Please Help Me to Understand My Daughters Behavior

What an unusual way of acting out. Maybe it is something that she has seen, you mention she know's what boyfriend and girlfriend are. I told my husband this morning that they are children and they need to test how far they can go and to see what respond it gets from you. If you respond in a negitative way then it has worked on her part. To try and reassure her that she is important in the family and what she does by making up stories and not telling the truth make you sad and has hurt your feeling. Instead she needs to help keep the family together and her part is very important.

Your daughter wants attention, she wants a dialogue, so give it to her. She is asking for it in a way that she knows how. How do you discipline her? When she starts singing that crazy song, ask her why she's singing that. She might be old enough to verbalize it and you can get some hints about what she is thinking. And don't forget to tell her the things she wants to hear ("I love you, you're wonderful, let's play a game.") at times when you're not in a discipline crisis. I think she might just want an affirmation of your love when she's feeling a little vulnerable.

S.,

Let me guess:

You discpiline your daughter for something where it's appropriate, she sings this pitiful little song, you get horrified, and tell her "no No No, of course we love you, and you're not a bad girl...." and the infraction is forgotten about in the process. She's playing you.

She just found an easy way out of trouble, and it works for her, so she's going with it. Why wouldn't she? You have to stay focused on what is going on, and not get distracted.

As for making up stories, all kids go through a stage of this. It's an attention seeking behavior. She says "Daddy's got a girlfriend at work", and all of a sudden, she's got your whole attention. Your job is to explain to her the difference between "make-believe" and using one's imagination, and dishonesty. It's important that she know the difference, and when flight into the not-so-true is appropriate.

i have an impossible five yr old. she is very caring and helpful but when i discipline her she yells that she hates me and it's all her fault. i try to calmly explain that even though we do things that are not nice they are mistakes that people learn from and tell her no matter how much she hates me i will always love her. i say this in a calm fashion so she has to stop screaming to hear me. it is a phase just show her it is not acceptable behavior and it will eventually stop. mine also lies/tricks as she calls it, but has learned the value of truth when i read the story the boy who cried wolf. so now so only "tricks" when she is being silly.

Dont always dismiss what your children feel than in time you might loose trust from her.Its not that you dont trust your husband but ive seen to many woman not keeping there awareness up than later in life everybody is hurt trust me ive been there.When it comes to my children ill find out from that person that my child is upset with if possable to appease his or her mind.One thing i learned the hard way is not following throughwhen it comes to my children.I love my husband i trust my husband but if hes wrong in a situation hes wrong if hes right hes right.

S., it's just a phase. Don't give her ANY reaction to these rather annoying behaviors and she will stop eventually. Kids her age think they are the center of the universe and think they have a lot of power. Often, that turns out to be true! Don't buy into it. As soon as she knows the things she says are upsetting you she will keep doing it...not to upset you, but to enjoy that power. I hope this helps. I've been there, my daughters are 10 and 13.

My Alexis will be 6 in 3 weeks. She sometimes says "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm ugly", and she says it over and over again, but only if she is not the center of attention. We always tell her we love her, and I'm 100% sure she knows that, I guess sometimes she just gets in her moods, and wants some attention, whether it is good or bad. She is almost always the center of our attention, but she thrives off of it sometimes.

About the little lies, she has them too. The other day, she said her teacher told her she should be in the 3rd grade (she is in kindergarten). I couldn't tell you why they lie, but they do. Now, if she said my husband had another girlfriend, we would have a problem, but Alexis is 1 year older than your daughter, and knows better that to lie about that. If I were you, I would have to question her is front of your husband about what she really saw them doing that would make her say that. Make sure she knows how important it is for her to tell the truth about this. Maybe you could tell her about the importance of this alone before you bring her in front on him. GOOD LUCK, K.