PLEASE HELP! 9Yr Old Daughter Being Teased About Her Mustache

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I was also teased as a child for this (and other reasons). As an adult (college) I tried bleaching, then waxing. Later when I had $ I did electrolysis --- but I still have it. You could talk to her about it and see what she wants to do. Maybe you could help her shave it for now -- after she understands that shaving isn't permanent and you'll need to keep doing it.

I am so sorry for your daughter. If you aren't able to use any of the bleaches and/or at-home hair removers, you might want to talk to her pediatrician about laser hair removal or electrolosis. I don't know if those procedures are ok for kids, but it might be her best option. I also have fair skin and dark hair, so I know how tough it can be to deal with. The laser and electrolosis would be good because it would be more of a permanent solution, so she won't have to deal with it as a teenager, when the teasing might be even worse.

Laser. Works on dark hair.

I know some will say she is too young but there's nothing worse than being teased and kids can be mean.
It isn't cheap for laser.

Also, it's really a myth that the hair grows in darker or thicker when it is shaved off or cut. The base of the hair is thicker than the end so when it grows in after being cut/shaved, it appears thicker but it's not.
I heard one doctor on TV state the best choice is to shave but you'd have to make sure she doesn't get stubble or she'll get teased even more.

its gonna hurt, but waxing will do it, every 6-8 weeks or so - i use sally hansen easy wax strips, they are pre cut, you warm them in your hand for a sec then do it - makes your eyes water.

probably get it done in a salon the first couple times.

i have used creme bleach also and that works well, you can still see the tach but its lighter so not as noticable, doesnt hurt either!

oh good luck to you and your daughter

Have you tried the at home bleach cream hair remover-it works.

OH, I feel for her! I agree with the other posters, take her to a salon for waxing. One thing you want to make sure of though, is that the person performing the waxing uses a fresh wooden stick after EACH DIP into the hot wax. Prevents the spread of herpes, etc. If the waxing is just too painful, definitely try threading like the other poster suggested. Just as effective, and a teeny bit less pain, in my opinion. Good for you for helping your daughter with this situation! Good luck!!

Hi J.. You are not the only one going through the peach fuss stage like my 10 year old calls it. She was very unhappy when she was being teased but with a little push of confidence her self-esteem is up and she doesn't care much about it anymore. She does have a problem with her uni-brow but I tell her that it's what is inside that counts...Let her know she is beautiful because if you don't make them understand then they wont believe it. Good luck and wait. She'll grow out of it.
Vicky

Waxing costs about 15 dollars at a GOOD salon every 2-3 months, and is (from my experience) definitely worth it. The area (in the beginning) will stay pink/red for a few hours, so it's best to do for the first time when you have at least several hours at home and an overnight to let the redness go away. When done correctly by a professional, it hurts less than a bandaid. My own redness disappears after about 1/2 an hour... but I've been doing it for years. Whatever you do, do NOT do it at home. Have it done professionally. <grinning> A fun thing, as well, is to look at the waxing "menu" that good salons have. The rather lengthy list of everywhere we women remove hair from is rather comforting. You may also choose to get her brows done (around $30). There's nothing more feminine (oddly enough) than a well shaped brow. It completely alters the shape of the face. She might not need it, but most girls with dark hair, tend to have rather heavy brows naturally. A good waxer makes the gentle arch look very very natural and follows the contours of the face. Another reason to have it done at a good salon. My mum didn't believe in waxing, oddly enough I got my brows don for the first time in bootcamp by one of the girls in my platoon that had been a waxer before she enlisted. The difference in my appearance was incredible. :) I've kept it up for the past 15 years.

The kids will notice that it's gone. A one liner response is best. Like "I'm growing up." no more, no less.

I am having the same problem with my 7 yr old...she said the kids are teasing her about her "unibrow"....how do they know what this is already!?? The parents teach them, that's how! Poor thing...I am trying to figure out what to do...she has brought this up now about 3 times in the last year. Should I try bleach?

I don't know about the permanent hair removal like waxing because the hair may come in even darker.

Try a gentle hair bleach for face in the beauty aisle. Her facial hair is completely natural but lightening is really all that is needed. To maintain it is like 10 minutes 1x per month, probably.

