Potty Training HELP! - Fort Riley,KS

Each child is different and basically when they are ready they do it. My 1st one jumped right in earlty and was very easy, no bribery etc... Now my 2nd one startedat 2, and would go with a few accidents, then fall off and refuse. We went back and forths for close to a year then bang all of a sudden she just did it all. I followed my dr. advice and backed off, thats when she just strted on her own. He just told me all children are different just like we all have different personalities and capabilites. makes sense. Good luck

Honestly & truthfully, I think in your heart, you know that if she's trained everywhere else....then it must be a control/in charge type of issue. My older son did this with night diapers. He refused to give up the bedtime diaper until (in his own words, said frequently) "he could go to preschool like a big boy".

It drove me NUTS...especially when he wore underwear to bed the very 1st night of preschool...& NEVER had a nighttime accident until he was ill the following year. Talk about strong-willed! Good Luck.........

I used sticker charts. I just made a chart on a piece of paper and I think we did that after 7 times going potty he got a small gift. We did cars, a new toothbrush, new underwear, stuff like that. For going poop, I think he got a reward after 2 or 3 times going in the potty, and we did rewards like getting to go to McDonalds for ice cream and playing or going to the park for the day, or a little bigger toy. I know it is frustrating but you can't let them know. Going to potty in the potty is the only thing they have control over in their lives. So it has to be all their choice. We worked with my oldest for almost a year, and it went really well, but it wasn't until he decided that he was ready that he was completely potty trained. Some kids aren't potty trained until they are well past 3. Every child does it at a different time.

My advice would be to take a few days when you don't have to get out and about and spend them taking your child to the bathroom every 15 minutes (give or take. This will be inconvenient for you, I realize, but it will also be bothersome to her. It will interupt her play enough that she should then respond by independently going to avoid that interuption. From you description, it is a behavior problem and not a readiness problem. As for saying she's too young, your her mother and know her best. If she is giving you the signs, she's ready. This is the advice I would give parents who have a child that has regressed in their potty training so I hope that it helps!

My daughter is 30 months old. She will pee on the potty if we time it just right but if not, she just goes in her diaper and she hides to poop. My twins did the same thing. We tried potty training earlier when all my friends did and then just gave up. I don't think we even did pull ups for the twins and haven't for Caroline yet. When they are ready, they will do it. Once they figure out that they don't have to have a wet diaper, they won't. If you feel strongly about it, keep working on it. But, my advice would be to put a pullup or diaper back on her and wait until she's ready. Your still a good mom even if your 29 month old still wears a diaper :)

I feel your pain. My son refused to go poop on the potty at home. Then he spent an entire week at my parents without one accident. 30 minutes after coming home, he pooped in his pants. When I asked him why he was so good for a whole week at grandma's and wouldn't go on the potty at home. He responded, "I don't want to go at home". Soon after that, he decided to go at home too and we never had an problem again. I had tried everything from bribes, punishment, etc, and it was only when he was ready. I know this isn't much help, just wanted to let you know that other's share your frustration!

I suggest to my grandson who just turned 3 that we see the man in the hole or I am going to beat him to the potty, that it is mine. If you ask him if he has to go the answer is always no, But if you get him in there he does go. Tell her that there is anything that she is fond of in the hole in the toilet that she wants to hit. About the best that I can give. D.

She is NOT too young! Do not believe anyone who tells you that. In fact, I think waiting this long actually makes it harder because then they know how to push your buttons better. I have a 3 year old who is now mostly potty trained but she still has times when she just doesn't care so she doesn't go to the bathroom. My 20 month old has been training herself as she watches her sister and she sometimes does better then the 3 year old! What has worked best for us is just knowing the general times that she goes potty and asking around those times if she needs to go. She will usually say no and then run to the bathroom a minute or two later. At first, we had to make her go try but she is now getting it all on her own. I think she just gets too busy and distracted at home with all the fun things that she likes to do. Talk to your family and friends and see what they do when she is with them. Maybe they are doing something that you haven't thought of yet.

She is definately not too early to potty train. My daughter was fully potty trained (night time also) by 20 months. I wonder if she really knows what the expectations are and knows what she can get away with outside the home. I would suggest making sure that you are very consistent with the expectations at home, even if that means that you are right next to her all day long so that you can catch every single accident and taking her to the toilet every time. Hopefully she'll finish there. Make huge deals out of doing the right thing, get a potty chart and potty treats for correct behavior. My daughter stuggled with pooping on the toilet but she knew that she would get 2 jelly beans instead of just 1 if she did the right thing. I'm sure that you remind her of what she is to do when she has an accident...I know its hard to stay positive and encouraging after a while but try to be as encouraging as you can, reminding her of what she is supposed to do. I thought potty training was the biggest nightmare because it consumed all of my time for several days but the end result is totally worth it. You'll get there.

Try using an incentive...is there something she REALLY wants or likes? Something big...a doll or dollhouse, etc. Get it...set it out of reach but where she can see it and tell her that when she has gone to the bathroom like a big girl for a WHOLE WEEK...peeing in potty AND pooping in potty she gets the prize. Give her little incentives along the way (stickers, piece of candy, etc.) and tell her when she's doing a good job.

We've been going through the same process here...but mine is going to be 4 in Nov. She would do everything at preschool but then would come home and put on pull ups and poop in her pants...we finally broke her this week and she got a brand new doll for it. YEAH! Good luck to you!

In our first house we had squeaky bathroom floors, I mean real squeaky. It made the bathroom a little scary for our little ones and potty training had to take that into consideration. They were afraid of the noise so it made them not want to go into the bathroom. I decided to make a game out of it and we all went into the bathroom and jumped up and down on the floor to see who make it squeak the loudest. It took the fear out of the unknown and potty training went very well.

She apparently understands, that is not the issue. She may have a reason to be afraid of your bathroom. Maybe the toilet is really loud when it flushes, or maybe the floor creaks or the seat is slippery. What ever the reason, I would be more iclined to think she is having a problem with your particular bathroom than with potty training in general.

I might be wrong but it is worth some thought.