Potty Training Help - Defiance, OH

I know it might sound counter productive, but I would recommend totally forgetting about it for awhile. It almost seems like a power issue now, because you are reminding her daily. Even though it is in a nice way, she still senses that it's something you really want her to do, and she can feel powerful by refusing. I read in a baby book one time to never get into a battle over food or potty training, because those are 2 areas where we really can't MAKE them do anything we say, and so they tend to really assert themselves in those areas. KWIM? Again, I know you aren't "Battling" over it, but really they are very smart, and she KNOWS what you want from her.
Anyway, that's just my advice. I think if you really let go of it, and don't even make tiny remarks or faces or anything, she will be able to realize her OWN desire to go on the potty. Hopefully that means she'll train very shortly after that. But at least, if not, you'll be able to make a fresh start.
Good luck!
Lynn

My sister just potty trained my nephew this summer and he turned 3 in July. She used a book called "Three Day Potty Training" or something to that effect. It was pretty rough, but by the end of day two, he was pretty much getting it. She just took away the diapers, put him in big boy underwear and went with it. It was a full on potty training weekend. He still has accidents at night on occasion, but for the most part is completely potty trained. Good luck, I'm really dreading potty training!

I agree with completely taking away all diapers and pull-ups. When children are physically ready (which I cannot tell from your post whether or not you have seen signs of this) then she will be fine to go straight into underwear. Please make sure she shows signs that she is physically able to control her bladder function, though, so you don't push her to potty train while her body isn't keeping up. Both of my sons did quite well right around age three (they were also holding their urine for hours at a time and showing clear signs prior to having bowel movements), when I told them that we ran out of diapers and I could no longer buy them for them. Good luck!

My son didn't potty train until 3 and half. The day care center he went to took them unpotty trained...even in the preschool room! They were completely wonderful. Although it was a private daycare only open to students that attended that college. (Or else I would give you their info.) Hang in there. They don't see normally developed Kindergarteners that aren't potty trained. We stopped talking about it and stopped pushing it and he did it all on his own. I did what you are doing and pushed and pushed. Within a week of me not talking about it at all he did it on his own. You are fighting a power struggle. Let her decide when she wants to go and she will want to go.

A.,the best advice I can give is not to stress about it. She will do it when she is ready. Sometimes if you push too hard they resist even more. My son first went "poopy" on the potty around 2-1/2 a few times and then showed no interest what so ever. We got him his own potty, pull ups, tried to bribe him by telling him he would get special treats. I did finally make up a potty chart that my sister suggested doing by about age 3-1/2 and each time he would go he would get to put a sticker on (sometimes of course he wanted to put the whole pack on) and we also gave him one for trying. By age 4 he was completely trained on the regular toilet-he didn't like the little potty. I did not have to deal with the preschool dilema as he will be attending now but try the chart and give her points just for trying.
Good luck

I, too, had comments from my mom. She tried to joke, but I still got her message. I started my son by telling him that I wasn't buying any more diapers. Everytime I changed him, I reminded him. It took almost 3 days to get rid of the diapers, & then almost 3 more days for him to start peeing in the potty. Pooping took longer & we tried LOTS of different rewards. It took awhile to find that one thing that he really valued. Your daughter has something, it will just take some time to find it. But, ut really can be all about control. She has it. Don't push it. Who knows, it may be that when you stop saying anything, she'll just go. This may not be very popular, but she doesn't HAVE to go to preschool, or she goes next year. I only say that, because I know that the harder we, as parents, push this issue; the harder the kids rebel. Just try to relax. She will get it. And, don't let any outside people tell you what you should be doing.

