids they potty trained so fast and didnt need much help. This one was a pain!! not her the potty part lol!! Anyways I tried everything. I did the reward thing my kids dont have candy only occasionally... well for her I made it a point that when she went to the potty she recieved a candy. This helped but then got old!! :( I wanted to pull out my hair. lol but after about a 4 months of continueous reminder she finally got it. I would say praise him when he does go, make a big deal this made my daughter feel very confident. I also let her call daddy and tell him that she went potty she loved it!! Then if you are willing to reward him with something. Hope that this helps!! Hang in there I know its hard but you are a strong person just think we are raising 4 children. Sorry for the rambling!! ;) lol

I'm a single mom and my son was slow to catch on to this as well (well past the age of 3). He would do fine at Day Care all day long, then when we would sit down to dinner, oops, he had a mess in his pants - it would totally disrupt dinner every night (most frustrating)! Someone gave me the idea of a "reward system", so I offered a quarter for every time he "went poop in the potty".

I lived with my parents at the time, and after my son earned a $1.00 for his efforts, we all told him how proud we were of him and my dad rewarded him with another quarter as an added bonus. Suddenly he saw this as a very good thing and he continued the good behavior even without the "reward" system in place.

I know some people do not agree with giving "rewards" or setting the reward as money for something that they are expected to do and I had my share of people who openly disagreed with me even during the process, but it worked and I never had an issue with it after that.

Dear Happy Mom of 4,
I love to read on my downtime, but let's just say it busy mom's don't have much of it, maybe if you have an ipod or close by cd player there is a great book funny and true to life you even have something very specifically in common with the arthor, she is a mom of 4 also. The name of the book is " Girlfriends guide to toddlers" She says " Not to worry how old they are, every child especially boys finish this task when they are ready, and almost all have finished by age 5. I know this seems like an eternity in diapers, but it will save you a lot of time in frustration if you let nature take its own course. I have 2 kiddos, 5 & 2. My son the oldest who at his daycare suggestion we started trying when he was around 2. It was a full 11 months before he was finally potty trained. Most of my girlfriends with boys all say boys take longer. So don't sweat it, we have all been there.

I would think that most children do not get completely potty trained in ONE month! That would be so sweet if it did! Most children take one step forward and then two steps back when learning anything new. I would think that in a few more months it will be more constant. As for accidents, don't ever make it anything negative or it will backfire on you and take much more longer to learn! I think the WHOLE potty training should be a positive experince for them and it's one of the first things outside of eating that THEY (don't forget this part :) ) can control. Slow down and let him have some space to have some problems and learn on his own. My two cents...
C.

I doubt anything is "wrong" with him because children can take awhile to master the potty training issue(usually if they still are wetting the bed by age 6 or 7, there might be a bigger problem). If you just started at christmas, I would maintain the habit of making him go to the potty every hour and then slowly increasing that to 1 & 1/2 to 2 hours, etc, for the next month or two. If after a few months he still has the same problem, regardless of your efforts, maybe take him to the doc and have him checked for any bladder complications. Also, if you use pullups, maybe switch to regular underpants, because they tend to make the child more uncomfortable if they have an accident and more willing to tell you about and fix the mess. Good Luck to you and your son!

My twins, now 4 years and 3 months, are just now really getting the hang of telling us when they need to go potty. This has been a 6 month process with them. Boys are typically slower & later to potty train than girls. Yes, we hear about the boys & girls that potty train before they are 2 over a weekend but they are DEFINITELY the exception. My 2 1/2 year old is an 'early' (by my standards anyway) potty trainer. He is almost completely potty trained as well. I would suggest not to stress about it. Be consistent and it will happen!

My son was hard to potty train I tried rewards,positive affirmation everything, then I found out I was prenant and I didn't want both kids in diapers so I decide it was going to be my complete focus before I got to big to bend over and squat easily to help him. I cleared my schedule for an entire weekend. I took all of his clothes off to run around naked. The first morning was like having a puppy cleaning up after ( we kept him in the kitchen and living room where there is tile and did projects) I just kept encouraging him that as soon as he felt it coming lets go potty. Being naked he was very aware of himself. I put training pants on during the night and then started over the next morning. The next morning he was telling me he needed to go potty. It worked and at lunch time we put underware on he had picked out. He was so excited and didn't want to mess them up so he would run as soon as he felt it. The following week the only time we used traing pants was at night. I did the same thing with my daughter and it worked too. I don't think there is anything wrong than you just have to find what works for him!!

We had that problem! My son was just stubborn to the core!
Finally the Light came on and he did it start taking care of Buisness!
Hang in there it too a month for mine.

Maybe you should try just letting him run around in Big Boy underwear. When he wets himself run him to the potty each time. After a couple of days and a few laundry loads later it will click. That is what I did with my 2 1/2 year old it only took us 3 days and she is potty trained with no accidents during the day or night. The only thing is you cannot put them in pull ups so it is a little messy. She is still having some problems with poop, but I hear that does take a little longer.

L.,
When children are ready to potty training they get right away. Until then you are what I call parent training. You do all the work. Give yourself a break. There is no magical time don't let others tell you differently. Have you ever met six year old that wasn't potty trained?