Potty Training - Swedesboro,NJ

Some kids just have a difficult time and take longer to poop than pee on the potty. They can feel like it is part of them and putting it in the potty upsets them. It's not unusual for it to simply take longer for that stage to happen.

I don't understand it and I don't know how it came about, but all of a sudden, my son, who is also just about to turn 3 this month, went poopy on the potty and told me it was an alligator. Now we just say "hurry up and get that alligator out of there!!!" and he goes. He was the same way and wouldn't go at all, but after a few weeks of accidents, he's completely trained. (except at night when I put a pull up on - just in case) Good Luck!

My problem is just the opposite my daughter will not poop in her underwear or pull-up. But after almost 2 years potty training I cannot get her to stop peeing in her pull-up. What did you do to get him potty trained in one day.

Hi M.,
My advise is to relax. Let him continue to go in the diaper. In a short time he'll be ready. I learned with my son that you just can't push them. My son is now 8 and I had the same problem with him. We got him to go on the potty right before starting school! Good luck and remember to stay calm. They can pick up on your feelings and sometimes that can hold them back:)
Jen

I know it is still a step back but my suggestion is to go ahead and put the diaper on him but make him sit on the potty while he goes to start with. Then to make him feel a little better, try a tootsie roll. Not to eat. Show him how it falls into the potty when he drops it between his legs. Show him how it doesn't bounce back up and hit him. Maybe he needs to see how the poop goes from him into the actual potty. Maybe a small demonstration like that will help. Try to be patient. I know my younger cousin also had a hard idea with the idea of poop. She didn't like it at all and would hold it as long as she possibly could. My sister bought her the book "Everybody Poops" for her birthday. It helped a little.

I hope my suggestions are helpful to you. I know potty training a little one can be more of an ordeal for the adult than it is for the child. Good luck.

I had this exact problem with my son when he just turned 3 - and I had to get him more or less fully potty trained in a month because his day care required 3-year-olds to be potty trained. Anyway, we used LOTS of encouragement and positive reinforcement. First, we got him comfortable just sitting on the potty (because he was scared even to do that), we'd read books and sing songs and he'd get a treat if he could sit there a couple minutes without throwing a tantrum. Then, after he got the idea that sitting on the potty wasn't a horrible thing, we encouraged him to push and go poop and all that. we still did books and songs and lots of cheerleading, and it took a while (sometimes we sat for 15 minutes with no results) but finally one day he did it and got a huge reward. we called family and friends to brag and made him feel really good about it.
so that's how we overcame the fear. it was a long process and he had accidents for a while, but it worked. I'm sure you're doing a lot of the same things already, but maybe this helps a little. hang in there and try to be patient! Good luck!

umm thats the problem that i am having with my 3yr old daughter i mean she wears pull ups but she will use the potty to go pee but not poop she poops in her pull up i dont know what they could be affraid of my daughter will be lazy at times she will pee in the potty and also she will pee in her pull up i guess it have to take time i mean they will go when they feel its time i guess

Good for you, my 3 1/2 yr old still won't use the potty. So again we have to put that on hold since I can't control that aspect of his life.
As for poop, it is completely normal for poop in potty to come later. My girlfriend's daughter is almost 4 and has this issue. She'll put a pull up on just to poop. Her pediatrican said to cut a hole in the back of it and make her sit. Well that didn't go over well.
She still poops her pants, the DIVA that she is. LOL

Hang in there. I hope to brag my boy is out of diapers by summer.
~~N.

Welcome to the potty club - I am dealing with the same thing. It has gone on for months - we tried rewards, stickers, charts, then we went to losing prized possessions - cars, trucks - no luck. then we tried poopy prizes - no luck. My son has peed in the potty for almost 8 months, but will not poop. Our last tactic we are trying now before we pull our hair out. A friend of mine - went thru this - she ended up finally putting pull ups in the bathroom and taught her son that when he needed to poop he put on the pull up, pooped took it off and dumped the poop into the toilet - basically she relinquished the power struggle. We just started it so...I can't make promises, but it makes sense - the only thing I am trying to figure out is how to get the pull up off w/out the poop falling out - we'll see - good luck

My son will be three in early June. Just last week he was "fully" potty trained. For almost a month he would pee in the potty, but refused to poop. He would wide and poop in a diaper. Finally, I changed him over to big boy underwear and he pooped in his underwear about three times over three days. I allowed him to be in those underwear for about five minutes so he would know that poop in your pants is not a fun thing. I would ask him gently, "how does poop feel in your pants?" And he would say yucky, or he did not like it.

I told him that if he pooped on the potty he would get something special, like stickers, a small book, etc...something little to make him feel great for doing a good potty job. And we would make a HUGE deal out of it, doing a conga line up and down the hall singing, "Ben pooped on the potty! Ben pooped on the potty!" He was so excited. The next week, he was totally potty trained, even staying dry all night, dipers are bye bye!

good luck!!!

Hello congrates on getting your child to go on the potty.I am trying to get my soon to be 3 yr old to go , but his doctor says he will go when he is ready.So i am just waiting for him so that i can stay calm and he can to.
Now for your little one I had the same problem with my 5 yr old he started peeing in the potty at 21/2 but it took him to almost 5 to poop he kept asking for a diaper or pull up..Then one day I was so glad finally after so many times of trying he went on his own.So they will go when they are ready.don't stress

H.

My daughter did the same thing and when I spoke to the doctor, she told me to make it so it was impossible for her to hold. She told me to feed her lots of water, lots of juice, fruit, veggies, etc.

Someone else told me, which this I never had to try since the above worked, was to put fiber in everything.

Good luck, I promise this will pass and before you know it, he will be doing it all on his own.

My son did the exact same thing and was pee potty trained for about 6 months before he would poop in the potty. Just give him time and he will do it when he is ready. If you rush him he might revert out of stubbornness and you don't want that. Remember they all do things when they are ready.

My daughter has the same problem, only it has evolved. She was pee-trained before she turned two, but still won't poop. She's on meds now to make her go, and she will go on the potty, but not until we had a long fight with her holding it for up to 11 days. My only advice is to make sure he goes, no matter where that is. Make holding it a habit, soon it causes pain to go and makes them hold it all the more. Vicious cycle! We've been fighting this for a year and a half and she's been on meds almost a year, just to keep her going.