Part 2 of Your Weakness = a Balanced Solution

I have to say, I don't really like your characterization of a 'vice'. I am sure everyone has something they would like to do better at, learn more about or work on personally. But that doesn't mean they have a 'vice'- something actively harmful to themselves or others! I think even by starting off with that mind-set, you are already beating yourself up as a 'bad' person with a 'vice'. Beating yourself up and lowering your own self-esteem is not going to help you to work harder on a goal or find inner strength to face a personal challenge. Personally, I have some goals for things I want to do better at, but I don't consider any of them 'vices'.

i think i am going to check out Joyce Meyers... i never heard of her. I am afraid of big crowded places...and being closed in...like a mall. You are closed in.. it's crowded... its big. I've gotten used to going to the mall i just stay away on weekends.. or near the holidays.. I still haven't conquered an airplane.. i am so afraid .. to be closed in, the busy airport..., and then to go places away from my home and places i know. I don't like to go to a new place or a party if i son't know who will be there, what to expect... if my family is with me, it's a little better. My one dream and wish is to get on an airplane.. for my sake and for my family I have been told these symptoms are like agrophobia... I hate living being afraid... xanax helps somewhat... say a prayer that maybe this winter we will fly... allie~~~ p.s. good luck to us all!!! :) smiling helps alot!

I'm a smoker. I hate it, my husband hates it. I try quitting just about every day. Ive gone 2 weeks before (thats the longest) and then start again and feel even worse for being so lame and weak. I have not yet found my solution obviously.

Actually, I think I need counseling to attack some of my weaknesses!!!

For me, talking things through, and having someone combatting my unhealthy or faulty thought processes helps me immensely. The problem is I don't have anyone to do this for me on a regular basis, that could be completely objective. That's where the counselor comes in.