OK so if life couldn't get any messier, (seperated over 2 years after finding out he cheated the whole time, waiting for house to sell, hit by drunk drivier last nov made me get a new car and lose savings, and the lsit goes on) I've been dating this guy that I absolutely adore for the last 8 months I've been happier with him and more in love than I've ever been) and we've used protection (the pill...religeously...i;ve never been so much as a minute late) and we pull out most times.....well this month 2 days ago I spotted a tiny bit (I wasn't supposed to get my period til last night though) well after the very light spotting on and off for 2 days it stopped...and now I feel like Im getting a cold (that nasty feeling of muceous dripping down your throat...ewwww) and neuseous....(which happened both times I was pregnant (1 misscarriage), which caused my extreme morning sickness...soo please pray that its all coincedence for me and that I get it today! I'm really freaking, there couldn't be a worse time in my life...I'm hoping stress is causing all of the symptoms...Has anyone else on the pill spotted a few days before and then got your period later? I've never had issues with the pill before, I was with my ex 8 years before we decided to try for my daughter and never had a scare....I seriously would be so detroyed if I don't get it, I mean i'm finally happy and insanely in love, and its way tooo soon (only 8 months) to even have this scare...ugh!
I do use the pill religeously and use back up methods if on antibiotics....I'm super cautious about it...I've never been late even a few minutes with the pill, never missed it, and use back up methods when on antibiotics...I've used it before for years and never had an issue, also my doctor said the pill is more effective then condoms
I got it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO i feel like being celibate now though...i mean i take all percautions but nothings guarnteed......but i don't think my bf would like that and i'd have to save for a carpel tunnel surgery if i went celibate
i would also take plan B...perfect plan. sorry this situation happened, ugh, i'd be devastated too! :)
Is the pill the only protection you are using? If so, whether you are pregnant or not, you might want to start using condoms as well. The pill has failed before. Better safe then sorry. And if your birth control does fail and you guys are using the pull out method his pre-stuff can get you pregnant. Stress can do crazy things to your body. Get a home pregnancy test and put your mind at easy. I really wish you the best in this. Even if you weren't planning on being a mommy, if you are pregnant I wish you a healthy and happy one. J. stay calm and remember that you have options.
Sometimes the timing isn't up to us. Your situation is exactly like that of my friend. She had tried for a 2nd child to save her marriage. Ended up not being able to get pregnant, saw the light and seperated. While she was seperated, and before the divorce was final, she met a new guy and within 2m of dating him ended up pregnant. That was not in her new life plan! She had the baby, and she is the happiest I've seen her. She and the new guy J. got married in January.
Yes if you are pregnant the timing isn't great, but I'm for one in that we don't control the timing of things. If you are pregnant, there is a reason (other than some protection failed.)
Hugs.
M.
First, I hope your period comes!!!
But don't wait too long...my advice is to do a pregnancy test, and move forward with that information. If your test comes back positive, it is too late for emergency contraception. You may need to consider getting RU486 to terminate your pregnancy. You know what you can handle, and it sounds like you are at or close to your limit, stresswise.
Don't make the decision alone, though...you should talk about it with your guy. You don't want him to feel trapped into the relationship, and you don't want to trap yourself into the relationship either. If you are sure you do not want another child at this time, you can opt for a very early abortion. If, on the other hand, this news makes you both look at each other and feel joy at the possibility, then maybe you can continue the pregnancy, and make a life together.
It could happen, as lots of things happen while on the pill. You can have spotting, breakthrough bleeding,etc. Usually though this happens if you miss a pill, or take it at the wrong time. Stress can trigger a period or delay it. It's possible that that was your period as well. Worrying about this will only make things worse. Take a home pregnancy test, which can detect a pregnancy 5 days before a missed period. Good luck to you!
Why don't you get one of those home pregnancy tests that is supposed to be able to tell you if you're pregnant before you even miss your period.
If it's negative, it'll help you relax and you'll probably get your period in a day or 2.
If it's positive though, I know it will be hard, but everything will be ok. I had an unplanned pregnancy- the timing was not good, and I was pretty stressed about it at first, but now I can't imagine my life w/o my DD- she's such a joy.
Best wishes!!! =o)
