Potty Training 3 Year Old Boy

He will be fine. he is just having a mild set back due to the new baby. He will get back on track when he spend time with the older kids at the day care.

We went through the same thing with my daughter, who is 18 months older than my oldest son. She was almost completely trained before he was born, and then she reverted. Whenever he would get sick or get extra attention for any reason, she'd start to revert again.

She actually went to mother's morning out still wearing pull-ups. One day, she heard another mother saying that her child (who was in the same class) had just finished training and was wearing underwear now. The next morning, she woke up and announced she wanted to wear her panties to "school" that day. That was the end of the pull-ups.

Perhaps getting around other kids his age and finding out that they are wearing underwear will be just enough to help your son make that final step.

J., my little boy is 3.5 and just about there. I was also having problems, but I went on line and found this "on-line" book call "The Potty Trainer". It's written by a daycare provider of 20+years and has boys of own. She's got great suggestions. The one that worked the best was going to purchase a timer(cooking timer) and every 20-25 minutes, when the timer buzzes, it's potty time. We sing a little song and off he runs. he doesn't always have to go...but now, he goes on his own...he just like using the Potty Clock as we call it. I've already starting my daughter (16 months).
Go to : www.thepottytrainer.com You have to purchase it..but well worth it to me.

Good Luck !!

We are in the same boat. My son will be 3 in January and potty training was going good until his sister was born. Now we have a complete refusal to use the potty. He will ask for undies but then pee in them. He'll ask to go outside and "pee on the trees", to get out there and do nothing. From everyone I have talked to, they say it is a phase. Any change causes them to regress a little. Being that the diaper is the last and only remaining "baby" thing, he is holding on to it as long as he can. Basically, all we can do is be persistent and patient with our boys. I have my fingers crossed that they will come around.

The thing that worked for us was we would just let him run around in underpants out on our back deck. He would get all excited because he got to go outside. I know that most people cringe at this but my 2 1/2 year old is potty trained even at night. We just kept putting him in underpants and I finally told him a week ago that we weren't wearing anymore diapers. He has had a few accidents but he is doing really well and he is really excited because now he has a sticker chart for when he poops. I was all about bribing at the beginning but now he doesn't need candy he just goes.

Hope this helps.

Good Luck!
B.

It's very common for children to regress in their potty training when a sibling is born. My daughter did the same thing. What's primarily going on psychologically, is your child isn't sure he's ready to be a "Big Boy," especially when he sees all the attention, holding, and mommying that his baby brother gets. He still wants to be babied too. You can probably understand when you think about it that way.
With potty training it's important not to pressure. There's no need for it. Children learn to potty in their own time as surely as they learn to walk - when they're ready. If you let it be at his own pace, it will be his victory. It's one you need to let him have without any power struggles that will build resistance in him. I have taught a preschool class of the very age group he will be entering, and most boys in that class will not be fully potty trained, if at all. Any good day care/ preschool knows children need to learn about pottying at their own pace, and will let them do that. My mom used to evaluate centers for accreditation, and was required to withhold accreditation if any children were forced or pressured to use the potty. So go with what early childhood educators know and let him use the potty when he's ready. It's a big step, but it's got to come from him. If anyone pressures or criticizing you, tell them to back off - there are many good parenting books you can cite to support this decision.
Touchpoints by Dr. Berry Brazelton and The Baby Book by Dr. Sears are two excellent ones.
Good luck and God bless!
C. at Loving Hands Family Child Care

Both of my girls were potty trained pretty early, they showed some signs and interest at an early age, so I followed. One of the things I learned from it, which you may or may not know and i'm sure some of them are pretty common sense-

Always be positive, especially when they have accidents. If they feel like they're in trouble for having an accident, they will regress, alot.

