Parents Who Were Only Children Having Onlies? Adoption

I am an only child. Yes, there were benefits when I was younger but now that I am older, I really and truly wish I has a sibling to help... with all facets of life especially with family dealings. I always said that I would never have an only child... God assisted me with that and blessed me with twins. We are actually considering having a 3rd. My husband's family is very small... and mine is very small so I feel that my twinkies will have even more support as they grow older with yet another sibling. I would never advise someone not to have children or to have children - that's a personal decision. Keep on holding on for your new child from China. I am sure once the process is complete and you have a little darling, it'll all be worth it especially to the little one you are adopting. Good luck to you.

Hi!
I am an only child of an only child and I have 2 children. After this past year when my mother passed away I became responsible not only for her estate, but also her 93 year old mother (my grandmother). My views on being an only child of an only child have really come to light this past year. It would have been helpful if my mother had a sibling or I had a sibling to share some of the responsibility with. I would never advise someone not to have children or to have children - that's a personal decision. My situation is unique, but because of it I'm grateful that my children will have each other to lean on in difficult times. I hope this can be of some help. If you want to talk, let me know!

Meant to send private message...here goes. :)

B.,

My husband is an only child and very well-adjusted socially -- though he admits he felt lonely when he was a kid. But, as he's watched me and my brother (to whom I am very close) work together to take care of our ailing mother, David now has some regrets that he will have to face that situation with his own parents alone. He's understandably apprehensive about the time when he'll eventually have to shoulder all that responsibility by himself. Also, he tells me that as an only child, he used to worry all the time about being left on his own if something were to happen to his parents.

His perspective has made him more interested in adding another child to our family.

But, as others have pointed out, only you can make the best decision for your family. Good luck!
D.