D.D.
Dear M.,
My children are older now (12 yrs boy and 8yrs girl)but oh how I remember where you are at right now. I can tell you what worked for me and maybe you can adapt it to fit your needs. When my son was a baby my husband was away with the Navy and I was quite young but I quickly realized that I could not take care of him the way I needed to without getting the consistant rest I needed. What I started doing very early on was not pacifying. Meaning...I did not jump right up and give him what he'd lost (binkie, blankie or other comforts). It may sound cruel at times when you hear them cry and don't respond right away but trust me...its harder on you to hear than it it is for them. While you are not getting much rest now it is a good time to try waiting it out. There is no harm in letting the baby fuss it out some without giving something to pacify. It could take a few days or weeks but each time you try (and time it) the baby will fuss less and less and before you know it he or she will be able to comfort themselves because they'll know that when its serious and they really need you you are right there. The first time you get a decent nights sleep you'll be happy you tried this out. Sometimes the baby can fall out of the pattern either from new surroundings or maybe having had a cold but be steadfast and you'll be a better more relaxed Mommy with the rest you need. My son had a bed time of 8 and then I had time to regroup for the next day! Its a wonderful thing and my children both love there sleep to this day. They had wonderful bedtime routines and still do! Give it a try and let me know if it works!! Best Regards, D.