Hi J.,
I can relate a bit to this, my daughters hair is also dark and she doesn't like it one bit, she's almost 13 now so I've started waxing her facial hair. I can suggest you start working with smooth-away, it's like $10.00 and it works great, but the hair will come back as it grows out again. there is not much you can do to preven this unless you get it permantely removed. Kids are cruel and will always be cruel, give her lots of love.

hope it helps,
E.

Hi J.,
I see you have heaps of responses but I wanted to share... my daughter just went through the same thing last year. A pain of a boy even drew a happy face with a mustache and wrote her name by it. That was the day we decided to bleach. I've only had to bleach her about 2x's now since last year. I thought of bleaching because I always breakout with waxing. She is older now and beginning puberty and surprising enough her facial hair isn't that bad. Now her underarms that's another issue. We also talked about confidence and how to politely return a rude remark to defend herself. It worked she is more confident and can handle her own if need be. Good Luck.

You may have already done the test but I just want to throw this in...waxing, in my opinion, is quite painful. For a 9 year old girl it could be too much. Imagine having the hair ripped off your face. I know it's quick, but it still hurts a lot. I've never tried any of the others procedures, so I can't comment, but take her age into consideration. You don't want to traumatize her either!!
If you already did it, how did it go?

can u have it lasered off? try talking to a skin doctor..or waxing it? that would suck to be teased about that..kids can be so cruel..hope you find a solution

D.

I read some of the other posts, and want to say that I recently had threading done on my upper lip for the first time, and it was VERY painful. It's a very sensitive spot. The woman at the salon said waxing is much quicker and therefore much less painful. You might want to try bleaching first, though, or just talk to your daughter to see what she wants to try. I'm sure she'll willing suffer a little discomfort at this point. But even a chemical hair remover might be ok at her age. You could check with a dermatologist to find out. Teasing at this age can really affect a child's self esteem, so I think you should definitely take action and help her out.

Hi J.! I agree with the first 2 posters. It's important to her self esteem to get rid of the facial hair.

I recommend waxing or sugaring. It stings but the physical sting with go away, whereas the emotional sting of teasing from peers will remain, perhaps for a lifetime.

I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. Kids can be so cruel.

J.,
Please visit your daughter's pediatrician first. There are some medical conditions that can cause dark facial hair to grow in girls. I recommend that you get these conditions ruled out first; if everything comes back normal (and it probably will), then go ahead and try waxing/etc. Best wishes.

I used to pluck mine - it stays away longer and isn't as noticeable as it grows in. Now I shave it and am in the process of laser hair removal. It's expensive, but well worth it. I did my legs a few years ago and the hair didn't come back. I think it would be a good investment in your daughter's future if she's willing. It takes only a few minutes each session, only stings a bit, and pale skin/dark hair is the perfect combo for the laser to work best.

I know you had many posts already and said you were going to take her to get it waxed. just a suggestion.... do it on a friday! sometimes the skin can redden a little and it takes a little time to "cool" I would hate for her to have some redness in the shape of a mustache and then have to face the kids at school. Let's just say I am speaking from experience. Hope it turns out well. Love her and remind her how beautiful she is.

you can try the bleach they sell at beauty salons, it is harsh, but I use it. I personally can't wax it leaves acne like bumps, but if you want to wax, buy your own tub of microwavable wax to use at home. Its easy and cheaper and way more convenient than doing it at the salon.

Also look into "Threading" I have sensitive skin, and this seems to work really well for me. It is just as cheap as waxing.

I recommend "laser" (IPL) all the way. It isn't that painful. Your daughter, with dark hair on a pale complexion, sounds like the ideal candidate.

I just read through a few posts, and I began wondering. Have you thought at all about waxing it? I certainly don't claim to be an expert, but I would think that maybe it would be another option to look into. It's quick and lasts for a reasonable amount of time. During high school, I remember I had a girl friend who had the same problem. I don't remember the exact details, but I can certainly sympathize. You might try calling a local salon just to see what they can do. If that works out, I'd try making it a special mother and daughter event at the salon. Just my thoughts. Good luck.