okay so we have potty trained my son almost completly now, he still wears a diaper at night. We finally got him to start going poop on the potty, and now he wants to sit and try to poop all the time, he will sit in there for an hour if we let him. When we make him get off he throws a fit. I know we aren't supposed to let him sit on the potty for that long. Has anyone else had this problem? Any Suggestions?
Why are you not supposed to let him sit on the potty that long?? It would be one thing if you were forcing him to sit there, but if he wants to sit there out of his own free will, let him! Give him a book to read, some toys to play with, and as much privacy as you can safely give him.
My son's #2 experiences are a night-time event. He almost always has to go when he is in the tub. So, after playing for about 20 minutes in the tub, I have to dry him off and he sits & sits & sits. He talks to himself, sings, yells for me to come over so he can tell me stories. I think I ask him at least a dozen times "are you done yet?". I usually let him sit there until he tells me he is done. I figure if he is taking care of business and he is happy, I don't see the harm in it.
I have a 3 year old, fully potty trained now. Her and I went thru this same issue. Everytime she would go poop in her potty chair, she would fight me when it was time to get off the chair. As we are lying here in bed now, i ask her why she did this, she tells me it was because she was scared of her poopy. when we were going thru this at that time, there were times where i would remove her from the potty myself which was usually a countdown... on 3 it's time to stand up and i would take the potty, dump it real quick so she wouldn't see it. i hope that this helps. think about pooping for the first time, wouldn't it be scary to you, ha! the first time my child pooped she said it looked like a puppy! i could go on and on about her becoming comfortable with pooping. just be positive and offer lots of encouragement!
Hi A.,
It's PERFECTLY FINE to let him sit as long as he wants to. There is NO time limit. If he's enjoying himself and proud that he's trying, why stop him. Let him have some books and toy cars to help keep him occupied if it will make you feel better. It's like taking a bath, there's no time limit. If they're having fun, you leave them in a bit longer. No harm done. Just PRAISE him for his effort!!!
we use a egg timer for a lot of things: time to get out of the bath, timeout, finish an activity etc...you may find it helpful to set the timer for 10-15 minutes...it was nice for our kids because it was the timer ending the activity, not us.
Hi A.
The number 1 thing I learned with potty training is NOT to make it a power struggle. I may be missing something but I don't think there is anything wrong with letting him sit on the potty for as long as he wants, as long as he is not getting in to troble in the bathroom or you don't have anywhere to go. I am sure he is proud of his new skill and is also a little worried he may have a accident. Good Luck T.
lol.. two things come to mind when I read this. First was is he afraid that he is going to have an accident in his pants so he wants to sit there to make sure he doesn't? He may not know the feeling that you get when you know you have to go poop and all that would take is time. Is he constapated so has that feeling a lot? With babies you can tell by feeling the lower belly for hardness, I don't know about older children.
The other thing is does he like the praise he gets when he does go poop? We do the potty candy during the training of my granddaughter and when she first started going poop we made a really big deal of it. She is too active to want to sit to long on the potty but if she knows she has to poop or potty she won't get down until she does. Sometime it takes 15 minutes or so but she seems to know.
Good luck.
