Potty Training - Paris,TN

Both of my kids did this. I think its a stage of laziness or going back to being The baby. Both both stopped after a little whle. Try not scolding but put him on the potty more often and when he does go , tell him how big a boy he is; maybe a small reward; or how proud you are of him. Hope this helps... J. P.S. My grandchildren like for me to read them a short book while they were sitting there.

It sounds like he is jealous and see that the seven month pees his diaper and you always change it for him. The 4 year old just might want that attention again. What you might do is when you change baby diaper. Take you 4 year old to the potty room and set down on the toilet and him on his and let him hear you going he might realize that is what he should do. Or just take him to the potty room and give him the attention that he be a good boy to go to potty too. It just a idea.

W.,

May be a reaction to the baby... Or it could very well be that he's going through a growth spurt. All my kids have had regressions when they are going through growth spurts - ya know, even my 9 y.o. had an accident when he was about 8 1/2 - in walmart - then he shot up two inches within a month and a half. That is probably it. Just stick a pull up on him and tell him to try to make it to the potty if he can. That way you don't have to deal with the laundry and he isn't being berated and shamed because of something that is *probably* out of his control.

Hope this helps.

Steph S. Mom to Asher (9), Evie (5), Isaac (2) and Oz (Due in May)

Good Morning,
I am the mother of 2 boys and I had a very hard time potty training my youngest son who is now 10. I know this may sound a little weird, but we made a game out of it. I would literally buy Cheerios (yeah the cereal)throw them in the toilet and get Jon to aim at them. He thought it was the greatest thing in the world. I found that it made life easier for him and it was not such a tense situation. The biggest thing is for you to be VERY PAITENT, as aggravating as cleaning up the messes are if you get angry that will make the accidents more frequent and he may go backwords instead of forwards. Anyway, good luck and God bless.

Don't give him nothing tile 7pm.And tell him to go to the bathroom before bed. ok

W.,
I am a christian mom as well. The only difference is my children are nearly grown. I have a son who is 10 now and when I potty trained him he wished to sit on the pot instead of standing. Do things that may make your son feel more comfortable. One thing I tried early on was to find something that he really liked but didn't get too often. That was his prize but the only way to earn his prize was to play a game of sinking one sheet of toilet tissue down to the bottom of the commode. Try it ya never know!

Strange but true..
My sister's son was potty trained and around that age started having accidents for no reason at all. She went to a whole food store. The lady there suggested taking him off of cow's milk - all products for 1 week to see if the accidents stop. Sure enough not accidents for a week. She decided to test the theory and gave him cows milk again for a day.. you guessed it accidents again. She now gives them goats milk and he has grown to tolerate cheese.

Just a thought many allergies can cause strange problems. Kids can develop allergies to things they have in thier diet alreaday?

Wishing you the best of luck!

This is very common. The best thing to do is not over-react. Most kids go through a phase like this, usually if something in their routine has been upset, or even if they are going through a growth spurt. Keep encouraging the use of the bathroom and try not to get mad at them. This too shall pass!

A lot has to do with feeling in control, even if that means wet pants or admonishment from you. I anguished and compared my daughter all the time to other kids even though I knew she would eventually get out of diapers.

She turned 4 and still cried for diapers. She knew the mechanics and thanks to lots of "gummi incentives" had peed in the potty on occassion but it wasn't until one day when we were at the playground and a kid teased her "I can see your diaper" that her attitude changed. A day or two afterwards that she was using the potty - though it took a gummi tarantula prize to get her to poop but it's been smooth sailing since then. We got one of those flip seats that go on top of the regular seat so she feel safe and a foot stool made her independant.