I know how frustrating it is to be in your shoes I was there almost two months ago. My daughter turned 3 in April and was just recently potty trained. Basically I told everyone to quit asking her or telling her she needed to do it and one day she just did it. She's been going ever since. Also, we bought a toy she loves and left it on the counter where she could see it told her she couldn't have it until she was going on the big girl potty. We also used M&M's which she loves it she tried she got 3 if she went she got 5. Maybe try that with her favorite things. I told her she couldn't go to school till she was potty trained. She loves it. Good Luck hope this helps

Hi A.:
I can't speak from experirence since we're only at 13mo. now, but here are two things I've heard from people having similar potty training issues.
1. One dad sent his wife and older son away to his in-laws for the weekend and created a 2-day potty event for his 3 year old son. They focused the entire 48 hours on using the potty, whether he wanted to or not. There were no distractions and he used big time positive reinforcement every time his son used the potty. By the end of the weekend, he was trained.
2. A mom I know used to leave her diaper off her 21/2 year old. He didn't like the feeling of peeing on his leg, so he naturally went to the potty when he had to go. A little messier approach, but she had hardwood floors so it was no big deal for her.
I hope something works for you soon!

My older daughter (who is now 5) started out beautifully with the potty training and then had a prolonged "relapse." All of the experts recommend NOT punishing for accidents so we decided to reward potty successes. We would give her one piece of candy for "#1" and two pieces of candy for "#2." We used M&Ms since they were small and didn't let her have them at any other time so that the "potty candy" was really special.

As for not wanting to wear pull ups or panties, have you tried having her wear nothing at all? That seemed to help with our girls in the early stages (there were a couple of messes to clean up at first). Since she's a girl, you can put her in dress so that she's not completely exposed and, of course, default to the diaper to leave the house.

Good Luck

Prizes prizes prizes!!!!! bribe her, at ehr age it has to be something she wants to do and enjoys doing, so go buy her a potty chair that she picks out and a bunch of little toys and stickers, whatever she likes, and if she goes she gets a prize. good luck.

Are you making the use of the potty a SUPER FUN activity? Every thing that goes along with going potty has to spark her interest and you have to be praising her like crazy! Never let her know how frustrated you are. Does she have the vocabulary and the cognition of going on the big girl potty? Sometimes children aren't ready because of this.

With my 2 kiddos, they went potty @ 2yrs. I rewarded their efforts along with their pottying with M&Ms. We would clap and dance, and make it as silly and as fun as it had to be. I would hang construction paper on the wall by their little potty, and as a reward too, after going potty, (even trying), they got to pick a fun sticker to decorate the wall with. Eventually the whole wall would be full of stickers and they were so proud of their accomplishments! Go shopping together and let her pick out her stickers.

About those darn pull-ups...Yuck! They give a false sense of wearing panties. They are actually diapers! She needs to know what it feels like when she wets her new pretty panties, and she may not like the feeling of it. This might also help her to know when she needs to go potty.

Hope this helps a bit
Remember to put a smile on your face and make it fun!
Don't worry so much about those G'mas...Let your daughter call them with the news that she just learned how to go on her potty, they can also dish up some praise for her!
K.

Hang in there. She won't go to college in diapers!

I think what you've got here is a power struggle. She knows you want her potty trained, and she knows she is in control of the situation. I would suggest two approaches.

First, back off for a while. Explain to her that she is a big girl now and that she knows where the potty is when she is ready to use it. Then, do not mention the potty. Once she sees that you are seemingly uninterested in her potty training, she might start to use it to get the attention.

The second approach is to quit diapers cold turkey. Explain to her that she is a big girl now and you have run out of diapers. Put her in underpants and do not back down. Try to sit her on the potty every half hour or so. Once she has a few accidents and sees that you are not resorting back to diapers, she'll realize how unpleasant it is and will use the potty. This might take some time, so block off a week to really dedicate yourself to it and be prepared to use some Clorox wipes and carpet cleaner. When she has an accident, do not show any negative emotion. Just clean it up and say, "That's OK, next time you'll make it to the potty." When she does go on the potty, make a BIG deal!

We tried both approaches, and what finally worked for us was the second. She was too smart for us and knew she was running the show. When we finally put her in underpants, it took less than a week before she was trained.

Good luck!