I feel terribly guilty. His fault for leaving it open but I grabbed his ipad and was going to log him out and myself in. My son ripped it out of my hands and I inadvertently must have touched the friends icon and decline. I feel awful. Not sure if I should tell him though. I have never kept a secret before so this would be a first for me. Anyone know how to see who they were then I wouldn't feel so bad that it happened and no secret either.
Yes this was totally innocent. I wasn't being snoopy. I was trying to log him out since it was still on him. The touch screen is very sensitive and it was a freak thing that it happened.
I told him and I am relieved that he is ok with it, I guess I got myself all worked up for nothing. Now time to go make myself some relaxation tea. Thank you everyone.
glad you didn't keep it a secret. it seems a very minor thing over which to breach trust.
khairete
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Why all the "guilt" and sneaking around? Just tell him what happened, I don't know why would he even care.
Unless he's super controlling, or you have actually something to feel guilty about...?
I don't know why you would even consider trying to keep this a secret! What about this is worth that??!
Just tell him what happened and if he wants to look up who it was, then he can. He may not even care.
I just am not getting the keeping it a secret. That really bugs me. Are you sure you weren't really snooping on his account and accidentally did that? Because I don't see the big deal if it was as innocent as you say it was.
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Didn't mean to sound accusatory. I am just baffled as to why this was such a big deal. There are only a few reasons that stand up to reason, as to why you would think it was a big deal: a) you were snooping (you said no, so...); b) he is the type to go off over nothing (and this really was nothing, unless there are trust problems in your marriage), but he didn't, was that a surprise to you?; and c) your son "ripped it out of" your hands. Now, "c" ...I think that is something worth having a talk about. Your son is old enough to know how to be careful with expensive electronics, and has more respect for you than to rip things out of your hands, right?
Not sure what really happened but if you are trying that excuse out, it won't work. Unless you already had the friend request drop down open there is no way you could accidentally delete two friend requests.
Why wouldn't you tell him? Seems like a dumb thing to break an honesty streak over.
This is easy to fix. First, make sure you husband wants to friend them. If so, just send them a friend request along with a message saying "So sorry I accidently lost your friend request - my son was messing with the ipad" They will understand.
Just tell him what happened, that's what I'd do. What is there to feel bad about? It was just a mistake, why would you feel guilty, why is this even a big deal?
sounds like a dumb thing to worry about. Just tell him what happened. My husband would probably roll his eyes at me, but he also knows the kid knows how to use the ipad better than I do.
Definitely tell him, it was an honest mistake.
Depending on how his settings are organized for his account, he might have also gotten emails & notices of the friend requests, that would allow him to look up the people who requested & extend to them.
iPads can be so dangerous with the touch screens, I've made oops'es a few times myself!!
If it's no secret, why are you asking here instead of just telling him? I'm confused.
Next time you see him, just say something like "Oh, hey, honey, you might want to go on FB and send friend requests to so - and - so. I accidently deleted their requests today. Don't want them to think you were dissing them."
Don't make a big deal of it and he won't think it's a big deal. Because it isn't a big deal. That's my strategy. Never tip-toe-on-egg-shells unless you want it to become that kind of situation. :)
BTW, this happened to me the first and only time I forgot to log out of FB. DD sat down thinking she was on her own page and sent friend requests to like a hundred people I don't even know. Then she deleted a ton of my friends, because she didn't know them and didn't remember friending them. Sometimes that girl isn't too bright.
Tell your husband the truth. He can decide to 'friend' them or leave it as-is. i doubt he would care (I know my husband wouldn't care, but I would tell him so he knew).
I thought you have to click on each friend and reject ('confirm' or 'not now' are my options). I did not think one click would do it (inadvertently or not).
Guys, maybe there is a reason she felt badly about it. Not everyone's relationship is like your own.
Boy, everybody's giving you a hard time for this one. I'm glad that it worked out. If it's any consolation, I get the "freak accident" nature of it. Those darn iPads and the little fingers of a toddler. Stuff like that could easily happen at my house.
In fact, my husband and I are in and out of each other's FB accounts for various reasons. Sometimes, there will be a funky glitch that has one's log in name in the corner and the other's home page. We have to just log out completely and go back in. When we were first getting the hang of it, we were unintentionally responding as each other all the time.
I don't understand how you did that by accident. I went into my facebook and the only way to delete a request is to use the drop down to see who it is and then click delete. If it was a 1 step process on the screesn, I can see an accident for 1 name maybe.
I'm not saying you were snooping but I wouldn't buy that excuse if someone said they did that to me.
I see your SWH and it is good that you were on the up and up with hubby and he is aware of the "accident".
Good luck and be careful with touch screens from now on.
I don't know how it is on a tablet but on a laptop at the top left it says:
Facebook. To the right of it if you 'click' on the shadow of the two people it will show you all friend requests.
