Permanent Birth Control - Edinburg,TX

Yes, it is normal. I am in my twenties and we are 100% positive, that we don't want more children. We have been told the same thing.

I had my tubes tied at 25 and my surgeon was hesitant. Long story short, I reversed my tubal ligation 3 1/2 years later and had three more children. I would never do anything permanent again. The side effects were terrible for me. Plus, my little angels are a huge blessing to us all. I can't imagine life without them!

There are so many options out there for BC. I'm allergic to most of them so I use the FAM. It can be annoying but no side effects. Good luck!!

I really can not help you with the birth control, but I can say my husband and I decided to do a vasectomy when we were in our 20's after our first baby was born. I regret that we did it so young and wish we could have more now that I am 35. One child is not enough for me and it has put a strain on our relationship. To reverse a vasectomy it cost 8,000 dollars and it is not full proof. Just make sure you really carefully think about your decision. Do not do what we did, we were so stupid thinking one would be enough.

It's normal of your OB, although most here just have the qualification that you've either had a child OR are over 30. Usually vasectomies are not a problem. I know men who have had them as young as 22 and quite a few guys who had them in their 20s after having kids. Usually as long as you'll sign off on it at the doctor's office, they're fine with it. You may want to check around about those. I'm not sure where Edinburg, TX is, but call around in some larger cities.

If your OB won't do a tubal, I doubt she/he will do Essure. It looks pretty interesting, but takes some time to become effective. IF they'll do that, I say go for it! If not, then you should get an IUD until you're 30, and do something permanent then. Good luck!

I had the essure procedure done in June and just had the three month dye test. It was really easy...my doctor uses a mobile surgery center that came to her office and did the procedure. It only cost me the $45 copay and $300 for the surgery center fee. I haven't had any problems and very little cramping after the procedure.

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S., There are many reasons for the doctor to take this stand. 1. you could divorce and then either of you would want another child with new person. 2. what if something happened to your little family unexpected-- you would have to go in for even more surgery to undo the process.
Having friends that have had to pay for this I can say it is expensive as well as draining. I have known a family that had a child die from cancer and they decided to have 2 more.
By the way-- my #3 child was born the day after Christmas( I held off going until the day was over so literally just after midnight)-- becasue I did everything I could when I started having labor pains Christmas Eve and they got worse Christmas Day. I was so young that I thought it would have been best---now years later I can tell you there would have been nothing better than having a baby on Christmas Eve orDay. We celebrated his birthday on Dec.6th with family and he would choose a time later so we could have a UNBIRTHDAY PARTY with his friends. At age 32 he feels it's all worked out and we got a picture of him in a giant Christmas stocking... So Good Luck and Merry Christmas!

I'm not up on the latest forms of permanent birth control, but I know the docs are "normal" in not wanting to do a tubal ligation on you or a vasectomy on your husband when you're that young.
Life changes. Plans change. I had one child with my first husband in my 20s, then had 2 more with second husband in my 40s. You and your husband could decide at 35 or 40 that one more baby would be a great idea! I had a doctor grill me thoroughly before a tubal (which I had), and I was 42 with 3 kids!
So look into those forms of birth control that last for 5 years or so and evaluate your options later. I think you're very young to make permanent decisions. You're not wrong in planning, but keep some options open.

I am not surprised by your Dr. not wanting to tie your tubes because of your age. Believe it or not, it has not been too long where a woman had to have her DH permission to have her tubes tied! But, if the Dr. won't do it, find another Dr.

You're supposed to be over 30 or have 4 children to have either procedure done. Now some doctors will do them sooner if you're adamant.

My husband had a vasectomy at 25, but we had four children. We don't regret it in the least. (Sure we have our moments of wishful thinking, but we're glad we're done!) I just wanted to assure you that this is perfectly normal.

Your doctor is wise. As we all know, the plans we make at one point in life have a way of morphing into something else as life blesses and batters us. Like you, I knew I only wanted 2.5 kids (have two and keep trying for the third...but never get it, as my husband likes to say) and would've happily tied my tubes after my second baby was born. But, we decided to wait until my baby was 4 years old, just to make sure.