Just remember, it's always going to be something with kids and you can't get too uptight about any one thing. It's also hard because on one hand kids want to be grown up but on the other hand, they still want that one-on-one time and attention like when they were babies and you changed them. Don't under estimate the power of peer pressure either.

he might have a bladder infection

when i was little i would wet my pant without knowing it and it was because i had a bladder infection. my mom gave me cranberry juice, i can't remember if i took medicine or not.

anyway, it's something to look into

I'm definitely not an expert so don't take this as solid advice, but maybe he is having some jealousy issues with your 7 month old. Peeing in his pants might be his way of trying to steal back more of your attention? If this is the case, then getting him involved with helping you with his baby brother might make him feel better. My oldest son was always so proud when he was being Mommy's "big" helper once I had my daughter. You might have to go a little overboard with letting him know how great it is that he's such a big boy now. Then you can stress that big boys don't ever pee in thier pants. If all else fells, you might want to discuss it with his doctor to make sure there's nothing else causing it to happen. Good luck!

W. I had a hard time getting my son potty trained, what I did was everyhour or so I would put him on the potty and have him sit there for a few minuets at a time epecially after he had drank a cup of milk, and if he potted in his potty I would reward him with a treat. after a while he finanly got used to going by him self to his potty.

Hey , W. . Just wondering if maybe your little one might need to be checked out for a weak bladder , and there may be emotional things going on with him to . Sometimes children don't know how to express themselves, so they may urinate as a sign of something they may be holding in . Good luck :)

i wonder if his accidents have anything to do w/his new brother..maybe an unconcious way of getting attention..try involving your 4 yr old more w/the care of his brother..praise him when he remembers or has a full day w/no accidents..at four he has been use to having all of your attention and it is not unusual for him to act out ..make sure you and your husband have one on one time for your 4 year old..i know it is tough to work it into your hectic schedule but resolving it now will make going on to kindergarten next year easier

Ignore it as best you can and it will improve on its own. My son did this for a while. If it is for attention, the best thing to do is ignore it. It is is physical (he really can't help it), it's not going to help to punish him. You could just stick a pull up on him till it gets better. I just let me son suffer the natural consequence of having an accident without further reprimand. Whenever he had an accident, he'd have to stop what he was doing and get in the tub to get cleaned up. Good luck!

Regulate the times in which you allow you son to drink.

It sounds to me like he is reacting to the 7 month old. This is totally normal! Especially now since the 7 month old is now more active and at that "really cute stage". I had this problem with my 5 year old so I told him he had to wear diapers if he was going to act like a baby. He was so upset the first time I put the diaper on him that he kicked and yelled. I did it any way. I told him if he didn't pee in the diaper then he could put his under pants back on the next time he had to go potty. Sure enough that diaper stayed dry and the under pants went back on. This might not work for you but it sure worked for me. I am too am a Christian who stays at home with my 4 kids (and one on the way). Try bringing up boys by James Dobson. He has a lot of great advice. Hope it all works out for you.

This just doesnt sound like a potty training issue. My guess would be physical - UTI, or emotional - some change in his life. I would examine those things & talk to his pediatrician. If the pediatrician is not sympathetic beyond physical reasons, find a new one, he/she should be helpful to you as well.

He may be going through a growth spurt (physical or emotional-not ready to let go of little boy privileges) & need more 'mommy time'. It is hard to be compassionate when you are tired & thought that you were finished with a phase, but over loads of compassion go a long way. Maybe he senses you are ready for him to be a big boy & that scares him, or he's afraid to disappoint?

Good luck, hang in there~

My guess would be that it might be helpful to evaluate and see if there have been any changes in your life or your son's that might be causing him stress. My son (who is 5) went through a phase of peeing (in the toilet) very frequently! After I ruled out all of the physical possibilities we figured out it was due to the fact that we were about to move and his dad had already gone to the new location to start working. There is probably an emotional reason behind the wetting that you can help him with. I wish you the best!

My daughter went through the same thing recently. She's 4. I even had her checked for a bladder infection or UTI. Everything came back fine. Then one day she just stopped peeing in her pants as quickly as it started. I hope the same for you.
M.

Is there something in his life that is bothering him or some kind of change that has recently come about?
Maybe try sitting down and talking to him like an adult and asking him why he is wetting his pants. He won't be able to associate a problem with his wetting so just talk to him and see if you can figure something out about what is bothering him.... school, home, sibling, grand parents, change in home routines????????
It will pass I am sure.
Good luck