Hey Sweetie,
I won't tell you what you should do, but I will add my voice and my story to the many others whom you have spoken with.
When I was considering getting my tube tied many women told me not to do it for most of the same reasons you've already mentioned. One woman even gave me statistics. I wish I could remember what they were exactly and from where she obtained them.... but they went something like this... 70% of all women who get the their tubes tied end up with a hysterectomy, most within the next 10 years. I certainly didn't want that but I felt I had no choice.
I was thirty years old and pregnant with my seventh child when I made the decision. You see, you are lucky. My husband refused to have a vasectomy and so I felt I had no choice.
Once I had my tubes tied my body was never the same. Before, I was like you, healthy and ultra regular, not much cramping, not a heavy flow. After it was terrible. I developed fibroids, (non-cancerous tumors)and polyps. By the time I was forty I was only NOT bleeding about one week out of the month and in a lot of pain. And so, I became another statistic and had a hysterectomy ten years after tying my tubes.
Doctors will tell you this is all just wives tales. But then, doctors get paid to perform the surgery! Do some research, hit up some alternative medicine sites. The sites run by doctors will say the same thing... no side effects, no problems, yadda yadda yadda. Here's one discussion I found http://www.tubal-reversal.net/post_tubal_ligation_syndrom.... It will help you to know both sides of the story and kudos to you for reaching out to other women here on this site!
All said and done, if your husband is willing, the surgery for him is much less invasive. You are lucky that he is willing and what a wonderful gesture of his love for you!
Love and light to you!
L.
Author of Rated:TEEN An Awakening Book for Serious Minded Teens
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