Still, even at 32, my ob/gyn waited three months before agreeing to tie my tubes. We went in for two extra "counseling" appointments with her, just so she was comfortable with our reasoning and our choice. Why? Because it's very difficult to reverse (plus, insurance won't cover a reversal). Better, she said, to make absolutely, positively sure. But, once it was done, we've never looked back or had any regret.

So, in the meantime, I went back on the pill. I was comfortable with it and the options weren't as vast as they are today.

Take your time; really think about this. If you're as committed to the idea at 30 as you are today, go for it. Your ob/gyn will appreciate your constancy.

Good luck.

1. yes 2. yes 3. i vote vasectomy! i told my dr that my hubby was having heart trouble when i was preggers with my second. i am thirty and he tried to tell me i was too young. i KNOW i do not want to carry another child. its HARD on me! i finally convinced him to do a tubal ablasion or what ever its called. i should have never done that. i am crazy hormonal, my period is extreamly heavy (never in my life has it been like this). i get sick every month. its not ok. read up as much as you can about the side effects on tubal what ever your going to have done. i opted out for the other forms of birth controll because of my stand on abortion. i dont want to get rid of a fertalized egg. to me thats a life. just wanted to throw that in there incase you werent aware. i am not judging any choice you make and what is best for you ... fyi. good luck. let us know what you finally go with and how it works for you.

Yep, totally normal. We wanted to have my tubes tied when #2 was delivered via c-section, but my doc was concerned we were making a rash decision. She asked us to revisit the idea in 6 mos. Well, 3 mos after #2 was born we found out I'm pg with #3 (SERIOUS GASP!). The first appt with her for this one, we were very clear that we are DONE and she will be tying my tubes this time. I was 29 when #2 was born and will be 30 with this one, though I'm not sure if that one year made the difference.

I agree with the other posters that circumstances change and you may change your mind later. My aunt & uncle were so sure they didn't ever want kids at all, but when my grandfather passed, they changed their minds and I now have a cousin 20 yrs younger than me. Granted, it is different when you already have kiddos...

Regarding Essure- I did check this out last year. Essure & vasectomy both take about 6mos to be fully effective as the tissue heals. I decided against the Essure b/c I have very odd chemistry and with my luck I'd have a reaction to it. I had considered getting an IUD as something I wouldn't have to worry so much about, but decided against it for the same reason.

BTW... My oldest son's bday is 11/25, which was Thanksgiving Day that year & again this year, mine's 12/1, Baby #3 will be 12/14, and #2 is 12/28. My two bros are 11/19 & 12/27, I have a niece that's 11/12 and a cousin who's 12/11 so it's a big joke about our family & holiday bdays... it all works out! My parents were great about keeping all of our bdays separate from each other & the holiday (my sis's is right near Easter too), and we're trying to do the same with our kiddos. We'll see how well that goes moving forward as this will be the first year with the 2 little ones... LOL

The age part is normal...I heard the same thing!

I don't know about vasectomy, but I think it's fairly normal for a doctor to not want to tie tubes on a 26-yr old unless there were a medical reason for ithere to be a need to be certain this was your last baby. Perhaps you could look into IUDs...they are considered ideal for women who have had children, and are pretty certain they don'y want more, yet don't want something as drastic as surgical sterilization.

If your tubes are tied and circumstances were to change such that you wanted another baby, it would be a major deal to try and reverse the tubal ligation. If you have an IUD, it's as simple as removing it at the doctor's office.

I have a friend who is about 25 and had the essure procedure and loved it. She said it wasn't very painful and she feels great. She only had two kids so I know some docs will do it. Of course her hubs has a daughter from another relationship, so I guess they do have three. Anyway, I think vasectomy is good because I have some good friends who had a vasectomy reversal and now have three kids, the guy had it done before they were married. So that way you would be covered and not get pregs but if somehow you did want another at some point you would have the option to reverse it and try. Good luck!!