I have a 3yo daughter that loves to play with others, I have noticed when she plays she becomes very aggrasive and excited, it goes to one extream to the other of being to rough or constantly hugging other children when they don't want to be, is this normal or should i be concerned that she is not going to calm down and be able to play normal
look up information about sensory integration issues
there are lots of great activities you can do before and after these outings which may prove helpful
A. G
I think it is very normal at this age. My 3.5 year old is like that often. I just try to explain to her that she needs to calm down so she doesn't scare or hurt other kids. She's getting better and I'm sure your daughter will too!
I've known a few people that have had a similar problem. Someone already suggested looking into sensory integration. Is seems like a fairly good idea. However, it may be as simple as getting excited and forgeting that others don't have the same impulse to express themselves as she does. Teaching your daughter that sometimes people aren't ready to get so much loving attention. Some times it overwhelms others. Teaching her (over time) to learn how to read the subtle indicators of when they have had enough or need more space could benifit her in the long run. However, right now she needs to know there is nothing wrong with wanting to show how she feels but give her other ways to express herself that are less overwhelming.
That is SO funny... My almost 6 year old Daughter does the exact same thing when she greets her friends. Her friends do it to her too. In fact in Kindergarten about 3 months ago a little girl hugged her so hard that it gave my daughter a little whiplash for about 3 days... she couldn't move her neck or get up easily from a laying down position. I have explained about being gentle soooooo many times. When I see it coming I call out to her and remind her to be gentle. More often that not she is... but the kids also try to pick each other up which drives me crazy. Just explain about personal space and gentleness... It's all you can do.
No your not over excited. I don't want to scare you but i have a son who acked the same way. He was diagnosed with having ADHD. Not saying your daughter has it but sounds like your are describing my child. Just constant reminders and lots of attention that's all they need. For my son he had to take medication which i didn't approve of. Play some games that would include body space; like maybe duck,duck goose where everyone has to spread out etc.. Keep reminding her that everyone needs their space including her. Good Luck!
Normal is a word that really doesn't relate to little kids! They are all very unique.
I have 2 kids ages 5 & 6 and they both went through this stay at about the same age. I just think that kids go through different ways of showing affection. It's all in there personalities. You just have to make sure that it is a nice way, but not worry to much. Once she learns how to communicate more by talking it will change.
just try to remind her that not everyone would like a hug. if it continues try separating her for a few minutes to calm her down a bit then let her go back to playing
My son at about used to hug everyone as he greeted them, then after about 6 months he "advanced" to pushing everyone as a greeting. It feels like you are constantly nagging, but consistency and sometimes removing them from the situation works. He is now 3 and moved on to bigger more aggressive things. Ugh. Good luck.
My sister was the same way. Her kindergarten teacher told my parents that she was 'bossy' at the first parent conference they went to...=) The thing to remember is not to overreact. Some of it will selfcorrect with more contact with other children. When she is playing with others and you notice the behaviors you don't approve of, ask her how she would feel if someone did that to her.
good luck
R.
Your daughter is very normal. But she could use more explaining how to play nice as kindergarten is coming --- Our grandaughter use to jump up on guys in 8th grade hugging them as she always had done... I was agast! Then I found out she treated and still does as her good like brothers! -- Unbelivable - and now graduated and teaches BALLET!!! She is a nice pretty gal.... I'm so predjidice --- Best wishes ..... Fran
Everything has to be taught - you will have many opportunities to guide her, with love and your own behavior and standards...use stories and clear explanation / examples.
