Hey :)
w my son (now 8) I used a sticker chart. When he got to 5 stickers (at frist I started w 2 and then move up to 5) he'd get one of those little dum dum lollipops. He hardly ever wet at naptime or bedtime. He was crazy easy, after all was said and done I'd say it took about 2 months (that includes getting him off the sticker chart)
w my daughter (now 3)we used the same thing,but it wasn't working as well. She needed an M&M AND a sticker for EACH time she went. Also, she noticed that her "yellow" is warm, so she would say "hot pee pee". She had signs of being ready and I tried, but it became a battle, so I stopped for while. I still kept her potty out and would ask her if she wanted to go. After a few months she seemed more ready so I tried agian and with sucess. Once she was finially going at day, she was still in "night-night diappers". When she staied dry at nap/bed time I'd praise her for it. At first it was only once or twice a week. Then when she started to stay dry most nights I'd let her choose between "big gir panties" or a "night night diaper". She usually chose the pull up. After a few weeks, the pull ups where "all gone". She fussed a little bit the first couple of nights, dh (he usually puts her to bed) would say something like "wow! look at your big girl Airel panties! Very pretty!" and then she would usually say "yes! wear Airel panties night night!" It's been a few months now, and she still wets at night sometimes. But it's getting better. With her, starting, stopping and starting agian and getting totally out of "night night diapers", it took several months. But with just the 2nd try, it took about a month and 1/2 to get her trained and off the sticker chart. Then another 3 or 4 weeks to get her out of the 'night night diapers'.
With both, I had 2 potty books, Once Apon a Potty and It's Potty Time (you can find them at Target). We would read those while sitting on the potty (well, I was sitting on the floor next to them). Also, we have a vhs tape "Bear in the Big Blue House" about going potty. I had a timer set so they knew when they heard the "beep beep" it was time to go "pee pee". Myself or dh (when he was home) would take them potty when we went, we'd say "oh! It's potty time for mommy (or daddy)!". Also, letting them pick out their own "big kid" underwear and their own "potty stickers" seemed to help. When they got the hang of it, I still give them a high 5, but wouldn't say anything about sickers or candy. If they remembered I'd give them a sticker or candy. After a couple of weeks they hardly ever asked about stickers or candy. Then when they went a week with out asking for the stickers or candy, I put it way. Also, when they were able to tell that they had to go, but didn't, I'd have them help me clean up their messes.
But I don't think I'd take her "big girl" toys away. If you want to do toys as a prize maybe you could use the sticker chart the way I did, for x amount of stickers she can earn a toy. Or you could take a photo of the toy, section it off. You can do it in black n white, so each time she goes she can color a peice and when it's all colored she has earned the toy. Or you can cut it in peices and she can earn one peice of the puzzle, paste it on colored paper, when the puzzle is completed then she as earned the toy.
Also, the pampers and huggies web sites have lots of good info about potty training, signs that they maybe ready, tips and hints and what not.
Good Luck!
