Out of Control 18 Yr Old Daughter with a Daughter Help!!!!!

How do you feel about offering to keep your grandaughter for awhile? That way you can keep her safe and give your daughter tough love.
Under no circumstance should you take her back in. And that should be the general practice of the family. She needs to get her act together, and as long as she has enablers, she won't.

If you're genuinely concerned about you grandaughter's welfare, a call to child services might be the best thing you can do for both of them.

Sit down. Write down what the minimum you require from her for sanity if she is in your space. And it has to be concrete. "Be respectful" has no specific meaning and is useless to this exercise. It should include things like "No one will be coming and going from the house between midnight and 4 am unless x amount of rent is being paid and you are paying for and only consuming your own food. Requests to babysit will be made x amount of time in advance, or generally turned down. You agree not to be grouchy or nasty about refusals at the last minute" etc. Whatever it is that is your absolute literal bottom line. Write it down as a contract. If she wishes to live in your house, she agrees to that contract, and any consequences written therein for failure to comply. You agree that you will give her 48 hours notice to leave, and if she fails to comply you will notify the police, etc.

You also say in writing that you are willing to assume full custody of her daughter and will get a lawyer to arrange the paperwork for her if she wishes, or if she cannot find acceptable and consistent living arrangements for them. If she chooses not to turn over custody, and appears to be homeless, you will report the situation to to CPS to ensure safety of the children.

Don't get exciting, don't argue, don't back down. She's an adult and can comply with the terms of agreements she signs, or find a new place to be.

i would call cps and see what they think. open your door to your grand babies but not her if she cant respect what shes told. she should see a dr and possibly talk about medication to help her out a little.

So sorry to hear about that. It appears you daughter is really stressed and doesn't have a life plan in place or a goal for starters. Can you try to sit her down and explain how much you love her and also explain that you really want to help her and her children but it's a "give and take" situation? Otherwise I think a support group for all of you is in order or to visit a home that takes in mothers with children that don't have money or a home that help women get back on their feet. I would probably first contact one of those type of places and explain your story to them. Best of luck and to your family.

I would keep my door open for my grandkids, but tell the daughter that if she can not be respectful, she is not welcome, plain and simple.

What exactly is her problem? Alcohol, drugs? Just spoiled? What? There has to be more going on here. Where are the father(s) of these kids?
If it's an issue of being a spoiled, ungrateful brat, then tough love is in order. If she's homeless, you can get custody of the girl(s).
If you think drugs/alcohol are involved, you need to involve CYS right away as well as get yourself to an Alanon meeting.
Best of luck!

she needs some help, from professionals. She needs to get her life in order, most likely go to school and get a job. Maybe you can take the grandkids for a while so she can get a plan in action.