I worked for a company years ago, I started first and then my husband. After a few years I wasn't making enough to support our kids and family and I left for a high paying position. (which I was then laid off and now a SAHM). My old boss just called me to offer me my position back. I don't know if I want to go back to work yet. We talked about next school year when I had 2 kids in school all day I would go back but this is a whole year before we expected it. I don't know what to do. The extra $ is always nice but is defnitely not needed. My youngest is almost 10 months old and I have been so happy enjoying her and watching her hit all her milestones. If I go back I will miss the walking milestone (which I missed with my older 2). I have no reason to go back to work except to go back to a comfortable position that I knew well that has job security. My hubby told me it is my choice and decision. I know if I pass this offer up it will never be available again and if I decided to go back I would have to start in 2 weeks. I just don't know. I LOVE being a SAHM. I don't miss working at all, but there is this small part of me knowing this is best to accept it even though I am not ready to go back. Anyone else in this situation? Words of advice? (probably the wrong spelling - sorry know there have been alot of posts about spelling on here lately :P this was me trying to be funny to lighten this horrible feeling in my stomach hehe)
Thanks!
My theory on this dilemma is, you can always find some job. You can't ever get back the missed milestones or time shared with your kids. If it were financially necessary to go back, I'd say go. However that doesn't sound like your situation. I think you know the answer in your heart. Follow it!
I would not go back with a 10 month old.. I went back very part time when my youngest was 23 months.. I work 2 days a week.. and it is great balance for my family.
You can always work.. you will not always have a baby at home.
With 3 kids, going back to work full time even when the two oldest are in school may be premature. All the moms I know are very busy with 3 kids even when they're older. Your youngest is only 10 months. So you'd have to do daycare? I'm in the opposite situation - I work full time and want to stop now that my kids are starting to be in school full time. I now get so much grief from them for not being home after school, I want to volunteer more at school, I feel like they need me even more now than they did before, their homework will only get more complicated and need more of my help etc. I personally don't feel like I missed out on milestones. The first time I saw my kids walk was the first time for me. And everything was gradual anyway vs a big ta da moment... Anyway, if you don't need the money, I would say no. You enjoy what you're doing and I really think your kids are going to want you home more later than they do even now. Your life will get so much more hectic and complicated and the guilt will nag at you. If it aint broke, don't fix it...
If your husband lost his job, or was hurt and couldn't work how would you support your family, is there money in savings to support your lifestyle? Do you have enough money in bank to pay for college? I think if this is a good job that you enjoy you should take it. Maybe they'd let you work at home several days of the week. It's worth asking.
What is the horrible feeling saying?
I am huge on listening to my gut! If it's saying "bad idea, bad idea...you should be home"...then decline.
If it's saying "I want this, I want this"...then accept.
Don't think about saying yes just because "it won't be offered again"...as I firmly believe that if it's not meant to be then something better is in store!
Okay if you don't MISS working then don't go back just yet.
I have always worked my whole life, thought I'd go back 2 months after I had my first baby and I still can't make myself do it.
He's 2 1/2.
I would have missed all the milestones.
I applaud any mom that wants to work or has to go back to work.
But if you don't have to and don't want to then don't!
You can always get a job again once your 10 month old is older.
I would only do if you absolutely had to.
I can sympathize with feeling torn but like I said if you don't HAVE then wait awhile longer.
Hope that helps. :)
Oh so tempting, but I couldn't do it fulltime. Will they allow partime?
