I agreed to let my child stay with his father for awhile to see if he likes it before signing primary placement over. I don't want my child to make a decision he might regret or can't get out of if he wants to come back home. Do I need to sign placement papers right away or can we give it awhile to see how it goes? It is a big change for him with a new town and new school and being away from his other brothers.
I would think as long as you & his father are in agreement on the current arrangements there's no reason you can't give this a trial run.
You're doing the right thing to give it a try before you sign. Kids don't usually know what they want.
Trial run for sure, don't sign anything until you and your son are sure it is the best place for HIM. My cousin chose to live with his mom when he was about 8yr old and just a few months into it, called his dad crying that he had made a mistake. Unfortunately, the legal documents had been signed and there was no changing mom's mind at that point. He lived with her until he was 18, and spent summers with his dad, he always regretted that decision.
I know this reply is late but if this is something you decide to do I implore you to right down all agreements (no matter how trivial some of the terms may sound) with regard to your son and you both sign the document. Make a few copies in case you loose the original. You can always agree to amend the document as well. Make sure you both sign the amended document too. This way, you have protected your child and given yourself peace of mind, something you both may be very thankful for one day, whether you need to bring the document out or not. It shows you loved your son enough to protect him no matter what his father or his father's family may say. Yes, remember you might want to add stipulations regarding family if there are members of his family you see as "not" responsible enough to be left alone with your son.