Take them to the store to pick out "big kid underwear"

SO don't use the disposable training pants!!!
they are a waste of money and discouraging to a kid trying to get out of diapers! Think about it, would you see the point of using the potty if you were put in something that you really couldn't tell if you're wet?
It will be messy at first, but what I did at first was get the Gerber rubber lined pull up cloth training pants, and then regular underwear with rubber pants over and then nothing but the underwear. You have to ask if they have to go ALOT at first, and look for signs because when they are learning to use the potty they don't always like to go on the potty. All kids have slip ups, even years after being potty trained, but with positive reinforcement all will pass soon.
If you have any books about using the potty and being a big kid, that helps alot. The Bear in the Big Blue House has a really good movie about going potty, and when you're out, Babies R Us has a foldable potty seat that fits in a diaper bag. It was a life saver for our family, otherwise the girls would have never been potty trained because we were out so much!

hang in there, it is more like mommy training at first!

-E.

I work at a daycare and we take them as young as 1 to the potty - IF the parents request it. Every child is different. If you have your son in a good daycare, they should follow your request to take him to the potty every 1.5 hours or whatever is your routine. Maybe it will help him to see the others "going potty". The daycare may allow you to bring in "reward treats" for him when he does "go". Best of luck. Yours is a common situation but that doesn't make it easy for you!!

Hey J., My advice would be not to push it will happen when it happen. I have 3 boys my oldest took to potty training we never bought another diaper / pull up again. The middle son refused to go do number 2 in the potty so he would hide and do it in his undies so I figured it was easier to change a pull up after one of those than undies so I kept him in pull ups for a while to keep from trashing his undies. We finlly got that fully mastered at by 3. My youngest son was probably the most difficult because of all of the " help " I got from his brothers trying to show his the right way to use the potty instead of how mommy was showing him how to sit down and use the potty I figure and least lets get it in the potty and then we will worry about learning how to us the equiptment. Other than that and accidents at night and him being stubborn on some days you really have to use your imagination when p[otty traing boys let the " PEE " outside off the porch on the bushes the trees it needs water ! Pee on cereal in the tolet they love that. Make going potty fun !

This is completely normal for him to regress when a sibling is born. I have an entire packet of info I can send you on a seminar I have taught called Potty 101 if you want to email me directly with your email address. I am a counselor for preschoolers and parents and counsel parents on these and related issues all the time. I'll be happy to send you some info (free : )) - L.

The only thing I can tell you is be patient...we used stickers every time our son used the potty...it only took a month. And from then on for the next month we'd say "woo hoo" & give him a "big boy" hug...eventually he caught on about not getting the stickers but he was ok with that. Good Luck!!!

J., let him know that he is a big brother now and this is a very important step in his life, make it seem really important, and now its time for him to help in pottytraining baby brother, give him a big reward. He feels left out, involve him in taking care of baby brother and you will see the difference. (good luck)
cheyenne

I hear ya, loud and clear.

This is so common, from what I've experienced. They see all the attention the new little one gets, and figure acting out will get them the same primary focus back from you that they had before baby no. 2 showed up.

My daughter, who will be 4 in November, was doing very well with potty training as well before her sister, who is soon to be 6 mos. came along. Then the proverbial wheels started falling off the bus. Unless your daycare/preschool requires a completely dry child with no changes required, I've found that just temporarily, a little extra handholding is required to get my daughter through the hurdle of no longer being an only child. She currently has requested either my husband or I to accompany her to toilet visits before she'll go. If we don't, she will simply pee in her underwear. Pooping too!

Does your preschool/daycare facility know that you have a new baby, and that this is what's going on? And that your son was well on his way to being potty trained before?

I too am a 42-year old mommy of two. Where are you? We're in Cherokee County.

All my best. Hang in there.

E.

A new sibling is the issue!!! Poor kid! Give him as much "just the two of us" time. You may notice that with that extra attention he'll WANT to be a pleaser. I'm a peds GI nurse. Make sure his stools aren't painful. Watch for with-holding behaviors. Those could be reasons for the refusal. Have you tried a reward system?

L.
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