Potty Training Help - Marietta, GA

I have had the same issue of nakedness with one of my twins, they will also be turning two this month. I was doing the snap crotch thing but she managed to get the top down anyway. I then heard a idea and tried it, have naked time everyday. Set aside time before bed or before bath to have naked time. The thought is that if there is time allowed for being naked then they would be less insistant on being naked at other times. It has worked for us and the kids look forward to the time all day. Sometimes she still wants to take off her cloths but I remind her that it is not naked time and that seems to help. The other bonus is that it is easy for her to go potty when she is naked and has started training at that time (not other times yet). I am also not ready for her to train as I am in the middle of training her big brother. I also think that starting to train in the niddle of a move is not a good idea. They are so fixated on the move it is hard for them to do anything else.

If you, and more importantly your son, are not ready to potty train, then don't do it. It will cause more trouble than it's worth.

Put his dipaer on backwards and use the duct tape. You will not be the first to do so. My daycare provider told me she had a little girl once who took off her diaper during naptime and smeared her poop all over!!! She went straight for the duct tape, and it worked! You'll have to keep scissors on hand for when it's time to change the dipaer, but that's ok. : )

With everything else that's going on in your lives, don't make potty training such a struggle. Pick your battles.

Hi H.. I sent you an email about our home daycare stuff, but if we don't talk, I also had the 'bad-timing' but so insistent child (we had just moved, just started new childcare, and just moved to a big girl bed). Birkleigh was so insistent that she was squatting over the dog bowl to pretend, so we caved and bought a potty. She proudly went within the first day and the next went 3 times. She IMMEDIATELY refused to wear diapers or clothes. I think what happened was that she so wanted to be successful,, and so many books emphasize 'being done with' diapers. So it was all really stressful. Tantrums like crazy about using potty, not using potty, and absolutely about wearing clothes of any sort. So 3 months later, she is more calm about it, but when we hit this childcare crisis, I did what I knew I shouldn't and started to push it. She was almost completely there... was waking up at night to pee, getting all pees in the potty but somewhat resistant about bms, then kaboom. She started to backslide... refused to go and often stated that she wanted her diapers not her oh so fabulous underwear. So all I can say is this-

we had to live with lots of accidents and not freak out about it. We compromised... she could be naked at home, but had to wear diaper at nap/bedtime, and of course, when we went out. We started to let her pick out her clothes more (choice between one or the other, not the whole closet) , and since she was developing her ability to dress herself, this was very exciting.

The refusal and tantrums around clothes did not last forever (maybe a few weeks).

We tried, but didn't succeed, at not making potty time a power struggle. Now we've backed off and it's all fine.

We learned that B wanted to act out this stuff constantly, which tells us that even though it was all her big idea, it was really stressful. She would spend an hour using a cloth napkin, diaper, or any piece of cloth and diapering, and undiapering her dolls, alternately talking about 'you go potty' and 'let me change your poopy diaper.'

We realized that we might be excited about giving up diapers but for her it was a loss of something she knew really well. So now we make a very casual (sometmes the cheers from the audience were too much) comment of support when she goes potty, we let her choose to have 'diaper days' or underwear days, and we don't push the 'big girl' thing.

So maybe this will be helpful. I know we were freaking out about the whole thing when it happened, watching our kid go through this big crisis, and having day long tantrumming about clothes. But it passes.

One more bit of advice... you might want to roll up your favorite rugs or get a steam cleaner! :)

Hope to talk with you about care for the boys or if you just want to connect.

K.

Regarding Potty training. You should only try to train 1 hour each day.
Confine the training child with you in the bathroom, for 1 hour, or until they successfully use the toilet.. but no more than 1 hour, if they don't go.
Being naked is great as they wont want to pee on the floor or themselves, so the toilet is a natural place to go.

For urine training with a boy, I would put cheerios in the toilet and encourage him to try and sink the cheerios with his urine stream.

Have their father demonstrate how it is done and let the twins watch.
We Learn what we see.

There are some diapers/pull ups that let the child feel wet, that also helps encourage them to use the bathroom. Most paper diapers are so absorbant the child never feels uncomfortabley DAMP.........

Best of luck to you. For the child that prefers to be naked. Please tell that to your pediatrician. Not tolerating clothing is sometimes a symptom of a neurological disability, like Autism..... It doesn't mean your child is autistic, just explore how are his other social skills, can he learn rules yet, or does he try to communicate with you..... Best of luck to you.... My daughter trained at 27 months, my autistic son did take until 4.

My son turned 2 in october and he is not ready. My doctor says that boys are much harder then girls to train so I really am not worried about it at this point. He HAS however gone patty a few times in the big potty. He wants nothing to do with his little potty chair other then to stand on it to brush his teeth. My daughter was trained by his age, so that concerned me a little bit, but I'm ok with it now. Oh and my son loves to take his clothes off as well, and his diaper. I dont think that is the only sign that they are ready to toilet train. Just know that you are not alone in the world of training a 2 yr old.

Not quite 2 is kind of young for a boy to potty train. One day I just stopped putting diapers on my son and took him to the bathroom every hour. That worked, but he was 3 already.